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Please help - BM trouble - long sorry!!

keava, 18 April, 2008 at 19:33 Posted on Planning 0 4

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Hi
My Bm is starting to do my head in and Im totally stressed about it.
It started with her organising the hen. And calling people twice a week to see if they were going and why they wern't etc. So the other BM got it all sorted and now the hen is on track. first BM now wants all emails/ calls etc re:hen forwarded to her also.

My h2bs stag is on 2nd may. So I invited some girls over for drinks etc. My mum is coming over too til tues which will be great. The BM said she was coming over the next w/e which was cool. But has now changed it to the 2nd, and is getting the ferry. 2hrs away!!!
She wants me to collect her. 4hr round trip to pick her up at 7pm and will be back at 9/9.30.
Some of the girls are coming to mine from work and my mum will be here so that creates one problem! Do i just leave them to it?

Problem 2 - She is staying til mon. My mum is here til tues and my h2b gets back on sun. So where will she sleep? not major but still.

I would love to spend time with my mum just us. We are very close but live in different countries so any time together is great. But don't want the BM to feel left out ?

Mum and BM have paid for flights /ferry. So cancelling isn't an option. and I don't want the BM to feel bad but what can I do

Please help girls!!?
Love k
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Beginner August 2008
Smiler08 · 18 April, 2008 at 19:44
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OK First of all big ?. My best friend had a nightmare BM, but she was also one of her longest friends so she said she would have felt awful if she hadn't have asked her. When we got engaged she said that she was looking for all her notes and things to pass on to me and found hundreds of notebooks and cards that her BM had sent her with ideas, etc. I know she drove her mad but you have to be strong. This is YOUR day and I think you need to explain this VERY gently to her. One of my BM's lives in Cardiff - I live in London and our wedding is near Eastbourne and she isn't all that mobile. The distance is making things difficult, but I try to keep her in the loop.
As for what you do - do you have any friends near you that could help you out? I know it's not ideal but would it be an option for your mum to come with you when you take your BM to the ferry and for both of you to stay in a nice B&B for the night as a treat? I know we're all saving like mad but it would save on your time and sanity?
I'm not sure what else to suggest. Could your BM change her flight for when your H2B gets back so you could combine those journeys?
I hope it all goes well Sxx
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Beginner January 2008
ebee · 18 April, 2008 at 19:56
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Tell your friend to get a bus from the ferry as you will already have guests ... and she will have to put up with an inflateable mattress on the floor ? really though, don't pander to one person or you'll drive yourself demented. Your friend already knew you'd made plans for that weekend so she'll have to fit in around them ?
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saz71 · 18 April, 2008 at 20:01
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quote:Originally posted by ebee
Tell your friend to get a bus from the ferry as you will already have guests ... and she will have to put up with an inflateable mattress on the floor ? really though, don't pander to one person or you'll drive yourself demented. Your friend already knew you'd made plans for that weekend so she'll have to fit in around them ?
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Beginner February 2009
lishdesigns · 18 April, 2008 at 21:00
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I agree, you already had plans in plce with other friends. Tell her to get bus/train and you will then pick her up from nearest station. She has to understand that it is about YOU right now.

have a ? tho!
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Beginner July 2008
keava · 18 April, 2008 at 22:02
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Thanks girls
Have called her and said I can't pick her up and that shes more than welcome for fri adn sat but sun adn mon I will be with my mum.
She will go and see other friends here.
Seems ok but have a feeling its all going to go pear shape and only 12 weeks to go til the day?!!

K
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