OH and I were chatting yesterday about a friend of his who has been causing trouble for a few people in their group of friends. Then it came out that this man has been trying to cause trouble for my OH. We discussed it all but I am really irritated so thought I would vent on here!
I only just met this guy on Friday, at our do.To give a bit of context, OH and this guy (i will call him A) have all been in the same group of friends for around 15 years. My OH was his usher, (long before we met) but found out A had been cheating, and told A he refused to usher for him. In the end after much back and forth on it, OH felt he should be loyal to his mate and pt his views on one side to keep the peace. As it turns out A then later divorced his new wife for being 'boring' after less than a year. OH has not remained in close contact with A, but still felt that A and his new partner B should be invited to our wedding out of politeness (???!!!!)
So back to our engagement party. OH introduced me to A and B who seem nice, B very quiet and A jokey in a blokey kind of way, it seemed OK. After meeting with me and making small talk for a bit, I went off to greet other guests, and my OH remained with his friend and the girlfriend. OH noticed his friend (I will call him A) had an odd expression on his face, and said to his friend A, 'what is that look for? Oh right, I know what you're thinking' (about marriage etc). A replied, 'I am thinking this is the worst mistake of your life'. His girlfriend, B, just sat there looking annoyed apparently.
OH was lost for words, and told me he just got up and walked away. Later on in the evening he was putting on a polite face saying goodbye to A and B outside of the party, and A made a veiled threat about an issue from OH's past. OH said to me that A was joking around, but said 'you better watch out, I know plenty about you to tell Pandorasbox'. OH just looked at him and said 'well you can but it won't be anything new. We don't have secrets.' I know exactly the thing A is referring to, and I completely trust OH and know about it, and tbh it really isn't anything major or drama, nothing that hurt anyone else or could potentially have any effect on our r'ship. I can't understand why this guy A would even be thinking about it or what he thought he would achieve by saying either of these 2 very rude comments.
I feel very sad for OH that his friend would do this to him. I find the comment about 'worst mistake of your life' very rude, as OH put on a hugely brave/polite face for A at his wedding but A turns up to our party and can't even just say jokingly, 'ah you know me and marriage, no comment, congratulations, you guys will do it differently etc etc etc' and then at the end of the evening tries to threaten my OH. This is on top of 2 of his childhood and lifelong mates who just didn't bother to turn up and texted very pathetic excuses last minute. Poor OH. Some of my friends travelled 4 hours to come to a 3 our party and said nothing but positive comments about me and OH, and his mates can't even make 10% of that effort!
