Photos on Facebook

I would just keep it short and sweet, something like "While we love that you're taking photos, we'd really appreciate you enjoying them just to yourselves, and re-frame from posting to any social media sites such as Facebook for our privacy" something like that. I'd say that you're still happy with them taking photos but just not published on FB.

Agree with Laura (but should be 'refrain' rather than 're-frame').

Haha, of course. Thanks Kharv ?

Haha no worries - I initially thought it was actually about framing the photos. Ha! ?

A few couples this year have asked that their photos not to be published on facebook and my web site, which is ok, after all it's your wedding.

This is what a couple wrote to me recently.

"whilst in principle I don't have a problem with images being used would it be possible for me to give my permission at a later date, once I've had sight of the images? I'm just cautious in case there's an image I don't like which I wouldn't want actively published - I am sure this won't be the case as all your images are beautiful."

Oh and if you don't want your photos published on facebook then you better tell your guests, I got a txt message from my wife while I was shooting a wedding saying that she has just seen a photo of me taking the group shots. ?

Nothing worse than the groom seeing the bride in her dress on facebook before he does.

We are putting the following:

We would be delighted to see any photo’s that you take today, however we do ask that you refrain from uploading images onto social media until after 8:30pm so that our evening guests have had the opportunity to arrive and experience our day for themselves.

I'd keep it short.

'please feel free to take as many pictures as you like but please don't share them on social networking sites'

tbh I'm not worried ! I can't wait to see my eyes feed full of me haha x

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I would just keep it simple, as suggested. 'Please do not post pictures onto social networking sites'.

However it really didn't bother me and tbh I was so happy to look through the few that had been posted as it was a while til we saw the proper ones. You might regret it! After all, how bad can they really be?

I must admit it was the same for us. It was lovely to look at them when we were on honeymoon and we knew we wouldn't see our pro ones for a good few weeks.

Agree with everyone else keep it short and sweet & straight to the point
I had thought about doing something similar but not going to bother, will only be secretly raging if I look totally terrible in ones haha but i'd hope friends and family wouldn't put those ones up

How on earth can you possibly look terrible on your wedding day?! Honestly, no matter what you think you will look like, guaranteed you will look gorgeous.

You could also update your fb settings so that you have to approve photos before being tagged in them. At least then if anyone ignores your request and posts them on fb they wont appear on your newsfeed.

For me it has nothing to do with how I look in photos! Our day is personal to myself and OH and I wish to only share it with the guest I've invited!

i'll be including a small note in the invites basically saying the above and request photo be uploaded to our wedding website! At least that way I'll get to see them! Of course I'll want to!!!

I would just like to hope my family members aren't A) Stupid enough to do that and B) So bored of my wedding that they are sat on Facebook.

Yes!!

Im very anti Facebook as it is. It will be mentioned in the invites that no pictures are to be posted of our day. (In a nice way)

the thought of people posting pictures of our day online to a bunch of strangers angers me.

When our son was born a few people we knew posted pictures up of him before many of my own family got to meet him. They got a sharp phone call.

Grrrrr rant over. Lol!

I don't think the OP mean actually during the wedding. They're talking about after.

This. I really like this idea - personally I don't mind my pics being on Facebook as I'm a huge attention seeker, but I do think it's quite nice to ask guests to wait until later in the day so that evening guests can see for themselves. I might so something similar.

Another idea is to change your Facebook privacy settings so that you have to approve any tags before they appear on your timeline. Mine is set to this as a matter of course as I like to see the pic before allowing it to be displayed on my wall. With this setting, any mutual friends may end up seeing the pics on the wall of the person who uploaded them, but anyone else who is not a mutual friend will only see them on your wall once you've approved it.

Just as a side thought, I actually think it is quite bad etiquette to upload photos (particularly of the bridal party - guest pics don't matter so much) as the day goes on and as a guest I would never do this anyway! At our friend's wedding last week I didn't upload any pictures until the next day. But I appreciate you can't rely on everyone to think this way. ?