Pregnant Bridesmaid Dilemma!!

2 weeks before the wedding! Way too close to be a BM she will either be a brand new mummy and that will be all consuming (not to mention getting her post pregnancy body along to have alterations so her dress fits) or she will be overdue and getting dragged in for an induction.

All way too stressful x

My only concern would be about the dresses, if you buy a dress how will you be sure it will fit? You need to also think that she may be overdue.........

Doesn't sound like a rant to me. You should ask her what she wants to do. Most likely she'll be too tired to help with anything on the day of, and she might be giving birth within a few days if she's late. If that's the case she might not even be able to come to the wedding at all. She'll be having to nurse every couple hours, and probably won't last the whole day. Just ask her what she wants to do and do that.

Talk to her!!!!! Surely if she's your CB then you can have a good old blether about things. Tell her you're delighted that she's expecting but worried about things and ask her what she thinks. She could be an honorary BM and you could give her a lovely wrist corsage to wear. Ultimately she's your friend so this should be a decision you make together.

My friends sister was due 3weeks after her sisters wedding and she looked lovely, very pregnant but they choose a dress that came in maternity too......talk to her, if she feels confident doin it then i dont see a problem with it, as she gets closer and bigger she might not want to anyway xxxx

Another option if to have her do a reading at the church for you rather than be a CB. If she is too tired, in labour or recovering, someone else can step in, but otherwise, a reading is still imporant without her having to stand for hours during photos. SHe can still be involved in as much/as little of the other stuff too.

My Bridemaid phoned me last night to tell me she is pregnant too! But her baby will be due in Sept, so she will be 5/6 months pregnant for my wedding. She asked if I wanted her to step down, I said not a chance, we have already got the dresses, but i said we will see nearer the time, April/May see if anything can be done with the dress we have, if not we will look around for another in the same colour.

I know my BM wont be due like yours, but i would maybe have a talk with her and see how she feels, if she's saying she still wants to be BM at the moment, leave it as that and maybe a bit nearer the time see how she feels, whether she still wants to be BM.

2 weeks before the wedding! Eeek! I think I'd be more wondering whether she would even be attending, as a guest or otherwise. The baby will probably be here by your wedding day and I don't know if attending a wedding would be a new mum's priority at that point? I don't have personal experience, just my thoughts.

I can understand why you are sad though. She's special to you and you want her involved.

2 weeks is close i had a baby in september 2 weeks early i was due on day of my bros wedding i made it as a guest but i was very sore very tired and couldnt stand long (had a bad labour) i was asked to be a bridesmaid but turned it down and glad i did i was in no state to be bridesmaid and i felt massive and emotional still everyone is different though so talk to her she may have baby few weeks early herself and be up for it but may not know till last minute she may also drop out last minute. You also need to consider if shes breasfeeding newborn babies feed eratically at first and that is a hard job as a new mum u try and sleep when the baby sleeps even if its just an hr

one of my bms is due 4 weeks before my wedding and she decided to step down and is doing a reading instead

My BM is due two days after my wedding ekk!! She still really wants to be my BM and i want her also as shes very special friend to me. We have had a little chat and i've suggested we get her a beautiful maternity dress closer to the date. Unfortunately she won't be able to wear the same dress as my others but who cares if shes there. I'm including her in all the BM decisions and making sure shes involved as a BM if not only in spirit!!

This way i hope shes not under pressure to be a BM.. she maybe in labour on the actually day!!

My advise would be to wait and see how she feels, don't put any pressure on her to be a BM but still plan everything with her (as much as possible) so she feels included. Maternity dress really is the only way forward as you'll never know her size. xx

Thanks for all of your messages, they have helped me think about a few different options...

Think i will wait closer to the time to make a decision and she may also later decide to step down, but i definitly want her involved in all things bridemaidy, but if its not possible for her to be a bridesmaid on the day, then i like the sound of asking her to do a reading.

Thanks again ?

Don't bow to pressure. If you want her as bridesmaid and she wants to be a bridesmaid then let her. Plans can be changed last minute, its not the end of the world for goodness sake. The bridesmaid is the only one who can make that decision.

Sorry but she may be in hospital on your wedding day or if she has already had they baby she will be in no fit state either she will unfortunatly have to step down otherwise you will have wasted a lot of money on dress shoes jewellary etc

My sister/ Moh is due this March 4 WEEKS before my wedding. I am not happy about this but i am really pleased to be an auntie again. I know your frustration but i wouldn't dare ask her to step down. It just means she can't do things fully but that was just ban excuse to ask my best friend to be a 3rd bm. i dont regret one thing about it either.