Plus ones..

We have given all our day guests an evening plus one, along with our evening guests. We didn't want people we don't know that well at the day

We only gave plus ones to people who didn't know anyone else there. There were only a couple, so I called them in advance, asked who they would like to bring and addressed the invitation to both of them.

We're going to invite people in the context that we know them i.e. if we meet up with them and their partners then we will invite them and partner, where we just see a friend on their own and don't know their partner, we'll invite them on their own (unless they don't know anyone else). I don't like the idea of there being people I don't know at our wedding.

I have generally only invited partners I know. My single friends haven't got plus ones. I have introduced a couple of my single friends to each other and they also met on hen do so they will know a few people. Have invited 2 partners don't know so well - one is flying over from France so thought it only fair to invite her boyfriend. The other is in a group where I have invited all other partners as know them. Like others, didn't want people I don't know at my wedding!!

If you know the plus one's name then put their name. If not, and it's an open invite to bring a date then I think 'plus guest' is a nice way to phrase it.

In terms of who to give it to? A potential minefield!! I personally would give it to a guest who didn't know anyone else (perhaps a work colleague if no others were invited) or to someobe who lived with or was engaged to a friend regardless if if I had met them. As much as I'd love to, I don't have space for all my guests to have a plus one.

HTH J x

We found out the names of their other halves before writing. Facebook is great for that. We did have a couple of people and we just wrote "plus one" but wish we'd written "plus Guest" now because it sounds better.

I must say, I was pretty offended when my hubby to be got an invite 'plus guest' even though we had been together for 4 years, lived together for 2 and been together longer than the couple who were getting married. And both the bride and groom could easily have looked up my name on Facebook. The bride had never met me but the groom had, and I knew her name! Rude!

Were inviting all the partners of our day guests but if they don't have a partner they won't just get a plus one as i dont think its right to just bring a friend along...we will only be sending invites with their names on so none will actually say 'plus one' as we will know everyones partners...if we have the funds i may invite a small group of friends to the day as well but we will be giving their partners invites to the evening do as we only have room for them alone to the day...they all know each other though! x

I am having one plus one to our wedding. The person getting one is playing the organ for me and her other half is better so it might be he plays as well. She knows no one else at the wedding.

Have upset one friend who is bitching about me behind my back but I just don't have the space and she has made no effort to speak to me about it or even come out to meet my other half but moans that she hasnt met him so not really bothered.

I have some people who have been with partners for quite a while but don't know the group of friends the are part of in my life and following conversations with the friend they are not invited, would have been one bloke with 5 females who have a lot in common that he would not enjoy.

On this I am being tough, if they don't like they don't have to come if its that much of a problem.

I am just inviting partners I know. Although the exception is a couple of my friends who have babies (not married but with the dad) I have invited the partners even if I dont know them, as it seems a bit weird to invite part of the family x

I am not a fan of random plus ones I have only invited people I know are in relationships, and found out their names so its addressed to the couple. The only exception is one person who would know no one else at the wedding.

Boys cousin we have since got in a relationship so we have extended the invite to her.

We've invited people that we know as couples. Single friends haven't had a plus one as they all know other people. Single friends who've just got a new girlfriend/boyfriend or just fancy bringing a date have not been allowed a plus one.

Had we been in the situation where we had a single friend who literally didn't know anybody else, we might have allowed a plus one. In that situation, we probably would have spoken to them beforehand, asked if they wanted to bring a guest and address the inviation to both names. However, "John plus guest" is also acceptable.

We are not plus ones but we also know all out friends OH's so it was never really an issue for us. I did tell me MOH that her ex couldnt come as they where not together when we got engaged but that was more because I really didnt like the guy and he was treating her really badly. Thank god they have now broken up and she has a lovely B.F now who is invited and have since confessed that this was the reason behind it!

My and OH both work at the same place, and we know lots of people there that we wanted to invite to the evening reception,

Of the people that we invited, one guy had just been left by his wife, and had a gf, so we put the gf's name on the invite. In the meantime, he has split with the gf and is now back with his wife, and he had to tell his wife that the invite was for him and a plus one, and that it accidentally got lost at work so that the wife would not see that her name wasn't on it :-) lol

He even asked if I could do him another invite with his wifes name on instead .. lol

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I think we're going to do it that just evening guests will have a 'plus guest' after their name if they're single or we don't know their partner.

All our day guests we know their partners, and one group of friends are all single so happy to come together and there are two other singletons, one who's in my group of friends going - the other I'm still considering maybe inviting her sister or mum as I know them well and they wouldnt be a stranger, but giving her someone to come with.

I have an extra questions though - for one of the evening guests, I don't know if her child took her or her partners surname and I don't actually know her partners name so he was going to be 'plus Guest' but how would you phrase their child as I know his first name, just not surname? Would it be 'Her Name plus Guest with Childs first Name' or Her Name plus two guests' or any other suggestions? This ones a bit puzzling...

I had one of these and went with the

"Her Name, Guest and Child's Name" option, I wasn't entirely happy with it but it was the best option I could think of, she RSVP's- they're all coming so she obviously understood the invite and was happy with it.

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Isn't there any way you can find out the names? like facebook or mutual friends? Or just text and ask her?!

I didn't put surnames on our invitations, didn't have enough space!