My younger sister is mentally handicapped and we very much want her to be a part of the wedding. As she cannot read or write - she can't be a witness, and she couldn't do a reading or a speech for the same reason.
We have asked her to be a BM and she appears at the moment to be very excited about this - loving the idea of a 'pretty dress' and sparkly 'grown up shoes' ( her words not mine - i'm not being patronising). However we do realise that even on the day itself if not before, she may decide that she doesn't want to walk down an aisle in front of people and instead want to just go into the room wth my mum.
We are trying to think of ways that my sis can be 'noticed' for want of a better word, the same as the other BMs will be, should she decide this at the last minute. We are having a civil ceremony but there is a long ago tradition that is still practised in Amreica whereby a specific piece of music plays when the Bride's mother enters the room to signify the bride is here and that the ceremony is due to start. Kind of like a 'here comes the bride's mum' song. They do it for other members of the wedding party too sometimes iykwim?
Anyway, the dilema we have is how to make the song differ from those we are playing before i arrive, whilst the guests are in the ceremony room waiting for the ceremony to start. I don't want my mum and sis to enter and the guests not be aware because the song sounds like the others being played and i'm not sure if my mum entering the room to take her seat to my entrance music is appropriate? Maybe i could have one song for my mum and sis to enter to, then my 2 other BMs who are going in before me and i could have a different song?
Sorry this is quite long, but it's a tricky stuation and i'd love some opinions on what you would do, and any songs you feel may be appropriate if your mum and sis were to enter to their own song.
Thanks for reading this and i hope you understand what i'n asking x
