Basically, I am very relaxed and calm about the whole wedding planning, but just have a couple of niggles !!
My parents are quite relaxed too about it all, we've asked my mum to do the wedding cake (my mum does cakes, etc) which is great as she's good at it, saves us money and gives her a project!! They are also helping out with the wedding breakfast after the ceremony. Which is where they want to 'interfere'. I would much prefer they turned round and said 'he's a couple of hundred pounds, put it towards teh meal' but no, they want to know the ins and outs of the meal and basically choose who attends, where we go, what we eat, etc, etc. Luckily, we are only having both sets of parents, 1 sister each with husbands/kids & my partners' nan, plus possibe best man & family to the ceremony/meal, then we are having a big evening do (which is all booked & paid for). We are getting married in Town Hall.
We are getting married next April.
My partner's sister & husband are going to do our photo's and album as a wedding present to us, which is great.
My partner's parents are lovely and have helped us out in the past, moving house, etc (not financially, but more in the whole helping and supporting, which is invaluable and everything), BUT, obviously we've had a fair few outgoings, moneys been tight recently but we've managed ok. We're now in a position where all we need to do is arrange rings, our outfits (my dress, partners suit, my daughter's dress), accessories, hair, make up, shoes & that's about it really. We plan to do a honeymoon after the wedding but haven't planned one as yet, we are intending on asking guests to firstly to attend our evening reception as that's their main present to us, but that if they feel the need to get us a gift, then money or holiday vouchers would be used for us to have a honeymoon. So honeymoon will depend on that. Which is what we want.
Anyway, back to partner's parents, his mum has asked me if i've heard of aldi, to which i replied yes, why? Well, apparently i need to do my shopping there so i can afford for her son to marry me !!!!!!! OMG !!!! We haven't asked them for any money. They did initially say they would offer some money but haven't mentioned it since. They are continually asking my partner what we've organised, how much it is, how we're paying for it & what other plans we've got, they then see me & don't mention the wedding at all. I'm confused !! I'm not in debt (apart form our mortgage), we are having our wedding on a budget but just can't seem to understand why they don't want to talk to me about it and the only thing they have said to me about the wedding is the aldi thing. (and i do buy some of my shopping at aldi, so don't know what all of that is about!!!)
I have been married before (my 1st husband died from cancer about 6 years ago) so this will be my 2nd marriage but 1st for my partner.
Saying that though, they are nowhere near as bad as my ex in laws !!
