Over and out...

I don't think I can have read the threads you're talking about. I've found this site to be really helpful and supportive. It would be a shame to see you go just because of some bad comment of the few

Wow - actually I've just found the thread you're probably on about. It has turned into a bit of a b****fest!!!

Don't leave over it - it'll blow over and people here still give very good advice - that thread was bound to touch some nerves (mine included)

This exactly- I have been on hitched over a year now and have seen a fair few threads 'blow up' so to speak but they soon blow over like Mrsskinner2be said.

I dont know the thread you mean, but dont feel you need to leave, any forum i've ever been on has the odd unlind thread, but there are so many positive ones it more than wipes them out

please stay, I'm new here, and like the positive threads very much

x

Thanks ladies. Just doesn't seem worth it sometimes when my phone won't stop beeping (and I have only just worked out how to turn notifications off) and I realise that is not what wedding planning is about. One 'dis-like' in particular really hit a nerve, but honestly it was the nastiness that shocked me most! Look forward to continue seeing all if your pots of your planning! Xxx

I'm glad to hear you're not leaving over something like this.

Don't let an opinion like one of those 'dis-likes' turn you off the forum as a whole. Those opinions were all very personal, and if it was one of the things I dislike that you're referring to (I know I posted a controversial one about pay bars), I can assure you it was not aimed in particular at anyone and just because one person (or even a bunch on here) dislikes something, it doesn't mean your guests will care either way. It's your day, try not to let anyone else one here make you feel bad about any of it.

I was also shocked my the nastiness, but you'll find every now and then that you'll get quite strong reactions on certain kinds of threads. Yes, it happens, but not all that often.

Yes I got rid of notifications long ago!! (after tons of e-mails) I think the internet lets a lot of people say things that they wouldn't normally say to someones face. I didn't read through the post originally because I knew I wouldn't enjoy reading things that I'm having. I understand when you say a dis-like really hit a nerve, it does hurt when people say they don't like something that you've chosen. I'm having a black and white themed wedding and when the dress alteration lady found out she said "oh no - it will look like a funeral" and my FMIL said "are you in mourning for something"!!

This is honestly a very lovely forum, with a lot of support and nice opinions. I've always had positive comments towards anything I've shown, even when I've asked for honest opinions. Don't let the thread put you off - it's the first time I've ever seen this happen

Glad you've decided not to leave.

I've had the same about my black and white art deco theme You could just point them to this and say you thought it was fab for ideas..... http://www.rocknrollbride.com/2013/03/historic-cemetery-wedding-with-the-bride-arriving-in-a-coffin-kristen-jo/

OMG that wedding is fantastic!! If I could warrant spending tons of money on our wedding day, I'd have done the whole goth thing. Black dress, creepy cake etc. Someone sent out invites of the two of them on mortuary slabs - with the line "till death us do part" fantastic

Breaking Point Bride I think you may find that the nastiness on the thread that most people are talking about hasn't actually come from OM's but the WPers who have taken offence and decided to get personal.

When I was planning my wedding (yes I had a sweetie buffet, children and a pay bar, shocker) I found the OM's on the site a wealth of knowledge.

The comments that were made by Not made by any OMs as far as I can see, as Rod said.

Hi

I'm still a B2B but feel I really want to speak out in the defence of the OMs. I've been on here for several months now, taking full advantage of the forums for advice, support and opinion. During that entire time I have only ever seen a couple of threads go pear shaped and neither of them turned nasty because of an OM comment. I for one look upon them as little fonts of wisdom. Yes, one or two -mentioning no names FTLOMB haha!;0) - can give very frank opinion sometimes but only when they deem it necessary and even then there has never been anything outright rude or offensive.

Sorry if you think I'm digging at you, I'm not like that. But I do believe everyone deserves to be innocent until proven guilty.

And yes, I fully intend to join the OMs club soon :0)

Thank you for defending OMs MWAT - I find the are the most reasonable members and very helpful. I also agree that the dish out frank advice only when needed. Some brides may ask opinion of friends, who don't want to tell them the truth, so as it here, they then may get the same answer. Getting a differing opinion may be very useful and put things into perspective. If the choose to take the fluffy or frank advice, that's their choice. Don't ask a question if you aren't prepared to hear answers.

Personally I think it's an age thing. Some of the OMs ( and myself) are older than the WPers - when I went to school you only got a prize if you WON, or were right. I find people who are 10 years younger than me sometimes want a 'participation Prize' regardless. They don't like it when even the slightest thing doesn't go their way.

Yo, ATB, don't lump all us young un's together! Some of us are ok

I left a while ago. Finding the oms critical at times, but still lurk occasionally, some things you can pick up without having to get involved in the politics :-)

I'm so old I'm practically drawing a pension.

I'm so old I'm practically drawing a pension.

and repeating yourself!

Ha ha!!

See??!!! Mini is so old she's repeating herself!!!! :0o

ATB.... I started reading your post and read my own acronym as TWAT lol!!!

(wonder if I'll get away with THAT one? !)

Tut Tut!!! Tarring us WPs with the same youthful brush.... I'm bloody ancient thankyou very much!!! :0D

I did! I did !

That's bloody, twat AND *** in 5 minutes!!! Wehey!!!! :

Ok so not ***.... But I CAN say fucked can't I?? Please don't puddle on my inferno again hitched! ;0)

I'm so old, I'm practically drawing a pension.

(see what I did there!)

Hee hee Mini that fair made me chuckle :0)

I suspect my inability to coo and finish my posts with kisses and/or "huns" means that I appear far more terse than I actually am.

It is probably just me (or maybe my age) but I think my way of speaking is normal ?

^^ THIS

I can't be a*sed to trawl through pages and pages of tripe, so I haven't read the thread in question in its entirety; but just saw this and had to weigh in because it REALLY gets my goat...what is it with this 'hun' thing? What, as in Attila? ?

I think that you speak perfectly eloquently. I can't abide condescending women who talk like agony aunts. But that's my opinion. Are.....are we still allowed to have one of those? ?

FTLOMB I think your way of speaking/typing is normal too. I think hitched has not got the culture of fluff posts that some other wedding forums have and for me that is a good thing. It is harder to convey tone when all you've got is text and the odd winky face or whatever does help but I can't abide the endless stream of lols/huns/kisses/hahas/emoticons that seem to make up for actual content in some posts.

I too was going to leave about 9 months ago when these quite nasty posts popped up a lot but soon realised not to fight other peoples battles an if I had an opinion that might get me shot down, then to not share it...

I've found a lot of the threads I have started have really helped my WP, plus its pretty addictive so can see why the OM hang out here...I might do :-) x

By Hitched standards, that "dislikes" thread wasn't that b!tchy or nasty. It was actually quite tame.

Yes, it did. It ripped apart all aspects of all weddings for everyone on here. And the conversation was enjoyed by people already married, people planning for imminent weddings and people gazing two years into the future.

But it didn't rip apart the wedding of a specific person, nor did it even address a single aspect of a specific person's wedding. For anyone to even imagine that any of those comments were addressed to them specifically is in the grip of some kind of delusion.