pregnant bridesmaid problem....advice pls

My CBM had her baby 3 months ago and she's really looking forward to being bm. she hasnt felt any pressure from me, she wanted a size bigger dress (but is swapping it for a size smaller as she has slimmed down!)

Ask her, and tell her your fears, she will be at your wedding regardless so i think being bm will be nice for her ?

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Well she had a year after the wedding so I think she would be delighted to be part of it! i know my friend had her sister as moh, and she had her baby in december and was bm in may! every1 had a great day!!

My best mate is due 2 WEEKS before the wedding!! She's got a bridesmaid dress and is hoping to be there so fingers crossed! I left the decision up to her. She had to make the choice and she wants to try everything possible to be there.

A year is a long time and she'll be in a routine by then. You should ask her, explain how you'd love for her to do it but it's her decision. Don't assume she won't want to do it, let her turn it down if need be!

I'm quite surprised by your other friend - that wouldn't really occur to me to be honest, if it was me, I've always known I'd have my two school friends as bridesmaids, and though she was newly pregnant when I got engaged and asked her, I didn't think for a second she wouldn't want to.

Her baba will be one by the time of the wedding too, this aug, and though she can be a little hard to tie down - only really when dress shopping, I also took on board she had a baby and was busy. Also my friend is helping to organise hen do who isn't a bridesmaid, again cos with the baby she's a bit tied up. So if you don't mind that, which I don't then go for it!

With the dress thing, my friend gave me her measurements but is hoping to lose some more baby weight and has said she'll pay for the alterations if needed which is fair enough. Don't think she felt under any pressure there.

Sure Daddy won't mind looking after her - my friends baba won't be coming cos we're not having kids but in a way (i hope!) that's better for her cos she can enjoy being BM.

If she is who you want, don't let that stand in your way at all, but of course if you want to give her the choice, that's always nice and I bet she'd be delighted

Thanks everyone - I feel more comfortable about asking her now..and will just tell her how I feel.

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I bet she'll love to be asked. It may even encourage her to lose her baby weight! (not that i'm saying that she has to, but it's nice to have a goal!)

I don't think it would be too much for her with a 1 year old, but it is so sweet of you to think like that.

I would ask her and say that you would love for her to be your bridesmaid but understand if she does not want to because of the baby.

I bet she will bite your hand off.