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I would want to know too. Even if the mother doesn't appreciate you butting in at least she will be aware and can do something about it. Can you not say that it was you that saw her (the girl) and thought she was acting strange etc, just thinking of your son. xx

Thanks for your reply... I was thinking something along those lines

Debbie

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I would have a mum to mum chat too. i have a 5 year old boy and i would feel same as you if he told me something serious and i kept it from another parent then something happened to their child.

even if she tells you to butt out, at least your conscience is clear and its down to her to talk to her daughter xx

Thanks chuck

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I'm in the chat to the mum camp, if it was my child I would want to know.

Could you have a word with the school and let them know what you have been told, they may even be aware of what's going on.

Good Luck xx

Hi Debbie

This is a really tough one! I have to say I don't have children, but I have 2 nephews who I'm really close to; and I'd be really concerned that one of my boys would get picked on at school if I approached this girls mum.

Not saying that your son is lying, but if there has been all of this hype in the news about these drugs, could it be that they have made it up to look "cool"? And if I was that concerned I'd go to the school, rather than directly to her parents. Her parents might not be interested in your information. Whereas if you go to the school there might be a group of them involved & the school could contact all families. Also it completely removes you & your son from the situation, which if I'm honest would be my primary concern.

Hope this helps.

K.

I'm with Katie on this one and would approach the school. For your own sake and the safety of your son I'd say out of it even though I'd feel terrible doing so. If you have a close relationship with the mother and daughter then my answer would be different.

I've just asked my H who works with addicition clients and he said it's unlikely to have the powder around your mouth. You can either snort or eat M Cat but to have it obviously around your mouth just doesn't seem right. For one if they have paid the money for it they aren't going to waste it!

I'm thinking that they have maybe been winding your son up and just trying to act cool. Do you think that's possible?

Try not to worry about it xx

Two good choices here.....a mum to mum chat or alert the school. There is a chance that this girl may have been pulling a prank, hence the residue round the mouth. But as a fellow mum I would definitely pass the information on....as discreatly as possible for your son's sake. As a parent, I'd be mortified if that was my daughter and i later found out that someone knew about it and didn't act. Its only by everyone pulling together and 'sticking their nose in' that we can combat the scurge of drugs which is every parents worst nightmare.

teenagers experimenting with drugs though may be taking it "wrong" and if they're taking it the wrong way this might be even more dangerous??

if the family are one you'd rather not get "involved" with it may be easier to approach the school than to go to the mum if you think it might backfire onto your son...only you know i guess. best of luck xx

Thanks ladies for all of your replies.

I could go have a quick word with her mum, she is not a horrible lady but is a real soft touch & her youngest daughter runs rings around her, if she were my daughter there is no way I would let her talk to me the way in which she talks to her mum.

I have actually caught the girl out a few weeks ago, I was out walking my dog & she was having sex in some bushes with some boy!!.. I think she was more embarrased than me though!!

I have also seen her boozing & chucking what looked like a canister away, though I was a bit far away to say for sure what the cansiter was.

We live in a really quiet area & dont really get any bother with kids hanging around but the fields opposite us seem to be the meeting place for them when they do meet up & because we are right on the west/north Yorkshire border, the police very rarely do their rounds here.

I know that teenagers can brag to make themselves look cool, I'm sure I did it when I was younger but waht has got me a bit concerned is the fact that the older brother of the girl i saw my neighbours daughter with, has just come back out of prison for dealing drugs.

My sons school is 6 miles away & as I dont dive myself, I think I am going to give them a ring on Monday & just let them know

Thanks again for all of your replies

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That part would make me say to the school for sure. Obviously being in prison doesn't mean the person is still committing crimes but it does mean there is the potential for easy access to drugs.

The drug is usually put into a cigarette paper and swallowed if they aren't snorting it but if the girls were just licking it then I still don't see why there would be power left on her mouth. It just makes me think she was looking for attention because if she was taking drugs wouldn't she be trying to hide it?

At least if you let the school know they will look out for any strange behaviour.

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I'd speak to the school, rather than the mum, definitely. That way it keeps you and your son out of it.

Like you, id have to say something, its hard to keep your nose out, if anything happened to the girl, i too would feel like i could have stopped out.

Well done and im glad you've got such a nice sensible boy!! x

Thanks for everybodies replies.. I am going to have a word with the school next week & ask them to keep my sons name out of it.

Yes Clare I do have a nice sensible boy.. thankyou I had a bit of a chat with him about it all earlier & he said "dont be silly mum - I dont bow to peer pressure & I am not so stupid as to try anything like that"

When did he grow up so quickly?? I am v proud of him

D

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Wow bless him your son really is a gem!

speaking to the school sounds like a good idea, i really hope it goes well and you can rest your mind a little

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I would annonymously contact the school. And get them to look into it. that way your hands are clean and no-one needs to know it was you said anything. Id say the ret of the parents would be very gratefull!

I think speaking to school staff would be the way to go, they can then approach the girls mother and source any help that may be necessary x

I agree, speak to the school, annoymously (sp) if poss, they have more experience and resources to get the help that maybe necessary x