Photos, Facebook and general etiquette

I think most people would use their own discretion when it comes to posting pics but if you do find a few you don't like just pm the person & ask them if they wouldn't mind taking it down. These days Facebook is an unstoppable force, we just have to hope people will be sensible!

I think you just need to relax and accept you aren't going to look perfect in every picture, and no one will expect you to. If a particularly horrendous one goes up you can de-tag yourself, but you just need to learn to laugh at yourself. If you take it too seriously, people will think you're stuck up!

I have a couple of pics of friends very drunk on nights out with nipples hanging out or a knicker flash when the knickers aren't covering much, and whilst we have laughed at these via private email, we wouldn't dream of uploading to Facebook. I think most people have the same level of decency!

My cousin got married last year and they made several announcements during the day/evening asking people not to post on fb etc.

Irony is, the bride and groom are what can only be described as fb addicts. Every waking thought and deed is recorded in their numerous status updates each day and when everyone had headed off to the reception, they were left taking photos of each other outside the Town Hall on their phones!

I did bite my tongue - I was very good

How bad can we really look on our wedding day?! I bet that will be the last thing on your mind. I am personally not going to make any comments about fb but if it does really bother you just spread it via friends and family, ask your best man or MC to say something - or put it on your fb status on the morning!

Yes I think you either have to be 100% no photos are to go on FB in any circumstances. Or not say anything at all. You can't really say, 'feel free to put pics on fb, but only nice ones. None if I have red eyes, or a double chin, or you know that bit of fat that hangs over your bra strap? Well if you can see that, don't put that picture up either. All others are welcome.'

Oooh we had a thread like this a few months ago - will try and find it..

General consensus though was that you risk coming across as a complete bridezilla if you start dictating what people can and can't put on their facebook.

And how bad can you really look on your wedding day?

If anything does appear that you aren't so keen on then just detag yourself, or if it offends you that badly then just politley ask the person who posted it to delete it.

Here's a couple of previous threads.

https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/209350.aspx?PageIndex=1

https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/t/239003.aspx?PageIndex=1

I don't think you could tell people not to post pics to be honest.

I've got my fb set so that if people tag me in a photo I have to approve it before it shows on my profile, that's probably about as good as you'll get it unless as others have said you want to sound like a total 'zilla

I will be asking people not to post pictures of us. If they want to post of themselves etc that's different. I have high privacy settings but that doesn't mean everyone else does

Plus I don't like the idea of anyone and everyone being able to see me and my husband on our special day. I will ask my Dad to mention it in his speech

Fair points, one and all. Life's too short eh? I have now officially decided to go with the flow... ?

This is absolutely true...its a bit like trying to stop the tide coming in. The main issue is that some people post images that they think are good, although you may think very differently.

One of my clients requested that guests do not post pictures on facebook. I sympathised with her on this - and hope your guests would be understanding (I'm sure they would be).

I'm also capable of looking like a gargoyle on random pictures, and totally understand where you're coming from!

I am getting ready at my mums and several people on my street said they are going to come and watch me get in the car.

I have asked them not to post any pictures on facebook until after 6pm that day. This is just so that my OH does not see me on FB before he sees me in person. Everyone I have spoken to has been happy to comply with this. I can't wait to see my pics on FB when i get back from my honeymoon :-)

I'm with you on that one Clarabella - I'm honestly not bothered by the thought of being on Facebook at all.

To be honest, I think you'd get a better reception from your guests if you asked them to post no photos at all on facebook than if you asked them to only post nice ones! I know that some people on here have done that, or have set up a password-protected site for people to upload photos onto.

I have no objection to my wedding pics being on fb, though my privacy settings are pretty high. But if you don't want people to post stuff, just say so - but make it a blanket rule rather than cherry picking!

OP, you may have noticed that I was the OP of one of the linked threads.

We ended up mentioning to people about the FB thing and everyone understood. People still took photos and passed them on to us on a disk. We put a couple on FB and people have seen our photo albums full of pictures. Bumblebrat is the only person to have looked through all 11...

Change your privacy settings so you need to approve any tags before they will up load. FB is a pest at times, but I am sure your OH will have more important things like being at the alter/register than checking his FB!!

We're getting married abroad with just family joining us. I have asked them not to post any pictures of the wedding until after the reception when we get home, so people coming to the party can still have that little surprise of seeing us!

You could always ask the best man to take possession of his mobile for the day!!!!