Parent's Contributions?

When we got engaged we started to save for our wedding, knowing we were going to get some kind of contribution, but with with it being so far away it wasnt really brough up in a conversation.

After about 8 months (last Oct) i broke down and got very very upset, as we were saving for our wedding, a honeymoon AND a deposit for a house, so as you can imagine, it was alot for us to do!

To cut a long story short, they said that they had no intention of taking any money off us towards the wedding, and that they were going to pay for the whole thing, obviously within a budget which we are definatly going to have change from.

My OH did ask his Mum for a small contribution, as he thought that she was giving all these demands and requests that she should pay towards, and she agreed to give us £800 towards it, which she is currently saving up for, but i very much doubt she will give anything as she cant really control her money.

We are footing the bill for our own honeymoon, but we don't mind that.

I am very very lucky!

xxx

My mum and dad are paying for my dress, we are paying for everything else ourselves. We havent asked them for anything.

Personally I think it is rude to ask for contributions and so if his parents haven't offered, you should leave it at that.

We are paying for the cost of our wedding ourselves. We've worked very hard to get to the position we're in today and I wouldn't dream of expecting my parents (divorced with 4 children) to chip in, nor would I expect it from his parents. They may well offer, and if they do, I'm not sure what we'll do. We'll probably accept with good grace but the thought of them giving us so much money makes me feel queasy.

I suspect they'd be distraught at the thought of all of the money we're spending but as it's ours, we don't have to justify those costs. I would much rather our parents spent their money on themselves than our wedding.