Post-wedding depression - question for OMs

I'm not an OM but it sounds like your friend needs a new focus. Could she plan a big family trip or adventure? Is there a big family occasion coming up? Big birthday or getting the kids christened or something? Bless her, it sounds like she's going through a rough patch.

That's a great idea, she's always said she wants the girls christened... that might be just the focus she needs. Thankyou x

Hope it helps xx

It is a bit of a come down after the wedding and I also felt a bit lost, having been planning for 18 months. we went on honeymoon a week later so that gave us something to look forward to then I focussed on new projects like birthdays, holidays, days out and made the most of the free time and not paying out for stuff constantly.

I can totally sympathise, got married 3 weeks ago, was abroad and had honeymoon there. Got back and was very deflated. However our reception is next week so have that to plan and then it's back to renovating the house PLUS I have a new job to start on the 8th!

I think with all the run up & the big day itself, you are on a real high so there's an element of coming down. We got married 3 weeks ago. Like your friend, we've been together for ages (I'm an older bride too), already have children etc & we had no honeymoon (just a few days off work while the kids were at school). It was lovely being off, until we checked our bank balance & realised we needed to just have relaxing time at home (no more lunches out).

However, got our photos back today & feeling really happy looking through the pics & reliving the day, & everyone looks so happy (not just OH & I) which has put me back on a mini-high!!!

I think there are some good suggestions above to help give your friend something to look forward to. Hope she feels bit brighter soon x

I can understand the feeling but it's also nice to get back to normal. I too was an August Bride but am still waiting for my photos so have that to look to forward to plus all the letters to write to official people to tell them of my change of name.

I've done all my thank you notes and have been back at work already. But everything feels much more settled now and official. Ok - not a lot may have changed in reality as we have together eleven years - but it sure beats the hell I went through this time last year!!

Things have settled down after all the hype and planning and gradually your mate will find other things to fill her time.

Swampy