Other Weddings at your venue

Hi AngieMace,

It is your biggest fan here!!!?

Our venue is exactly the same. Currently there is no other wedding booked, but there are two rooms and they advised that they can accomodate two weddings per day, but try not too (yeah right!). Also they say they need the weddings to be 4 hours apart so they can accomodate. I am pretty sure it wouldnt really affect our day anyway, though i would prefer it if it was just us, but in fairness we have not paid for exclusivity and they have advised us that it is possible but they only had 3 dates in 2010 with two weddings. Would you actually see the other party do you think??? They in theory wont be in the bar when you are if there timings are so different. You dont sound spoilt at all, it is just a bit of a shock at the moment xx

I can understand why this might be upsetting to some brides, but I really think that you shouldn't worry about it too much. What is it about another bride that would make her a potential friend if you spoke to her on this forum, but a threat if you happen to see each other in wedding dresses on the same day? Someone else having their special day in close proximity to you shouldn't make your day less special unless your venue has poor segregation procedures, so maybe ask them about how they handle multiple weddings on the same day to put your mind at rest.

Our ceremony is at 2 and theirs is at 6. It's a hotel and golf club, so we get married at the hotel and then have the reception at the golf club, they get married and have their reception all at the hotel. I'm hoping we don't see them, as it is a separate building. I know it doesn't bother some people, e.g. registry office or Caribbean weddings etc, you kind of expect that almost "conveyor belt" scenario. i don't know why I am getting so peed off about it! Maybe I am paranoid that the other bride will outshine me?!

Ohh gutted. out hotel has in our contract 'your wedding is the only one we will do on your booked day'. i would hate to see another bride, or the guests to mix in the bar.

if you knew it cud happen and theres nothing in your contract, then im afraid nothing you can do

I was promised exclusivity for my first wedding - it was even in the contract as 'exclusive use of the bar and hall for wedding reception'. But then they booked out another room for a 60th birthday because there was a separate servery for drinks there, meaning that the hallways were always crowded, queues for the loos, people drifting off to the wrong room - my dad had to eject a drunken bloke at one point.

So this time we've got a small venue that could not by any stretch of the imagination host more than one event at once. And it's all ours for the whole day, function room, bar and courtyard - and a posh reception area with spiral staircase for photos!

I don't think I'd be bothered by another wedding if I were getting married at a hotel as long as there were separate spaces for both. I wouldn't be jealous/angry/upset if I saw the other bride, I'd probably just tell her how loveley she looked and congratulate her.

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I need to get into that mindset.

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I think if it's in a seperate building you dont have too much to worry about!

I went to a wedding where there were 2 brides and didnt even know until I was told by my bride afterwards so I think as long as you dont flash it about to your friends people wont be paying attention.

I think you should check with your venue about things like outside pics/ toilets/ bar area so there is no chance of you clashing.

Ah thanks for that. I am sure it will be completely different.

If you do see them, think how that bride is feeling too, and just try and be happy for each other that you have both chosen such a lovely venue, I have to admit I'm not sure I'd like it, but put my positive thinking cap on and wish them congratulations, after all they are likely to be feeling the same as you and its a really important day for them too!

Are you sure it's another wedding and not another function? It's just that I thought the latest a wedding ceremony could be performed was 5:30pm for legal reasons, and you said the other wedding on your day is at 6pm... I could be entirely wrong but it might be worth you checking with your venue?

I am getting married at a register office so won't be the only bride there but I doubt I'll bump into any and if I do, I don't mind... think it's kind of nice... it isn't a reception though, for that we have exclusive use, I think I'd feel a bit more weird about sharing my reception venue.

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Good point, maybe they are getting married elsewhere and arriving there at 6pm for their reception? She said there was definitely 4 hours between us. I guess they might be thinking of arrival times etc though which will be earlier than the ceremony. It's a bit poo but like the others have said, we might not even see each other. I have been to weddings where there has been another wedding in the room next door, I would hate that, but at least this other wedding is in a different building.

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Sounds like they're getting married elsewhere and just having the reception at your venue.

UK law states that all weddings must be compelted by 6.00pm therefore registrars usually offer the latest time of 5pm to allow for any problems/delays/ If you haven't finished the ceremony by 6.00pm then you're not married!

Aww thats pretty pants!!! We really like our venue but at weekends they have 2 weddings per day. So we went for a midweek wedding as they only have 1 per day. Hopefully as the other wedding is starting after yours you wont really see them!!

Our venue had the option for exclusive use which we took up,

i love the idea of just having our family and friends at the venue

I've never been good with sharing lol

Im not surprised your a bit peeved, no bride wants to share their day.

just keep in the mindset that you wont see them so out of sight-out of mind?

im far too selfish (haha) to share my day, so much so im hiring a place which only does one wedding a week! but paying over the odds for it though! ?

It never even occurred to me until I saw a girl I went to school with and she gets married the same day as me. She asked where I was getting married and she said she had inquired there too but they already have TWO weddings that day. I was like "WHHHATTTT???". I was devo'd but am getting used to the idea now and just hoping we don't see each other. At least we have the Bridal Suite booked!!!

There was another wedding at our venue when we got married. I sort of saw the other wedding party but didn't even focus on them. We had seperate grounds so we didn't need to cross paths.

Honestly, it really didn't phase me at all on the day, I had more important things on my mind!

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I'm sure I will feel the same

My venue can also have more than one wedding a day. I think they can do three maximum, two fairly large and one very small. We were the first couple to book and so got first choice of room, times, hotel room etc. I would prefer it if nobody else booked for that day, but being realistic, a weekend in July is likely to have more than one wedding on. The function suite we have chosen is a completely self-contained building, so at most, we'd see the other party on the other side of the large gardens. Just keep it in your head that your wedding will be the best wedding you've ever been to!

Well I know there is another wedding at the church after us, we are at 12.30 and they are at 2.30pm and i am pretty sure we will still be having photos taken when they arrive for their ceremony, we are doing guest photos first to get them underway to reception to free up the car park, but to be fair i really don't care, only I get to marry my H2b and that is what is important to me! I would much rather see a bride in her wedding dress going into church after me then a hearse pull up with a coffin!

Oh no sorry to hear that.

It would really bother me tbh so know how you must feel. We went for a venue that only has one wedding at a time as I didn't want to feel second best.

I know this is an old thread but just come across it when searching for this question. I have just been to sort a few things out with the venue and they have told me they now have 3 weddings including mine!!!!!!!!!! I knew there was a chance another bride might book in but cant believe they have got 3!! Apparantly 1 is an all dayer like mine and they are on the oposite side of the building, and the 3rd is just a reception which will be in a room very close to mine. They also have a business conference on as well. I cant moan as I was aware they could 2 weddings on the same day but cant help feeling a bit gutted. Did it bother you on the actual day or were you to busy enjoying yourselves to care??? Im sure it will be fine just panicking a bit now ?

Its more likely that you would out shine her because yours will be better (and its at 2 so shes a good 4 hrs behind them anyway!) Xxx

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no it doesnt, and this was a stipulation i had when looking for venues!! i ruled out Mr Fs fav venue cos it could hold two weddings on one day!!!

ETA - sorry, just read that back, thats not helpful in any way shape or form is it ?

It doesn't really bother me. My venue can do 2. And I think there is another wedding on the same day but the rooms are at opposite ends of the hotel. They only time we would see eachother is in the main bar but between meal and evening do I will chill out in my suite and freshen up so it should be fine...Also ours is the first ceremony at 1pm so the next ceremony slot is at 3, by which time we will be sitting down to eat.

There could be another wedding on at the same time as ours at our venue but they have promised us that the brides will not cross paths until maybe right at the end of the night when to be honest I will be past caring.

We booked enough of our building that we have access to all the loos, so they can't have another booking. In the end up, there is only one room that we haven't booked, as we didn't like the room itself and so didn't want to pay for space we wouldn't use.

I understand why your pi$$ed off though, but from what you have said it is unlikely you will even set eyes on each other. Even if you do happen to be in the same area at any point, I very much doubt that she will outshine you ?

There are two weddings at my venue on our day. We are getting married at the church down the road but i assume that the ceremony for the other couple is at the hotel. The two weddings are in separate buildings in the same grounds, we're in the main house and the other wedding is in a barn type venue round the other side. We both have private gardens but something that does worry me is that the bride and groom and a hand full of guests from the other wedding have to walk through our reception area to get to their bedrooms.

I think if it was going to impact directly on your reception (such as guests having to walk through our reception area to get to their rooms) or your ceremony then I can understand being a bit miffed about it.

ETA- sorry just seen your post Sparkly and realised you were asking a different question. TBH I think as long as it doesn't impact your reception it will be fine. They will have to have enough staff to cover it all so there shouldn't be issues surely?

I'm getting married at a hotel venue and there will be another wedding (larger numbers than ours) on the same day, infact they get married before us so the registrar will already be there! We are in differnt rooms for everything and at opposit ends of a large hotel. It does not bother me and I hope it does not bother them. They have said that in all the years they have done weddings they have only had 1 occasion when the brides met.

I'm sure your day will be fine and you won't even see each other. I'm sure at the moment it is just shock.

Our venue can only accomodate one wedding per day...I was so relieved when they told us this. I would feel proper poop if there were to be another wedding on our day x

Our venue can have 2 weddings in the same day, just hoping nobody books same as us. But it's different sides of the hotel and only toilets that would shared as there are bars in the suite. I wasn't keen on this and favoured other venue because of this but oh didn't so went with this one. Had the option to have all inclusive but was another 1500 on top of price already. X

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Could be worse. High Rocks in Tunbridge Wells had 4 on one Saturday last year. I kept seeing different brides outside, confetti thrown etc. Like I was in some sort of loop.