Pregnant bridesmaid

It looks like our weddings are around the same time! My plan is to go shopping in the sales either online or in store with the girls around January.

Would it be an option to wait until then, then maybe get the dress a size bigger? It's much easier to get them taken in than taken out if you need that done.

It also depends if you plan on buying from the high street or from a boutique, as some will need ordered in, so it's worth checking how long they take to come it.

If you shop now, it may put pressure on her if she has trouble getting back to that size after the baby comes along.

I would possibly consider high street dresses there's some stunninh ones available, and it would mean being able to leave it until after baby is born.

You seem very considerate of her, she's lucky :-)

See I had pencilled in shopping for around January time Calella, but she'll be nearly full term by then and realistically probably wouldn't want to go shopping until at least March, which makes me feel a bit jumpy!!

If it's highstreet, you may even be able to leave it until March/April. If you're going for Autumn colours, the stock will be changing from Winter to Summer so your colours may even go on sale then.

Maybe have a chat with her and ask when she thinks she'll be up for going shopping. Maybe she'll want to get it done asap or maybe she'd rather leave it a while.

Agree with Lala though, it's nice that you're being so thoughtful!

I get that leaving it til then would make you nervous, but i think you'd likely be that if you bought now too. you'd be looking at your friend as she expanded and thinking 'crikey what if she doesn't?' and it'll put pressure on her and stress on you.

i reckon call bridal shops you're likely to go to and explain the situation and they can advise you of timelines for their suppliers.

if you buy now, she doesn't lose the baby weight and needs a modesty panel for example, a. she'll feel crappy, and b. you run the risk of the panel being a slightly different shade as it won't have been cut from the same role of material..... :/

6 months is plenty of time to find dresses and you should find in March shops are starting to have sales on of Autumn stock. You could go shopping now to find a colour that suits them and then plan your colour scheme around that. As long as you're not fussed about everything matching exactly you shouldn't have a problem finding something.

Thank you all, I might think about high street dresses. I'm glad you think I'm being considerate.. I'm trying to be! At the end of the day her health, baby and family are a zillion times more important than my wedding, as is our friendship. If baby takes up all her time and she doesn't want to organise hen etc she can turn up in a pretty dress on the day and I wouldn't care. I just want her involved. Even if that means bending the 'no family outside of family/wedding party' rule to accommodate the 6 month old addition ? (her daughter is my flower girl, so that was our loophole there!!)

Could we screen shot that and show it to the nightmare brides we get on here??

I'm going against the grain a little bit, but unless you know you're going to head for the high street, I would need to get it sorted before she has the baby. I say this because I ordered my bridesmaids' dresses on 4th February and they're going to be another 4-6 weeks arriving - so basically 6 months. I don't know what the timescale would have been if we'd needed a rush cut, but this might be worth asking your local bridal store in case you can't find what you want on the high street after the baby is born.

I totally get not wanting to put pressure on your MOH about her weight after the baby, but I'm a control freak and I would need the dresses sorting - perhaps she could select a style which skirts over the tummy? Or which laces up at the back? Or stretchy material? That would give her some give if she's a bit heavier than her current self but would still work if she snaps back into shape.

? I can't really help, just glad to see you have a level head! Definitely worth a chat with her though, only she'll know how she feels and what she'll be comfortable going for.

My BM is pregnant and due in Sept this year, we already have the BM dresses. Even though she wasn't expecting at the time we bought them I knew her intention was to have a baby asap as she had just got married so it was just a matter of time for her. I opted for dresses with an elasticated back and only really fitted on the bust (think Grecian style) so that in the event she was pregnant at my wedding, or had been pregnant just before (as is the case) there was plenty of stretch in the dress and enough fabric to permit alterations if required.

Everyone is different though, I liked to be super prepared, I had an awkward colour choice and didn't want to miss out on dresses that would fit each of the BMs once I found them in the right colour.

My maid of honour had her baby 4 weeks before our wedding and I said I was prepared to go shopping the day before the wedding if need be. As it was, she found a dress.about 3 weeks before baby was born which would still accommodate mummytummy and breastfeeding etc and which was a similar colour to the other bridesmaid dress.

For Me, her comfort was priority along with not adding any pressure to her. On the day, she looked amazing and I bet none one noticed the dresses didn't match...she was smiling and that took over!

Feel free!! I find it both truly puzzling and quite sad that people can expect someone they care enough about to ask to be a BM/MOH to arrange their entire life around one wedding day... Clearly I'm not normal!! ?

My bridesmaid had a baby 3 weeks ago, and our wedding is in just over 3 weeks. As she is my only bridesmaid we were able to time dress shopping around her. We'd been shopping a few times to get ideas of styles of dresses and in the end we bought one when she was around 4/5 months pregnant. We chose a maxi dress that can be easily altered.

I left the dress with her as we leave in different cities, and she has arranged to have it altered. She can do whatever she likes to the dress to make sure she feels comfortable on the day. We managed to get an absolute bargin with her dress too in the sales!