Photos and facebook

Nope, not at all. I dont mind whatsoever, infact I hope people do share their photos so that anyone who cant be there can see the day ASAP.

Maybe am just old fuddy duddy lol but i think too much can be on facebook and sometimes it nice to keep some things private, especially if hundreds of folk you dont know are looking at your piccies.

We did request them NOT to be put on facebook. OH works in IT & hates facebook due to various confidentiality reasons on their site.

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My facebook profile is private so only friends can see my pics, , , can't see the problem with that.

Same LS, mine is totally private too.

No i mean your friends and family putting photos on their pages

I see what you mean, , only 3 of our guests put pics on FB and 1 of those was an evening guest. I didn't mind.I know if we had asked they wouldn't have put them on

I've specifically asked people not to put them on, mainly because we're getting married abroad and I still want to do the 'grand entrance' for people that weren't there.

I agree. none of our wedding pics are on FB, and I will only put them on of weddings I have been to if I have either checked with the couple or they have put some on already!

Oh ours will absolutely be all over facebook and im rather happy with that. i want to share my dsy with everyone whether they know me or not lol.

Me too northumberland bride!! I dare say there will be photos on before we even say I do! lol

I was more than happy for our guests to put pictures on! I was proud of our day and wanted to share it with everyone. Also it meant we could have a quick peek on our phones whilst on honeymoon as we hadnt seen any photos at all of the day before we went so it was lovely when friends kept adding them and really exciting!!

As my hubby hates FB and the lack of privacy that comes with it, we requested that no photos were put on FB. Our guests respected our wishes and no one complained.

Probably posted before.....

Although worthy of another outing!!!!

Each to their own but I don't think it is mean spirited to want to keep your special day private and special between the people you invite to share it with, surely that is everyones perogative! Everyone has their own views on social networking and living my life for all to see on the internet is not something that sits comfortably with me or my OH

I don't want ours all over FB either. I may put a couple on my profile, howeve my profile is private and i can control who sees them, ie only my friends or if I don't want all the people on my profile to see I can set up a group.

I wouldn't want my friends too as I have no control over who sees them and I don't want anyone and everyone seeing the pictures of my day. Also some of the people I am friends with are friends with the girls who bullied me through school. I don't want them seeing.

Mooey- How did you ask people to refrain from putting them on there? Did some mention it in a speech? How did they word it? Thanks

Ha ha ha ha love that little cartoon!

So a mixed bag of views, glad i am not the only one. One of my friends who is coming could fart and a photo of her doing it would appear on facebook lol. Her whole life is on there from going for saturday afternoon walks to watching the fireworks (which is fine because thats what she wants to do) but i have already asked her not to put photos on there of us. Her brother actually phoned her to request that she take off over 100 photos of his wedding which were all over facebook.

I don't think its mean, just think some like to live their lives through social networking and others don't.

I'm glad you feel that way, but some of us are a bit more private than you and didn't/don't want photos of our weddings on FB. I consider my wedding day to be a private affair and we didn't like the idea of people putting our weddding photos on their profile and having people who we didn't know/like seeing them.

I don't have much information on my FB anyway and have hardly any photos on my FB normally.

We just explained to people in the end how we felt and people were very supportive. I think it helped that my hubby isn't on FB.

I think its up to the individual couple to decide, everyone is different. Even if you re on FB it doesnt mean you have to put everything on there.

I had no problem with people posting photos on facebook, as long as they were nice ones! We weren't able to invite everyone we would have liked to, and I thought it was nice for other friends to be able to see a bit of our day - we got some really lovely comments. I've also had hi-res versions of some of them sent to me so we can print them in our album.

As for privacy - so people know I got married, so what? If anyone's sad enough to take my pictures and in some bizarre way use them on a porn site, they need help, frankly.

That said, I know everyone feels differently about this sort of thing, so if I was at a wedding and the couple asked us not to put photos on facebook, I wouldn't mind too much. It would be nice to have some way to see the pics from their day though!

Tinnut - to be honest we didnt need to ask people not to post pics, we only had a small wedding and the people there know us well enough to know that is not what we would want but I wouldnt be bothered if people posted as per your example a nice pic of themselves that happens to be taken at the wedding.

Anniepie - No one is saying it is wrong for you to put your personal life etc out there but it is not something that everyone wants to do, as Mooey said my day was a private affair and I shared it with the people I wanted to share it with and we have all shared our photos of the day without the help of social media, however I feel no need to share it with everyone I have ever met and everyone my friends have ever met!

I'm thinking about asking people not to post anything until we're back from honeymoon. Some friends of ours got married last year and went straight away afterwards. Whilst they were away lots of people posted photos on got the inevitable oohs and ahhs. By the time the married couple got back and, all excitedly, posted on Facebook, everybody had already seen photos and the excitement had gone.

Absolutely. I HATE facebook. I really fail to see the point of it, I'll concede that maybe its good for finding a few old lost friends, but asides from that, I don't want to know what sandwich people are eating for lunch or what some old man on the bus iis doing.

Trivia at its worst, and I really don't want something as special as my wedding on there.

I dont think people exercising the right to keep the most special day of their lives private is paranoid! No one has said they dont want to do it as bad things may happen they just choose not to share the information in the same way I choose not to trouble people with the details everytime I blow my nose!

You won't understand why we wanted to keep our wedding photos away from FB because you're not the same person as me. It is not 'paranoia' - I keep my life private online, always have done always will do.

Our tog didn't put any photos of our wedding on their website or FB page and said that she hasn't for other couples either.

These girls drove to attempt sucide so I dont want them to have anything to do with me or my life!! That involves viewing my pictures. They bullied me about the way I looked. I hate the idea of them being able to view my pictures and potentially rip me to shreads again!

Pure vanity here - I'd be beyond peed off if someone posted a pic of me ON my wedding day (i'm not talking about weeks later here) and it was dodgy.

Double chin, red eye, all are easily captured on a mobile phone camera!

I want people to see pics that i've vetted before the dodgy ones crawl out (and then i'll just find the dodgy ones funny as i'll have hopefully lapped up a million nice comments by then haha!)

Oooo good topic.... I dont think you can really 'stop' guests putting photos on FB, social networking is becoming more and more the way of life, crazy in my eyes but true.

I use FB for keeping in touch with friends, mainly nights out nice to see the pics. But thats where it ends for me, I have never put any photos on of holidays with my OH or weekends away. Think you have to keep some things in life private, plus OH dosent do FB, thinks its all a bit sad.

Friends will put photos of our day on FB and thats ok I guess they are just happy for you and want to show what a good day they had

Before you go away, can you select the option to not show any photos that you are tagged in? That way no one will see them on your profile. I know it doesn't stop other people from viewing them on your friends' profiles, but I'm not sure that there is a great deal you can do about it.

As an aside, I always think it's a real shame when half the congregation are watching the ceremony through their camera.

There are only two pics of our wedding on FB, mobile phone ones posted by a friend as an update to some joint friends in Mexico. They are too blurry to cause me any worry.

I didn't make any requests our of our guests re: putting their own photos on FB. Nobody has - even the friend above hasn't posted her "posh camera" photos. I haven't posted any of our professional ones (not sure if I will) so it's possible that if I were to do that, the floodgates would open. As it stands, our friends are either taking their cue from us or don't give a sh*t

Ooh, interesting debate!

I, personally, love Facebook. A great deal of my friends on there are overseas, so for me it's nice to be able to keep them updated and for me to get updates on them. And my wedding photos will be a part of that. I also have lots of photos of my children on there for the same reason. My page is completely private, so only my friends can see what I am posting on there. If other people post photos of me that I find dreadful, I'll ask them to remove it.

I can completely understand the worry of people you don't know being able to view your photos. I'm sort of of the opinion, though, that in this day and age, where everyone has a camera in their pocket all the time, if they really wanted photos of you that badly they could easily take them without you even knowing about it. You could go to the extremes that walking down the street could be dangerous because someone out there could take your photo and post it on the internet. I know that's very extreme, but where do you draw the line?

Each to their own, but I'll be happy to see my photos on there.