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Beginner August 2012

Post wedding blues. What to expect!

HLT, 14 June, 2012 at 12:26 Posted on Planning 0 5
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Bit of background here but I do have a history of depression/anxiety so this has been playing on my mind a bit. Basically, I am now really excited about the wedding with just over 2 months to go, but I am concerned about how I will feel after. I am currently on maternity leave but due to go back to work a month after the wedding. We cannot afford a honeymoon so don't have any plans after the wedding (apart from work!) and we already have two children so starting a family isn't on the cards(!) so we don't have that to look forward to either... One of my close friends got depression after her wedding last year and was off work for 6 months with it, plus I've read posts about OMs getting wedding blues so I am after tips on what we can do to avoid it. We don't have the money to go on a holiday so that, sadly, isn't an option.

OMs - can you let me know how you felt after the wedding and offer any reassurance/tips to avoid the blues?

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Latest activity by Spookle, 14 June, 2012 at 14:45
  • DaffodilWaves
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    I felt relieved to have my normal life back! I consciously tried not to bore people by talking about it all the time and when it was over and we got back into everyday life, I wondered how I ever had time for it.

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  • Tizzie
    Beginner June 2012
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    I get married in two weeks so I cant tell you how i felt or what helped but I share a bit of the history with you unfortunately and i'm a bit worried too. I've been signed off work for a while and i'm due to go back a couple of weeks after the wedding. I tried not to get so absorbed in wedding plans (but I have). We are going on a honeymoon in September for a few days but i am still worried in between/afterwards when i dont have much to plan. Some of the things I want to do to see if helps:

    Handwrite thank you cards, so i've got a lot of work with those, i'm making them just now so i might need to make some more/add detail afterwards.

    Make a keepsake box of wedding things.

    Do a photo album myself rather than from a photographer.

    And after the honeymoon i'll be focused on Christmas as we have over 10 family birthdays between September and December and everyones Christmas to organise so i'm trying to focus on that.

    Will be watching this thread too

    S xx

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  • Zoomo13
    Beginner August 2015
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    How about organising a few day trips with the kids so that you have something to look forward to once a month or so, it doesnt even have to cost lots of money. i would recommend signing up for KGB deals as they always send out discounts for things like zoos etc.

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  • sian-tiffany
    Beginner May 2012
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    There is still a bit to do after the wedding. My house looks like a wedding bomb has hit it. Ive made a memory box and filled it with bits from the day, ive now sold all my bits so shipping them off to their new owners, sorting out the photographs and putting them in nice albums and frames, meet with photographer, got to write all the thank yous.

    Once that is all done we are going to do lots of socialising and going out with friends (will try and not bore them with wedding talk) then will do a few DIY projects and our bedroom needs doing etc.... plenty of this for us to do.

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  • teapotty
    Beginner October 2013
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    I agree with this - keep yourself busy. I have friends who are still trying to relive their wedding a year later so I think it's best to tell yourself now that life will go on as normal after the wedding. Cherish the memories but try not to dwell on them Smiley smile

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  • S
    Beginner August 2012
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    After planning for 20 months and stressing for the last few i am looking forward to no more wedding planning, i have loved it at times but will just be nice to wake up and not think WEDDING!

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