Hello all, Not sure if any of you will remember me...used to be on here alot when planning my wedding...sadly H & I have split, not what I wanted, but its happened. Its been since May and I moved out to be near work (as I dont drive) and we agreed a 6 mth seperation, only it didn't work. I threw myself into work and managed to get the promotion id worked towards for years. Its all been going well workwise, only the past few months ive been v emotional, very teary etc and its got gradually more so. Its been a hard year. Alot of stress, financial, to do with split etc. I had a weeks leave last week and was ill and that added to it. Any of you that do remember me will know that a few years ago I had ongoing health troubles and it seems the more stressed I am the more it flares up. Its all come to a head Monday night when I couldnt stop crying and was up all night. I ended up telling work id got some personal problems and went to see my doctor who put me on Anti-D. I had to ask my Deputy to managing my section for me for the rest of this week. God knows what my boss etc thinks. My deputy has also said she doesnt want to cover in future as she has alot on her plate with her kids, which I totally understand, but leaves me less support. My job is my only income as due to my long term ill health in the past, I wont get sick pay for another year. Thats on my mind alot and Im dreading trying to get myself back to work next week. Ive barely left my flat except the doctors....
The main reason why Im posting is a close friend of mine is getting married tommorow, and I recently went to her hen weekeng away (spent most of it crying and in a state, with my other friends telling her I was ill as didn't want to spoil anything) and ended up seeing my GP when I got back. I was meant to be travelling the 6hr up to Scotland today with 2 other friends but I just couldnt do it, had my case packed and everything but I was awake until 4am crying and worrying. I knew I couldnt do it. I texted my two friends and explained and although they know ive been suffering with the depression and have been supportive, I feel ive let them down, and more so my friend who is getting married. I sent her a long text explaining and apologising and offering to cover any costs. I feel awful. Its a small wedding, but very costly one in a castle, and my pulling out at such short notice would have a big impact. I feel terrible for doing this, but I physically couldnt. I havent heard back from her, and my two friends who have gone up haven't yet replied. I think they partly understand, but they think I should have pushed myself to do it. What they dont realise and Ive tried to explain is, I have pushed myself, really hard, I did to go to the hen weekend also and it was sheer misery for me. Its not just about it being a wedding, its cos I just cant face big events at the moment, cant even face my job. The bride doesnt know about my depression as I haven't wanted to put a dampner on her wedding, but texted her first thing this morning. I know I should of rang, but I haven't even been able to ring my boss, had to email, cos I feel the way I do at the moment.
Im sat here at home wondering what she must be thinking of me, and wondering what to do. Im scared I wont even be strong enough to return to work next week and Ive got to, as im running the team and most staff are off for xmas. Im letting everyone down and dont know what to do. The anti-D areny yet helping and Im all over the place sleep wise. I wonder if my friend will ever forgive me