OT Had the most horrendous week!! Dont know what to do!!

Ah that is so nasty for your poor mum to go through, I would be just as angry and upset. I dont really have any advice but just to wish your mum well and I hope you do get some answers so you can enjoy your hen do x big hugs x

Oh no your poor mum, sounds horrible. big hug you must be very worried and angry at the GP!! I hope they find out whats wrong and she gets better real soon!

I'm sure she would want you to enjoy your hen night and not to cancel it but i can understand what you said about not being able to enjoy it knowing shes poorly, maybe see what she's like on Friday, a few days for the antibiotics to kick in she might feel a lot better and you might feel better about going on your hen night!

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Hiya Fluffy!

So sorry you are going through this. I am going through a similar situation and its so hard.

Hopefully the antibiotics the Dr's are using will help. I know its not much help but at least she is in the best place at the moment (even though it did take them a while to admit her)

I hope your Mum is feeling much better soon. xx ?

Hi Fluffy,

Just wanted to say I hope your mum gets better soon and like the others have said, maybe give it a couple of days for the antibiotics to kick in and see how your mum is doing then before you make any decisions about your hen do, i'm sure your mum wouldnt want you to miss out but I totally understand where your coming from...my mum would come first too.

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Thanks girls.

The thing is we are meant to be going abroad from Friday to Monday.

She has been on anitbiotics since Saturday, she did have a good day yesterday but that was because she had a few hours break form the drugs I think.

They have told her she will be in for a few weeks yet. I suppose we will just have to see how the results come back tomorrow. Im so worried.

My friends are trying to get me excited and telling me mum wouldnt want me not to go but at the moment there is no way on earth Im going.

What a shame for you and your poor Mum?

I completely understand you not wanting to have your hen weekend while she's unwell, hopefully the doctors get an idea of how to treat her once they've ran some more tests.

Maybe if she started to pick up before you're due to go away you might feel better about even going for one day, but I would be exactly same as you.

Hope she gets better soon!

Didnt want to read and run. So sorry to hear that your mum is unwell, I hope she gets better soon.

Firstly.. really sorry about your Mum and angry for you that she kept getting the wrong diagnosis and treatment.

But your Mum wants you to go out and enjoy yourself.. it would make your Mum happy if you did that so try not to worry abotu your Mum and perhaps take with you a photo or your Mum and take photos of you and your hens holding the pic of her so she's there in some way? Silly idea but it might make your Mum chuckle. Hows about having another night out with her when she's better? I don't really know what to suggest but try to take it all in your stride. Keep your chin up and stay strong. xx

Sorry to hear that fluffy... sending lots of good vibes to you...

No advice for the hen, maybe play it by ear and see how she is over the next few days... x

Oh Jo I am so sorry you are going through this. I have suffered clots & been on Warfarin & Heparin & they do make you look & feel worse, so don't be too alarmed. She is in the best place and I am sure they will be running every test they can.

If there is anything & I mean anything I can do just let me know xx

Just had a good chat with my sister (who isnt going) and she assures me that she will phone and text regularly whilst Im away but I feel so damn guilty for even thinking about going.

Nikist that is a lovely idea thank you xx

We all have our own T shirts printed up and my sis has said she would hang my mums on the back of her bed on Friday together with her sash and bunny ears

This is so hard butThanks again for your replies even though you've made me cry with your kindness, I feel a whole heap better discussing it with you lovely ladies and dont such so much of a prize bi*ch for even thinking about going

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She's been on Heparin but then her blood was too thin for the biospy and drainage so now shes on something called Vitamin K?? which is apprently knocking the stuffing out of her.

She is so up and down at the moment she was eating little bits yesterday and had a shower and was quite chatty but then they started her on this other drug and she seems back to square one. But i know they are doing her some good in a strange way.

And the hospital staff have been just amazing, I cant fault them

Thanks Sher

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I hate to go against the grain and defend fellow medical colleagues, but if it's a tropical disease then they can be extremely difficult to diagnose as they're not "normal"/common. However, I'm not sure I'd have left it 3 weeks, but GPs are a law unto themselves!

Anyhoo, I'm not being helpful, my lovely Fluffy. I'm sure the antibiotics will kick in soon and the medical bods will work out what's up now she's having all the tests so she can get better quickly.

As for the hen do, only you know how you feel. If you think you can go away and have a nice time, while being in contact with your sister to get updates, then do it as that's what your Mum wants. But if you're just going to be a worried hen then maybe you should cancel. What will your girls do if you don't go?

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Oh Fluffy I'm so sorry to hear this, as the other girls have said I hope she gets better very soon and at least now shes in the best possible place. I hope they find out whats causing the problems and get her back on track asap.

I can't imagine how hard it is to make the decision about your hen do as I know I would fall to pieces if it was my mum but as the other girls have said see how the next few days are and go from there. Its good that you have your sister there to keep you in touch with her over the weekend. Keep us poated - big hugs to you, your family and esp mummy fluffy xxx

Can I be nosey..........and please tell me to bugger off if you want.........is she at a derby hospital or Notts? (curious because I know you are from Derby)

She is in the best place. Don't be afraid to have a meeting with the consultant or his team to have your questions answered. They will be able to put your mind at rest about going on your hen do. The worse thing about hospitals is the lack of sleep patients get so that won't be helping her. Vit K works relatively quick so fingers crossed she will get her tests soon.

I won't tell you mine little story (it's depressing) but I can assure you your Mum would feel better if you went on your hen do. I know thats easier said than done.

Sending big hugs

(I work at QMC.xx)

Oh fluffy, that sounds dreadful. I really hope they find what's making her ill soon and can help her. Big big huge massive hugs coming your way xxxxxxx

So sorry to hear your bad news honey but big hugs to you and mummy fluff!

She will be absolutely fine though, my OH has had 2 DVT's which sounds like your Mum has got and he is absolutely fine

Go on your hen night my lovely and enjoy, I'm sure your mum would be more than happy for you to go and enjoy yourself x.

So sorry to hear.... I think everyone has said everything already, but sending hugs x

Hi chick

I understand totally that it would be hard to diagnose but he didnt offer blood tests or anything even when he was told time and again that she had been to India.

but I cant dwell on that cos it makes my blood boil.

I would want the girls to still go and celebrate for me.

think I need to see what the outcome is tomorrow and go from there to be honest.

Thanks again its so reasurring

Will keep you all posted as to what happens

Big love to you all

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So sorry to read about your mum and I really hope she gets well soon. Fingers crossed that the results you get tomorrow show exactly what is going on and that they can then get to the root of things quickly & treat her for exactly what it is.

Whether you go on the hen do or not, it'll be the right decision for you. You shouldn't feel guilty for considering it, especially if it's what your mum wants.

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Hey Doris

Thanks for replying, she is at The Royal (old city) hospital. Good to know that the Vit K works quickly and good to hear from someone in the know.

I will be seeing her tomorrow afternoon and will try and catch the consultant.

Your right she isnt sleeping at night much either as she is on HDU so being tampered with quite a lot but she does tell them off lol so i know that she must be feeling a little better at times.

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hey my loveliness!!

thanks babe! as I said on other replies its so reasurring getting replies from people who have been through it or trained to understand it better than me.

Have just replied to your thread of you in your gorgeous dress hun. Bet it feels a lot more real now doesnt it??

Hugs right back at ya

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I do hope your mum gets better soon x

Really sorry to hear this, I hope she's on the mend dead quickly. About your hen weekend, it might be worth thinking about your travel insurance if it's abroad - do you already have some and if so I'd call them and see whether they'd cover getting you home quickly if you suddenly felt you needed to be with your mum if anything changed? If you already had it before your mum was admitted they may not count it as a pre-existing condition and so might cover getting you home? Obviously if you needed to get home you'd just do it anyway but might put your mind at rest a little if you do have insurance that covers it? Just a thought and sorry if it's not relevant xx

Oh my goodness Fluffy I'm so sorry to hear about all of this! I can't offer any advice or say anything that everyone else hasn't already said but didn't want to read and run - sending big hugs your way, hope your mum gets better really soon

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Don't know what else to say other than what everyone else has said! big hugs to you and your mum, i can imagine most mum's would still want their daughter to go away and the pictures might cheer her up when you are back, but i can understand you worrying as well!

hope she feels better very soon

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So sorry to hear about your mum, I have also beenon Vit K and warfarin. the 2 being used together to get the blood the right consistency to prevent clots. Hopefully she will feel better soon but I don't know how much of a worrier she is but it might better if she isn't worrying about you cancelling things

Im really sorry to hear bout ur mum- hope they will sort her out asap- i cant offer ay advice cos i wouldnt know what to do either- my other half was o icu last yr for6 months and in hospital from feb-nov and i found it hard going away for friends hen weekends but he was like ''go have a fab time'' etc only do whats right for you- but i like the idea of taking her pc away with you etc- u could have fab pics and as they say ''laughter is the best medicine'' xx

Didn't want to read and run, hope your mum feels better soon. I can't add anything which hasn't been said by other posters

Hey Fluff just wanted to send my love to you and your mom and hope she is feeling better today. I think the others are right about your Hen Do, she would want you to go, but i know it wont be easy to just forget whats going on.?

So sorry to hear about your mum - big get well vibes being sent her way!

Fingers crossed the antibiotics will be working their magic soon and she'll feel a bit better. xx

As ive said, you know im here if you need my love xx