OT - How rubbish is your OH on your birthday?

Am I wrong to expect to feel special on my birthday?!?!?

Afraid not. My partner sometimes works but always plans a meal at our special restaurant. He always leaves a card and writes a little letter in there filled with lovely's. Perhaps you have some nice things to come....?!

I'm getting a slendertone belt for my birthday this year ? probably with a card saying "Happy birthday darling, hopefully next year you'll be skinny"

Haha no. My OH is lovely the rest of the year. Not sure why he can't be on my birthday!!!

No. But maybe he's got a surprise dinner planned or something?

Mine is sort of inbetween. I will always get presents and we will more than likely go for dinner but whilst I would like fine dining I almost always get a curry! Although last Birthday I got my engagement ring so not all bad :-)

perhaps it's a double bluff and you will get spoilt this evening!

Sadly not. I've booked my own meal out in Prezzo but not sure I can be arsed going to be honest!!! I know I'm being all depressing but I'm just disappointed. Guess if I'm marrying him I should just be prepared for nothing every year!!!

Mine is rubbish too, and he knows it! He isnt one to make a fuss.

He once forgot to get a me a birthday card. To some of you that may seem trivial, but I'm the sort of person who loves cards, and would much rather receive a card with some thought behind it then a present that hasn't.

Mines the same, lol he usually gets a card the night b?efore then asks me what i want and gives me money to just go get it mysel, haha at least i know im defo getting what i want as a prezzie!

So because he hasn't met your expectations today (when there is still plenty of the day left to surprise you!) you've got the hump, might miss the dinner you booked and have written off your H2B to be crap at birthdays forever?

Really?

Cheer up! Go and have a lovely meal and enjoy your day woman :p

I know I'm being pathetic. Nah he says there's nothing else planned. He planned nothing last year and we "spoke" about it and I guess I was being unrealistic to expect something different this year. I know it doesn't really matter as it's only a birthday. I'm not going to lie and say I'm not disappointed. Ah well. I'm going for a nap then going to get ready to go out.

My OH doesn't make much fuss of his own birthday but tries to make a bit of effort for mine. But he destroyed one of my birthdays once. We were on holiday and the night before we left we went out, he got totally wasted on awful local spirits and refused to stop drinking, even though he is a lightweight and we both knew it would have bad effects. He then spent the entirity of the next day in bed watching Bulgarian sports channels and wouldn't even leave the room until we had to check out. So I spent that birthday completely alone, in a foreign place, being attacked by wasps and to finish the day off, travelling home after several hours of delays. I was not happy with him at all. I may get my revenge this year as we travel home from honeymoon on his 30th *muahaha*

Maybe he just isn't into birthdays. Mine is usually good but it's my birthday tomorrow and my OH is working away so I won't see him to celebrate till the weekend. But I'm taking matters into my own hands and inviting friends around. Perhaps you could make a huge fuss of him on is next birthday to subtley make the point that bdays are special?

Enjoy your meal out, it may end up being a lovely evening that you hadn't expected.

I have to admit, my OH is great when it comes to my birthday. So much so, I've told him not to worry about my birthday this year - I would just like him to put what he planned to spend on me towards our wedding. The best Birthday present he ever bought me was a kitten ? ..I love cats and I own 3 British Shorthairs, 5years ago he bought me a chocolate shorthair, she's called CoCo.... Here's a pic of her - sorry if its massive! OH never fails to surprise me ?

What do you want?? Any big expense would eat into your joint finances (you may not be married, but the more he spends on a birthday, the less there is for wedding and future savings) and some things are more important. Mine will give me a card and we may go out to dinner, but nowhere fancy, just into the nearest village probably. And we'll discuss it and book it together. It's my OH's birthday next Saturday but I'm working all day and the next day so we won't be going out, except maybe for a drink in the pub. He'll get a card, and wants a teapot for his birthday so I'll get one but will have to order online and have just told him his present will most likely be a belated one. It's not a drama, and I certainly won't feel neglected if all I get on my birthday is a card and a hug.

Actually if I just got a card I'd be disappointed. My OH knows I get excited about my birthday so he generally makes an effort to take me out to dinner or go away for the weekend. Our baby is due 3 days before my birthday and he is determind to still make sure I have a birthday somehow this year. He isn't that bothered about his birthday but I still make an effort to do something such as go out for a meal, I think it's important to make him feel special!

Obviously if you are broke or saving then that's different, there's no point spending a fortune, but if it's just a case of your OH can't be bothered or forgot, then I think that's crap.

I would be disapointed if I just got a card from OH. It doesnt take much (or any!) money to get a small present to show that they care and put some thought into it.

For example, when my sister got married, whilst they were planning they made a rule that any gifts to eachother had to be handmade themselves.

I think it is not on for him to not get you anything, unless you had discussed presents and a comment had been made about having no presents whilst you are planning the wedding. Could you have mentioned this a while back and forgotten, but he has remembered?

I think that if you are disappointed this time, then it's not nessecarily going to be any better in future years. So for your own sanity in the future marriage, make sure that you let him know that you are disappointed and expect an effort to be made in future.

Note that I say Effort, rather than Money.

I really can't say it enough, as blokes never beleive that it doesnt take a lot of money to make us girls happy.

When is his next birthday/last birthday and what did you do/are doing for him?

I also wouldnt think it should be up to you to book the restaraunt! It doesnt take much thought and planning for him to sort that out at the very least, and if he wasnt going to get you a present, he could at least think of a different place to take you to make it special.

She is gorgeous!

I have a cat called Nigel, and I am sure he is lonly and needs a friend. So each birthday I put Kitten, or Puppy on my list. Stll waiting though!

How was your Birthday in the end? Did it get any better?

I guess i'll find out this year...last year we hadnt been together very long and he wasnt working much when my birthday cam along. i did get a present 2 months ater though haha