O/T friends hen night

I would explain that you can't afford the over night thing. I think she'll be fine.

I think she'll be fine too. I think it's completely unreasonable to expect people to pay out that sort of money, when so many people are struggling to make ends meet at the moment. Attending the wedding costs alot anyway.

I recently organised my friends hen do, and was really conscious of keeping costs down, and once I'd priced everything up, asked people what they thought first. We ended up going to london in a hummer limo to see Grease (matinee), then out for dinner, cocktails and dancing afterwards, then back in the limo. Limo and Grease tickets cost £56 a head (not bad I thought - and we got complimentary bubbly on the way there and back!), then found lovely restaurant in Covent Garden for dinner, which costs £14.95 for 3 course meal with a glass of bubbly. Was a really lovely day/night, but also affordable.

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I think you should just tell her to be honest. I think she should understand seeing as you have your own wedding to organise and plan.

If she's funny about it then shes most definitely a 'Hen-night-organiser-zilla'. I don't think it would an unreasonable request at all to not stay over.

I'd be honest and say what you're thinking now. I was once invited to a hen do that was going to be really expensive, and several of us were worried about the cost and thinking of not drinking to be able to afford it. Luckily for us, the bride had to change her plans for something else which was much more affordable. It did make me really conscious of keeping it affordable when it's my turn so everybody can enjoy the party.

So she is having two hen dos? I think she should be perfectly understanding if you say you can't afford both. Can you go along to the night out and make your own way home in the evening so you don't have to stay overnight?

I agree with everyone else, just be honest and tell her, point out your going to the spa day alreaddy so it's not like your dipping out on the whole hen do thing.

Hm its a hard one! Which one would you prefer to go on! I think I would do one of the hen do's! Having 2 hen do's is very fortunate! I've heard of the non party go-ers going out for dinner with everyone first, and then heading home after!! Honestly I would just go to 1 of them. Think which one you would prefer to do and stick with it! (I think I would prefer the Spa!)

I would just tell her as well. Im having 2 hen do's as well, the first is a weekend in center parcs and the other is a dinner and dance thing so people have a choice what they want to do. The center parcs weekend is on me and my 4 closest friend so it all worked out perfectly!x

Yes she is having 2, basically the spa day is for the older people who are not into going out etc, and i was asked to go to that so i said yes, on the basis of her saying the night out would just be a cheap thing. But obviously shes not organising it so its not up to her.

I can't really make my own way back because firstly i'd have to leave quite early to make the last train home, and i wouldnt really fancy making a 1.5 hour train journey on my own at night with the possibilty of loads of drunks on it, i did it recently when i had to leave a hen party early from liverpool, the worst 45mins of my life lol

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She may not even realise what her CBM is organising & how much its going to cost! I would delicately broach the subject with her & explain you can't afford both I am sure she'll be understanding

I would broach it with the CBM and explain you cannot afford both. I agree with the others that I am guessing the Hen doesnt know about it