Plus One's

Will there be other people there in the day that your cousins know/see regularly? If so I personally don’t see an issue with inviting just the 5 cousins without partners. The main reason we like to take a plus one to a wedding is so that we have someone to sit with/talk to rather than feeling awkward on your own.

I have a similar situation with my work colleagues. I’m not giving them plus ones but am planning on putting an extra note into their invitations just letting them know that this is due to our numbers & that as they all know each other I will sit them together etc.

Thanks for your reply.

Yes it's mostly all family going and they will know most of the people that are going anyway, they'd be on a table with everyone they know, i'm sure if we explained it to both my aunties (one on each side of my parents family) there would be no issue if I was to say that we could only afford to invite married partners.

There was a big fall out between my uncle and my parents (his children are 3 of my cousins) about 6 years ago and they've only recently started speaking so we've not had anything to do with 2 of my cousins (who are male) for the last 6 years, just the one that came to my hen do, so it's not like we have been to any family events with them and the two boys would probably walk past me in the street without speaking so to invite them and their partners as well is alot of money to pay out when in some ways I would just want to invite the boys to the evening only but I know I couldn't invite my other cousins without inviting them, it's just difficult to know whether to not invite any of them or invite them without partners. I know when I was maid of honor for a friend she didn't invite my boyfriend at the time to the day or the evening so I know alot of people don't think twice about not inviting partners.

Family politics are always awkward. We have invited partners too but that is because most of them are married. I think if you haven't had much contact with them all, then say the day numbers are limited so would they and their partner like to come to the evening do which leaves your closer family for the whole day?

The other alternative is to ask them/their parents before you send the invites. Give them the option of day for you or evening with partners and explain that you would really like them there for the day but are restricted by numbers. Then it is up to them and you get let off the hook.

Thanks

I know, everyone told me that it would be the family politics that would cause me the most stress and they were right!

That sounds like a good plan, I think my mum will talk to mu aunties and explain the situation and then we can decide from there what we do.

I hope you've managed to sort out where you're going to stay the night before xx

Haha no, family politics again. I found somewhere I would like with limited vacancies, but mum doesn’t like the idea of me staying in a B&B and wants me at her house. I have left it for now as I do want to keep her happy and will discuss it again later.

It is tricky keeping everyone happy, including ourselves! Let us know how you get on.

Family politics are great aren't they! I'm just glad that I get to stay at the venue the night before there isn't any issues then! Hopefully you get sorted soon!

I'll let you know how it goes!xx

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