Please help - 1 week till wedding, but I am going to somehow have to cancel

I'm so sorry flower.

keep your chin up, it's not going to be easy but if the trust has gone for me too that'd be it.

I hope you can surround yourself with supportive people and don't isolate yourself. Hope you're going to be ok by yourself tonight. We are here if you need us.

Love and hugs xx

Firstly hun, Thankyou for taking the time to update us and let us know you are as ok as can be. Secondly, you are doing the right thing, as terribly hard as it is. He's a very foolish man. Try and get some sleep, difficult as it will be. Yes, speak to your family and take up offers of help they may give towards contacting all necessary parties. And yes, we can't switch off love like a switch.... It will hurt, but remember you have people who genuinely love you and will want to support you all they can. Chin up, brave lady. Look after yourself xxx

I am so sorry to hear this but you are being very strong. I had a similar situation many years ago with a previous partner.

Do you have a really close friend who can help you through this? Or will your family help you contact the suppliers? x

Wow... You are a VERY strong lady. Good for you for sticking to what you believe is right!!! What a SILLY boy to throw everything he has away like that.

Try your best to get some sleep tonight. Don't worry about the wedding or anything until the morning. Then get your friends and family to help you

Nat

What an awful update, I am so sorry!

For what its worth I think you are doing the right thing! xx

Things will work out for the best in the end hun! Keep strong and I'm sure you will have support from all avenues

Some people just don't think before they do silly things about what they could end up throwing away!

Big hugs X

Hope you are looking after yourself xx

Goodness, this is shattering to see my love but I wholeheartedly agree with what most people have been saying so far. You have been so amazing and brave, keep it up, you have absolutely done the right thing! As others have said; it is hard and it hurts but it will get better. If this was buried down and the wedding went ahead, it would not get better. It would always be there until you crack, further down the line it would be harder and even more painful. So you ARE doing the right thing now even if it feels horrible. Sending love and hugs xx

I just wanted to add my support and know that this morning will be awful for you too. I hope you have people around you who will help you through the next few days.

Agree with this. I am one of those people. Split up with my now ex husband a month before the wedding, but was too ashamed and embarrassed to cancel the wedding at short notice. Persuaded him to give it a go, which we did. We separated after 15 months and were divorced before our second anniversary. In hindsight, I wish I'd had the strength to cancel. Huge hugs for what you're going through. If you can't face he wedding planning board, lots of us are over on Off Topic if you need to chat x

So sorry you have had to go through this, I can't imagine what you must be feeling. But as the others have said I think you are doing the right thing.

Agree with what another poster put (can't remember the name) about having an appointed 'phone call person', think it will be too difficult for you to go over the same conversation with each person you have to phone.

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xx

Hope you are ok. You poor poor thing. Please don't be alone, do you have someone that could come over and cancel everything for you? I know it is going to be a horrible day today, but once it's done it's over and you never have to deal with the rat again.

lots and lots of inadequate hugs.

You poor poor poor thing, so sorry it's ended like that.

if there's anything we Hitcher's can do, just shout xx

Couldn't read and run. You,ve been so brave, stay strong and try hard to eat and drink, you have to stay well.

Xxxx

You are so strong and inspiring. You can just tell you just need some time and then you'll move onwards and upwards. Sx

I didn't want to read and run, hope you are holding up best as possible.

You will get through this, sadly my Auntie also had to do this (not in as short space of time) because her then H2B turned out to be someone entirley different.

And just to echo what everyone has said, hitchers are always here for advice and pop to Off Topic if you want to escape the wedding side of things.

x

To echo everyone else.....you have been so strong and brave I am not sure I could have done it. Please do keep in contact and know that our support is here!

So sorry to hear this. You must feel devestated. I hope you can remain sytring and come through this xxx

Sending hugs and lots of healing thoughts, a blessed escape from a lifetime of the small glimpse you heard xx

So sorry to hear this twinkle, sending virtual hugs, hope that you are ok.

Hi Ladies,

Thank you all so much for your messages and kind words. Its been an awful awful day, but I am back home after kicking him out. I called my mum and my 2 best friends who were my bridesmaids this morning and told them what has happened. They have all been brilliant and I couldn't have gotten through today without them all. I took the advice given by a few posters and asked them to call around which they did with no hesitation. They have literally called everyone today and cancelled everything. Most places were OK, but obviously there were a few disgruntled people. They have all been paid though and only the cake lady has cancelled the order and offered a full refund which was not. Doesnt make a deant in what we have lost but couldn't care less about the money right now! They have also called around most of the guests. Ive told him to sort his side out so he can explain himself. It feels so final in regards of the wedding. Have spent the last 18 months planning it and its been unravelled in less then 24 hours. I am so confident though that I have done the right thing but I am totally and utterly heartbroken as I love this man so much. I can't even begin to think what will happen next and how I recover from this but I know it will get easier. I have gone from being a week away from being a married women to being single again. It was horrible today knowing that if I hadn't of found out then I would be married this time next week. He (Craig) has been trying to call me all day. I spoke to him once to tell him to leave me alone and he begged me to forgive him, but I can't and won't be with someone like that. I know he is heartbroken and regrets whatever he has done, but its of his own doing. Sorry for the long post. It helps righting it down and being able to say exactly what I want. I am ordering a big fat chinese now as I don't have to worry about getting in a dress xxx

This is the spirit my love!

Big hugs, I'm so glad you got you mum and girls to help you, what lovely ladies. Xxx

Relatively new to this forum but couldnt read and run. So sorry to hear your news and I hope you stay strong! Well done for doing what you thought was the right thing ( I completley agree for what its worth) and good luck with everything xxx

Youll be fed up with people telling you how brave you are being..but you really are and not many brides would cancel but you are right not to marry craig. You would be entering marraige with no trust. You know all this which is why you cancelled. One day you will marry and it will be with a man that deserves you ?

I just wanted to pop in and give you a ?.

You're doing the right thing and I think you'll be fine (in time), you've done fantastically so far. No one should have to deal with this.

Just as others have said, shout if you need anything at all.

Look after yourself. xx

Reading all this make me feel very emotional. How brave you are! I don't know if I would find so much courage!! I think you've made the right decision. Take care and stay strong x

I couldn't just read this and not comment. I am sure the hurt feels unbearable now but it will get better and as others have said, you are 100% right to do what you have done. A marriage has to be built on trust and mutual respect. Take comfort from your friends and family.

Have just seen this too, want to offer my support and wishes for you too. You are being incredibly brave and strong and although it must have been so hard to do the right thing you did it and should be so proud of that strength and use it to keep moving forward.

I'm pretty sure there is always someone on here so if there is anything you want to offload to someone other than family and friends you know where to come. Lots of hugs xx

I am so staggered by how strong you're being. I think it's amazing.

What a stupid, stupid man.

He will regret this forever. Much better than you regretting marrying him forever.

Stay strong and if you still fancy a chat without the wedding bits, pop over to OT.

I really don't feel brave! I can't delete the message and have listened to the message a few times. I know I shouldn't but can't help it. His mum cold me who I get on okish with but she has really offended me. She things I'm being unfair and I should have given it a few days before canceling it. She said she knows her son has done wrong but he loves me. I hung up in the end.

Aww don't listen to his mum (he will always be her little boy), you have done what was right for you. He did a horrible thing and deserves everything he gets! Remember you are so much better and deserve someone who loves you and wants only you! You have been so brave and strong, a wonderful woman! *hugs*