Poll - Are you a Bridezilla or a Pushover?

I think I'm both....but more Bridezilla than pushover I think! ?

I'd say a bit of both

I can be a push over on certain things maybe

but everything else it's my way or the high way!

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Im definatly in the Bridzilla catagory,i have already vetoed my mum trying to harras me into a fruit wedding cake, one of my bridesmaids asking for a long sleeved dress (????) and my mum trying to invite her friends (dont think so!).

But then i have only been planning since start of jan so we shall see!

Bridezilla with a heart!

I like to think I've found a happy balance. I've asked people's opinions about things but, if its something I really want, I've gone ahead with my plans. Although that does mean I can't blame anyone else if it all goes pear-shaped!

Not sure - fairly middle I think - and a groom rather than a bride anyway.

I'm certainly not going to be pushed about into having things we don't want for our big day, but then I'm not going to go ballistic if something doesn't quite work out as we've planned.

I don't mind admitting I am mostly Bridezilla!

100% bridezilla!

This is actually me:

My OH has already renamed our Wedding "The Natalie show" and I have my own theme tune!!

I think I'm a bit of both. Some things I have allowed to let slide for the sake of keeping the peace, other things I have insisted on. For example, I'm letting my parents invite extra people to the reception... they're paying for it and I genuinely don't think I'll care by that point in the day. But I've insisted on things like my Routemaster buses, and I'm having a DJ that WE want and not one my dad has tried to foist on me!

Umm.....a thoughtfil bridzilla about most things but some things I wouldnt compromise on ie our cake & room decor.

I'm a Bridezilla by default I think - I've had virtually no input from family (his or mine) unless I push them for an opinion, and frusturatingly OH is the same on most things - very laidback and happy to leave the planning up to me - but at the same time I know what I want and woe betide anyone who tries to persuade me otherwise ?

I only compromise on things I don't care a jot about. Secretly, and this is dreadful, I have made out that I DO care about some things (when I don't) so that I can be seen to make a compromise (when in my head it's no such thing). Manipulative, moi? Oh golly, that's awful...?

Pushover ?

I'm getting married in England in front of 60 people as opposed to anywhere else [read somewhere hot!] with just me and OH. There are going to be TOTAL STRANGERS at my wedding. I have a flowergirl I don't want. I have a bridesmaid I don't want. We haven't got a honeymoon booked as we're having to pay to feed all these people and have a party for them.

Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled to be getting married, and I think we'll have an amazing day regardless. It'll just be a very different day to what we'd always wanted.

By nature im probably a Bridezilla,but my partners a pushover when it comes to other people so we majorly clash when i want my own way and he wants to keep others happy! lol

im a bit funny about accepting money from his parents towards the wedding for example - just dont like the idea, while he is insisting i accept it gracefully! ?

ah well we will see!

Somewhere in the middle, I hope!

I don’t see why you have to be either! I hate the idea that just because you are prepared to stick to your guns about what you want for your wedding day you might be a ‘Bridezilla’ or if you are prepared to compromise to make people feel included that you should be a ‘Pushover’!

I am approaching my wedding planning the way I approach everything in life – with a balanced mind that it should be a special day, but also aware that it is just one day in a whole lifetime together….

I have to admit I love watching Bridezillas on Wedding TV, but would be mortified if anyone ever said I was getting like one of those women.....however, nobody would ever call me a push over either. Me and OH are doing things our way ie we're eloping to Niagara Falls to get married in a helicopter, then having an amazing honeymoon, then when we get back we're having a full 'sham' wedding day at Bradford City's football ground (his choice, not mine hee hee). His mum isn't happy about any of it but she's beginning to understand that it's our wedding and we're doing what we want, whether it's her idea of a perfect wedding or not. It's not the wedding I always thought I'd have, but the more we out our own little stamp on it and the more we make our decisions on things, the more I realise that it's the wedding that suits me and my OH. Perfectly. For our first dance, instead of having anything slow and soppy because we're totally not like that, we're having a Will Smith medley - starting with Just the Two of Us to incorporate some nice feelings, then straight into a perfectly choreographed Men in Black (my favourite song and dance number lol) and finishing off with a rousing Boom Shake the Room to get everyone on the dance floor ?

There are so many bits of our wedding that people won't like because it's not traditional, but actually everything we're doing is so perfect for me and my OH and it really will be OUR day, I'm so excited about becoming his wife and we're just trying to focus on that instead of getting bogged down in the little insignificant details.

Im a complete pushover when it comes to the wedding, so booked our wedding abroad for just the two of us to stop me agreeing to things I wasnt happy about in the uk!

Im not sure where i fit in.......

I haven't had to compromise on ANYTHING! My parenst don't get involved and his parents dont get involved, his mum has offered to pay for our TOG and my mum is putting towards my dress.

I have told mum all of my ideas and she has just listened and ooo'd and ahhhh's in the right places.

It was even ME that went to all 3 sets of parents and gave them save the evenings to give to their friends, told them not to go crazy but they can invite who they want.

My bridesmaids got what they wanted dress wise those i believe it was up to them as they were paying for their dress's, though i got told off many times cause i was leaving it to them.

BUT there has been some tears when i wanted to spend a little more on our singer and h2b couldn't understand why (he got his way) but overall h2b is trusting my judgement he understands i want the little bits, it wont make the wedding but it will just make the day nicer

Haha im defo a bridezilla although keeping the temper tantrums to a minimum ? xx