OT'ers on MD

I'm fairly sure I'm one of the posters that you might mean. The thing is that you don't know me, or my history. Not that I'm expecting you to,just dont be so quick to judge why people might feel unsecure, scared, worried etc etc etc.

Yes, you are fortunate to have had a happy safe experience but we aren't all so lucky. Pregnancy and having a child can be a bloody scary time and I think it's pretty ignorant to suggest its roses for everyone. I actually can't believe what you've said about bonding as well - massive kick in the teeth to those struggling. Have you even heard of PND? Maybe you don't believe it exists.

Well you can tick off my list PND, clearly I am an obsessive worrier after losing my son shortly after birth and following that up with an ectopic pregnancy. By god now I'm on number five maybe I should just stop asking questions, I clearly should know everything there is to know now! The forums would be very quiet without these posts though. Lets hope you don't need to ask anything pregnancy related this time!

id like to think I've contributed enough to others ver the years to entitle me to ask a couple of things or seek reassurance...

rant over!

[applauds pip] Very well said pip [applauds pip]

Another who was drawn back having heard how lovely the OTers here were being supporting MD.

MummyMoo, I don't get what the problem is. Not everyone agrees, and if you don't like the general feeling on MD, then don't bother reading. It's pretty petty to come back over here and start making veiled comments about it to be honest, especially when you haven't even said what your issue is.

FWIW, BT here and now on MD is a wonderful community which offers support and advice to everyone and I feel proud to be part of it.

Im baffled by this post? If you dont like it on MD then dont post there? Or read whats posted if it will frustrate you? There must be loads of people who use both and would think this was aimed at them? Its not like moaning that a newbie on WP is asking about guests wearing black I dont think, because they seldom come here.

MM2, what is it exactly that annoys you about MD? Ok, so you don't like dummies, big deal, neither do I. But I can appreciate why people use them, I just chose not to.

Like Hitched, MD is honest. People ask questions expecting and wanting different opinions. It's not a 'your baby your way' forum like others. Look how much SIDS is mentioned for example. It's a great forum for promoting guidelines and research. Plus it's a good support network, especially at the moment as some posters are sadly going through a hard time.

You are very lucky that you appear to be fortunate with your pregnancy/child. Not everyone is that fortunate which is where the support from MD comes in. Having a baby is a daunting prospect so people do ask questions. Unless you've done it, how do you know what's right?

I think it's a bit patronising to suggest a good bond and common sense is all that's needed. How about if you have PND?

If you have opinions, them talk about them. It's a discussion forum. I think this thread deserves a reply to be honest.

Well said Margot. Yes threads are repeated but that's normal on a baby forum. It's always a new experience for someone. I think it's wonderful people can ask and not feel bad about needing to post. We don't all always agree but we are always there got one another at hard times and to cheer each other on in good times.

Thank you hitched OT'ers for standing up for us.

I don't go on MD (apart from if it's linked on here) but I feel I want to put my 2p in too.

I am a health care professional (obviously!) and every day I reassure parents that their child is ok/what to do/that what they are doing is fine/etc. Basically I would like to think that I am competent and know a well/poorly child when I see one.

However, I know that if we're lucky to have babies of our own, I won't be rational, competent Nurse L, I will be Mummy L and therefore will be asking the same sort of things as my patients do, because it is normal to worry about your children and need a bit of reassurance now and then. Isn't that what MD is for?

Exactly this for me as well. Maybe I will cope really well with pregnancy and parenthood and not 'need' such a forum but it's fantastic to know it's there for those who do.

I actually disagree with a few of the posters though. I do think it's similar to WP. I'll gripe about the fluffiness and repeat posts on WP as much as most of us but if it bothers people that much, don't go on it. Each to their own and although parenthood and wedding planning are totally different things, it's a whole new experience for most people. I didn't have a scooby about how to plan a wedding, equally I won't have a scooby about most baby related stuff and it will be a godsend to have a place I can go to find out!

Was it Mummymoo who put her son in his own bedroom at 6 weeks or something silly, then didn't like the responses she received.

I remember that thread Ducky and it was 4 weeks- she claimed her parents stick her straight in her own room and didn't do her any harm. I refrained from replying to her stupidity on that thread... Perhaps she'd be better suited to Bounty forums than a place like MD.

Yes of course, anyone with a dab of common sense would put a four week old baby in their own room.

Even without the SIDs guidelines, why on earth would you WANT to do that?

Hmm, just looked back to that thread. One of the things I'm most grateful for on MD, and on Hitched too, be it BT or OT, is that not everyone agrees and people will state facts to enable others to make an informed choice. The day we become a 'you know your baby best, never did mine no harm' type forum will be the day I find somewhere else to post.

shut up and don't look - let alone judge.

H was a marvellous source of advice, info, hugs and friendship and I can see MD being the same.

Maybe when you do have another newborn and you aren't so fussy or over-protective you can come back and tell us all the secret!

Maybe it's my age but am sick of ill informed, smug posters like this.

shut up and don't look - let alone judge.

H was a marvellous source of advice, info, hugs and friendship and I can see MD being the same.

Maybe when you do have another newborn and you aren't so fussy or over-protective you can come back and tell us all the secret!

Maybe it's my age but am sick of ill informed, smug posters like this.

So sick I replied twice!

I occasionally have a lurk on MD to see how some people who post over her are.

If anything I'd be a bit intimidated to post because you are all such a tight knit community who obviously care for each other. If I am lucky enough to get pregnant then I can only hope that MD provides me the support and guidance that I need and at some point I can hopefully give other people the same. God forbid something was wrong or we have problems, but I wouldn't have anyone to ask apart from my mum (she had two relatively problem free pregnancies) but on MD there are a huge mixture of people from all experiences who could give me the support and advice I need.

There has never been anything I've had to bite my tongue at or thought was silly and im pretty sure I will be posting a fair few "stupid" questions when my time comes. If anything it had confused me! Some of the topics I wouldn't have even THOUGHT about let alone discussed. I love that hitched and MD have people with lots of different opinions, you dot want someone agreeing for the sake of it. There is just lots of honest opinions.

Your obviously so lucky that you have never needed to ask anyone anything and have never needed help or support. Maybe instead of moaning on a forum which a lot of people post on both, you should be offering help and advice yourself?

Eek long rant over!!

In light of the current situation with a few of our forum members both here and on MDrum, your post is so badly timed its laughable really.

I'm glad you feel that you have nothing to gain from posting on MD BT, you must be very lucky to not need any help whatsoever.

I for one though feel that our community, both here and on MD is one that is so very rare and am bloody grateful to he a part of it.

Your loss.

As poorly timed as MummyMoos's post was and poorly phrased, can we back off now?

I know it has raised heckles/hackles(sp).

I think she has become such a vent because we are all feeling hurt angry and impotent at the moment. I know I am. The frustration of having our group knowledge and not being able to help our beloved members is *** and stings and it is easy to kick the cat, especially when one pops their head above the fence.

But this isn't who or what we are. It is going to sound really stupid but there are so many lovely supportive people on this thread and I don't want you all gettign so upset over nothing. And it is in the scheme of things nothing.

I know I turn a poor phrase and end up looking like I am saying one thing when I am saying another and am assuming that maybe that is what ahs happened here with MummyMoo.

I personally am really strugglign to go to BT at the moment and feel like I have let the side down in so many ways and would like to try and divert your attention to soemthign else?

You see P I think it's the fact that she's posted here, not backed up her first post or explained it that's got people's backs up. We aren't upset over nothing. Our community is a great one and instead of accepting that she chose to pop over here to bit*h about us.

Plus the fact that our community is currently trying to support other members who are going through some awful times, this is so badly timed its even more upsetting.

If she has an issue she should have a) posted on MD b) listened to and replied to responses and c) not post it over here where it was especially bound to get people's backs up

Okay maybe a better phrase would be she is nothing to the community, it would eb like Brian from Devon slagging off my local Thai restaurant to me, without him having eaten there, when it has jsut won an award for innovativity in restaurants. It means nothing. I was jsut trying to encourage us back to a happier place. She did come back for a second post but didn't help herself pratically.

If it was a regular contributor saying the above then it surely would cut?

I know what you mean, P. So does she not post much on MD?

This is very true.

Its just really pis*ed me off as she knows very little about us and feels she can judge the community and imply she's better than us somehow. I am however a hormonal pregnant person so may be letting it get to me more than I usually would.

All I say is don't bit*h and then disappear. If she has something to say then grow some balls and say it to us directly on MD.

? I love it. Feisty Hepburn is fab! (I think those pregnancy hormones may just be playing a part in this! I feel sorry for the people that get on your bad side over the next few weeks hehe) xx