OT OH has left

You poor thing so sorry to hear your upset dont really know what to say but i didnt want to r and r i hope you get everything sorted out very soon xx

You poor thing i hope you sort it all out ? x

Is there a friend, bridesmaid or someone that can come round to be with you?

I think you need to speak to your OH (ok mybe not right now if he's that angry). If you pick up his phone all the time, you've not done anything wrong, it's not like you were going through his stuff looking for texts.

As you said, it seems like a strong reaction, but saying that, he was maybe just feeling accused and has overreacted.

Did you read the message? Did it sound sinister? Maybe try and call or even text him later after he's had a chance to cool off and tell him you both need to talk about this xx

So sorry to hear this. Like MissDD said, have you got someone who can stay with you tonight so you're not on your own?

If he did 'nothing wrong' then why is he hiding her name under a different one? Was it a male name by any chance?

sorry love, but it would seem he's not being totally honest with you. His anger is his guilt I reckon.....

let him stew for a few days, he cant stay in a hotel forever. Dont keep this to yourself though, tell your parents or best friend whats happened.

hugs x

Sorry to read this.

Perhaps give him some time alone tonight and then text him tomorrow to say you need to talk about things.

I know it's difficult not to jump to conclusions about why he has put her under a different name etc, it may be that there is nothing more to their relationship than friendship and he thought that by hiding the friendship it would hurt you less. Ignorance is bliss and all that. BTW, am not defending him; just trying to give you a different perspective. I have a friend going through something similar and this is what she thinks her H has done - almost like he has tried to protect her but unintentionally makes things seem 10 times worse.

Also, it does seem like a strong reaction if you often do something like pick his phone up innocently so do you think he could feel like you're checking up on him?

Is there anyone you can call to come and stay with you tonight?

I really dont now what else to add. I agree with what teehee has said, and I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but better you found this out today than nearer to or after the wedding. I am also in agreement with those who have said you should talk to someone. Hope you get this sorted ?

I dont know what else to say that the others havent said but didnt want to not reply to you.

I cant imagine how you must be feeling but like Zippy says better to know now than after wedding.

I wouldnt text him tho i would wait until the morning and ring him....so much better to talk as with texts can interpret things totally different to how they are meant,

Big hugs to you x

The others have probably said everything I would have so just wanted to say hopefully you get everything sorted out.

Let him sleep on it and contact him in the morning and sit down to discuss everything.

Omg how awful!

You havent done anything wrong and dont blame yourself! I know its prob going to be hard but leave it until tomorrow and talk it through. You will prob be in a better frame of mind tomorrow.

big hug x

So sorry to hear your news. I hope you manage to work it out. Sending big hugs xx

?Really sorry to hear this...it doesnt sound like he is being honest & personally putting a name in his phone as a cover up really doesnt sound good to me. Personally I would make sure you have friends/family around you to comfort you & maybe text him as suggested and say you need to talk. I would say he would have to have a really good explanation for all of it, as it does sound like a guilty reaction. You are not at fault in any way, it wasnt as if you were looking for this, you just answered the phone for him as you would normally do if it rang when he wasnt there. He needs to be totally honest with you & make sure you have no doubts in your mind. Take Care XX

Oh honey, this is something that really does need to be talked about once you have both had time to think and calm down, he has some explaining to do definately and you will get nowhere if you cant talk about this without getting angry (although you are more than entitled to be!!) with each other you dont want to make any rash descisions just now. x x x x

Sorry to hear this, i cant really offer much more advice on top of anyone else but i really hope you get it sorted, lots of good vibes and hugs coming your way!

Hi, really sorry to hear this. I agree with what others have said and really hope you work things out. xx

Hey love. Didn't want to R&R, so I'm sending ? your way. The girls have given some good advice and we're here if you need to chat.

I'm so sorry to hear that! Didn't want to R&R but I agree with Teehee, it does seem like he's acting guilty. Hopefully you get a chance to speak to him about it.?

Lxx

sadly I feel this is true, if there is a problem best to find out now, but that still must hurt a lot take care

Thanks you all so much for your kind words and support.

He has text/left VM to say he wants to come home and talk, but i'm just not ready right now so will leave it until tomorrow.

I just really need to try and eat, get some sleep and stop crying!

Thank you all again it means so much to me.

Sara x

Good luck when you do meet to talk Sara, and I hope everything works out how you want it. Be strong!

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