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Luckycharmz
Beginner September 2011

Parents don't approve of wedding abroad.. Help!!

Luckycharmz, 17 May, 2010 at 10:24 Posted on Honeymoons & Getting Married Abroad 0 4

So a Bit of a story thats a Pain in the bum for me!


I have been with my Bf now for coming up 6 years, and we have been engaged for 5 1/2 years. We live together and have for 4 1/2 years, and have a little boy who is 3 this year! So thats all well and good!

its always been discussed that me and Tim wanted to get married in Jamaica, But i have earlier found out that its cheaper to get married in Cyprus (for what we want), also tims mum lives in cyprus, so its 2 less flights to pay for.

But now, my parents are telling me im selfish as my grandparents wont be able to make it to my wedding, and to be honest i wasn't inviting them as we just want it to be my parents his parents and brothers/sisters and few close friends. So now there telling me that they don't want to go to my wedding as im being selfish and THEY dont want to travel to Cyprus for the wedding!! and apparently this is how they also felt about Jamaica, al-tho they never said anything.

They think i should get married in this country (UK) so that other family members can go (people i dont really want there as i DONT want a massive wedding! now they know this as i have told them, yet they dont seam to be to bothered, they say that im selfish and have done everything in the wrong order!! not that the order bothers me, its just the way they are being, i have told them "fair enough if thats how you feel" but obviously i want my mum and dad there..

has anyone else been in the same situation? or have some great advice?

Many Thanks. Charmagne Smiley laugh

4 replies

Latest activity by jorton, 1 June, 2010 at 18:34
  • Mrs_T2B
    Beginner May 2011
    Mrs_T2B ·
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    That doesn't sound like a nice situation to have been put in. Sorry to hear that ?

    Personally I think they should go to the actual wedding in Cyprus as you wish, but then possibly have a party when you get back in the UK for other family members, or even a blessing which people can attend that aren't going to Cyprus.

    Hope it all gets sorted out x

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  • M
    Beginner September 2010
    mrs.g.anderson2b ·
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    Dont worry, had the exact same situation with a few slight differences

    we are now having our wedding over here, which i really dont want but am going along with it cos its what h2b wants as he wants (or feels he has to) have all his family there.

    its caused alot more expense, aggro and problems that i wanted to avoid. go and do what you want to do - its YOUR day and it will be your parents loss if the dont want to or cant make the effort to attend. have a do over here when you return for every tom, dick and harry and if your parents dont want to attend that, then it will raise questons with others and make them look stupid and selfish - not you.

    x

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  • 2011bride2be
    Beginner August 2011
    2011bride2be ·
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    Sorry to hear that....

    ive been in the same situation too my h2b mum wanted us to get married in the uk and my h2b wanted to do it abroad..Well hes mum managed to talk me round to it and promised she would help me arranage things blah blah blah.........anyway she didnt help me do a thing so i decided to cancel the whole uk wedding and we are going abroad next year to do it our way i know it may sound selfish but im not marrying the rest of my family or hes family...everyones welcome to come with us where eva we decide to go but if not then thats too bad im afraid.. we will be having a party when we get back home for those who cant make it but i think inlaws wct put too much pressure on us ☹️

    Anyway good luck and hope you manage to sort things out xx

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    Hello,

    It is really not good. mrs t2b is right so i think you have to go with it so don't worry everything will gonna be ok.

    good luck!!

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