Please help - 1 week till wedding, but I am going to somehow have to cancel

Oh my lovely what an awful thing to hear!

Are you sure it was him?? Did you record it? If so I suggest you play it to him and see his reaction, then you'll know.

I really dont know what to say. xx

You poor thing, how awful!

I would confront him, you are going to have to. Its going to be painful but you cant marry him with a question mark like this hanging over your head.

Firstly ?

Make sure the message is saved on your voicemail so you can play it back to him. Where did he tell you he was?

How awful you poor thing I wouldn't say a word, I'd just wait till he got home and then tell him I have something I want him to listen too. When you play it you will know from his reaction. Have you had any suspicions about his behaviour to date?

When you find out the truth and if it is what you think, remember there is no shame in cancelling a wedding, however short the notice. If someone shows so little respect for you that they would be unfaithful and lie about it, you risk a lot of unhappiness in the long term.

I hope all is not what it seems.

Oh what a horrible thing for you to be going through. Lots of hugs, love and cuddles to you xx

Hopefully you can speak to your mum or friend for support before he comes home. Keep strong honey xx

Thank you. I think I am just going to play it to him and see what he says. It will be obvious something is wrong as my face is red and swollen from all the crying. I have booked a hotel room for later as I don't think I can be around him after it comes out. I don't want to speak to anyone just yet as I need to start getting my head around it all. I know I can't marry him as this is a big no no for me. I have never been suspicious and I trusted him. It is 100% him so there is no doubt in my mind. God this is awful.

I'm so glad you realise this. I know so many people who had doubts but felt they were too far down the road to cancel and went through with it hoping for the best. They are all divorced.

So so sorry to hear this. You're doing the right thing - the other ladies are right. xx Hugs xx

God I'm so sorry, you poor thing. x

Oh lovely this is heart wrenching! I am so sorry to read this.

You know where we are if you need to off load later.

Sorry to read this x

He has text to say he's nearly back and to put the kettle on. I'm so scared . Thank you for listening ladies xx

We'll be here when you need us. Stay strong x

I feel sick for you. Awful situation. With his job does he have to work away often?

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this is horrific.

We're here if you need us poppet

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this is horrific.

We're here if you need us poppet

So much so I said it twice!

No he doesn't work away that often as he works as he works for bbc in London and has only stayed away once in the last 5 years for work.

I'm so sorry poppet. Sending you strength and hugs.

here if you need us xx

You have been so strong even waiting for him to come home!

I'm really sorry to hear this hun. We are all here for you. Be strong x

You are doing so well. Keep strong! There's people here but if there's someone you can get a hug from in real life please do that too. Big hugs.

I think you've done the right thing, to wait until you're face to face. Big deep breaths & walk away when you need to. Don't let him convince you to stay at home, you will need some space & he needs time alone to realise what he's done.

Oh blimey... How awful. Atleast it's happened before the wedding where you can do something about it.... Be strong my luv.

Big insignificant hugs ?

Nat

I feel sick for you. This is truly awful. If it is any consolation, you have a whole group of ladies on here behind you and thinking of you. I wish you all the best sweetie, awful as it is, it may be better that it comes out before rather than after the wedding. If I could give you a hug I would! ?

This!

I know it is prob the last thing you want to see anyone, but is there anyone you could ask to meet you at the hotel? I hate the thought of anyone sitting in that state alone.

I really feel for you x

Oh bless you sweetheart.... This is sickening. Be strong, take care and stick with your feelings. Please talk to someone who can be there to support you in person. We are all thinking of you and here to offer any support we can. Look after yourself, and when you feel able to, please check back in here to let us know you are okay. Sending much love xxx

Stay strong, hugs, thinking of you

Very sorry to hear this, as everyone else says I hope you have someone to talk to and you know you can rant/talk all you like on this forum, there is always someone that has been through the same or up later to talk to ?

Firstly I really really hope your ok but I think the only way around this is to confront him and tell him what you heard!massive massive hugs honey xx

Oh how awful for you. ☹️

I hope that you are staying strong, we're all here for you.

Thank you for all your comments. He tried to blame it in a colleague but I knew it was him. He cried and said it was a one off drunken mistake but the trust is gone. He said it never went any further as he couldn't go through with it but I know he is lying to me. I heard what was said, so I know he wouldn't have stopped. I'm not stupid and I'm just as disappointed that he thinks I am. I've told him its over and the wedding is off. I'm at the hotel now and feel exhausted. I am glad I know but I obviously would never ever have wanted this to happen as I love him so much and your feelings don't just end. I can't be with someone that could do that to me. I will call my family and friends tomorrow but I need to get my head straight. Thank u for helping me. Got to unravel a wedding now xx