Pre-Wedding Confidence Wobble

I have a huge weight related issue but I also have a height issue....my OH is only a couple of inches taller than me and I really don't want to be taller than him on the day, but I feel like I need some killer heels to make myself look slimer by making me taller! Now I know that this is really isn't a major issue either way but it feels mega to me. I'm sure that this sort of thing is all normal and that everyone goes through it, it's just that the little things don't seem so little when its your wedding ?

Aw i'm sure everyone feels like that, i know i do and i've got 14 months to "sort it out"

I'm sure you will look and feel absolutely gorgeous

You'll be so so happy that it really will show through (gee i sound cheesy ? ) but

i think it's true, you will fab, and i'm pretty sure your H2B will agree !!!

xx

Im dreading this part of the day aswell. really hate having my photo taken and not looking forward to this 1 bit. only pics i dont mind looking at myself in are the drunken facebook ones lmao.

I think every bride must go through this. And Im sorry you feel so rubbish about being photographed so heres a ?

I know Im getting a bit worried now as I only have ten weeks, I have lost some weight but not as much as I would have liked.

Although saying that Im a great believer that your OH asked you to marry you at the weight you were/are and that Ive seen plenty of brides lose heaps of weight for the day and look totally different!! Only to pile it back again within 6 months, so the phots are not really a true likelness to themselves iykwim

You will look beautiful on your day and your Oh will think so too. Im hoping I will look at our photos and think how happy we look and think of amazing memories and try not to pull myself to pieces.

hth ❤️

xx

Totally get where you're coming from. I hate having my photograph taken, I just never look good and hate having my pic taken from one particular side of my face so makes it even worse. I'm dreading having my photo taken, but seeing the pics even more scares me.. I don't want to ruin them!

I feel the same, I look awful on camera and I'm dreading my wedding pics. I've had braces fitted so I have a nice smile on the wedding day but my eyes scrunch up and my face goes all squishy when I smile eurgh. I'm a serial camera dodger and I know I'm not going to be able to get away with it on my wedding day and will have to let people take pics of me without hiding behind a menu, glass, coaster, table mat, person etc

I've got a 6 month old so I'm trying to shift my baby weight, its coming off but now I've plateaud, also got a disgusting jelly belly. I'm only 5ft1 and can't wear heels, been living in ugg boots and flip flops most of my pregnancy so need to start getting used to heels again! I also wear my make up quite heavy (lets just say I don't go for the natural look!) and am dreading how I'm going to sort that out on the day. I just feel safer with my lipstick and lipliner and can't wear pastel shades due to my skin tone.

I'm worried about so much and have another 6 months of this! xx

Our wedding is 20 days away now ....eeeeeeek

But I still cant decided what to do about my hair.

I hate my pictures normaly ...so thats bad straight off.

On top of that I think I look better with my hair down ...but everyone keeps saying that

to look bridsy and too show off the dress I need to wear my hair up...they almost have me convinced...do I chance it..knowing when I had my hair up at my friends wedding and I was a bridesmaid i regretted wearing it up and think I would have looked better with it down?

Too make it worse MIL2B was looking through my camera and saw my hair and make up trail and said that with my hair down my face looks fatter. Thats just great!

Girls, you are all going to be beautiful brides - just enjoy every minute of the day, don't worry about a few photos being taken!! (and don't show anyone the album if you really don't like the photos - although what you see and what other people see are probably very different things!)

your H2B asked you to marry him because he loves you just as you are - and will not have the same worries that you are too tall/too small/too wobbly/too skinny - you don't need to turn into something you're not for your wedding day! you will be in a beautiful dress with all your hair and make up done with all your guests gushing how lovely the bride looks! so enjoy feeling like a princess for the day!!!! ?

Thanks for all the replies, I'm not feeling quite so negative this morning and even more so now I know I'm not the only one to feel this way! (Plus, I was up half the night being ill so I think that probably had a hand in my crappy disposition yesterday evening.)

As for the weight thing, I gained well over two stone in the time I've been with H2B but I've actually lost nearly all of that in the last six months which I know is something to be proud of. I'm still probably a stone and a half above where I'd like to be but I haven't been that in more than ten years so I knew that wasn't a realistic target! Probably a big part of my current wobble is that I've fallen off the wagon a bit over the last few days and regained three pounds which I know isn't much but it's a psychological setback when I've worked so hard and haven't long left to go.

All this insane pressure to be perfect on that single day when it's the thousands of days after it that really count. Why do we do it to ourselves? ?

Ahh another date twin!

As others have said, try not to worry too much! I'm no great fan of having my picture taken either, I hate photos of myself, but my BMs have reminded me that all brides always look beautiful and I'm trying to keep that in my head! I'm sure you'll have a fabulous day and look radiant on your pictures ❤️

I'm with you on this. I never like photos of myself (though my tog is amazing so if anyone can do it she can!). And at my last dress fitting on Saturday I was wishing that my bum/tummy were thinner - and I felt like I was playing dress up! As long as my OH thinks I look beautiful though I'll be happy. I think it's hard as I really value his opinion - and I can't ask him about the most important dress purchase!

But - having said that I have always thought Brides look gorgeous at the weddings I've been too. I think everyone around you is happy for you, and you have your new husband , so everyone is in a warm fuzzy place! (Too fluffy I know for this time in the morning!!)

Well I've been having a good old talk to myself and realised that I've never seen an ugly bride so there's a big chance that I won't look disgusting on the day. Just had seeing pics of me. As long as I can get the dress to look its best on me, get my hair and make up right then the rest should be fine. I don't mind having a few pics but would love to have more of the bridesmaids and friends and family rather just on us. I'm also going to have a couple of glasses of wine so I won't care so much! I always dread going out with the girls as I never like what I wear but after a couple of glasses of wine I really don't give a monkeys so might apply this to my day! x

Lol, I have ?

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I don't have weight issued but i think its definately normal to have confidence wobbles! I am having them about lots of things, looking too plain, my dress not 'wowing' people, people not enjoying themselves, i get depressed/stressed/anxious quite easily and suddenly, and i'm so worried this could affect the day too!

Have that issue too! I'm 5'7 and he's 5'9! I have 3" heels so will be a bit taller although his shoes have some height to them- I guess we could bend down slightly in photos (people won't see it under our dresses!!)

I had a baby 7 months ago and am still fighting with a jelly belly and slightly larger thighs than I've had before! I think every bride has something that they would like to change but we will all look beautiful- more so than any other day too! I also feel like my nose sticks out more at certain angles lol, so will be keeping an eye out for people taking pics so I can show them my 'good side'!

You will look stunning and your OH will think so no matter what ?

I feel exactly like this ! I hate to be the centre of attention and haven't ever had a nice photo taken ! They say the camera doesn't lie so I must be a right munter ! Add to the fact I am 42 I can't bear the thought of everyone looking at me but I am a bit skint for a facelift lol ! I will ask for airbrushing ! I can honestly say I haven't seen one rotten photo on here all the girls look gorgeous and I am absolutely certain you will too. When you are happy you look attractive no matter what ! Enjoy it you will be radiant xxxxx

I've got 5 months to go and i have to say i've let myself go sooo bad!

I dont no whether i've just forgot to look after myself, or i've just seriously got ugly over night!

Im having terrible issues with my eye brows, all the wrong shape, and my hair grows into my eyebrows from the side of my head (does that make sense!?) and ive put a whole stone on. i've come out in loads of spots and im so hairy! lol...i use to bleach my arms but i've just lost interest in doing it! i sometimes think am i getting that obsessed with saving money & thinking about weddings all the time has turned me into this person i am today!

I've started to worry that my OH will see me on the day and say something like "err what a state!"


Generally feeling pants! x

Exactly how I am/feel! lol! I worry i will look rubbish on the day due to the stress as this makes me look tired & affects my skin, i also get panicky when i'm stressed

god i hope im going to be ok on the day, lol! I'm sure everyone will

I really thought when I started this thread that all I'd get would be "pull yourself together, it'll be fine" so it's been a lovely surprise that I'm not on my own with this! What someone said earlier is true, that you never seem to see awful photos of brides, so I guess I just have to trust my TOG to be able to get the best out of how I look!

Am still v. stressed about doing my own make-up on the day (esp. after a 30-min conversation with my mum last night about how shiny I look in the hen night photos ?) but I'm guessing the wedding venue won't be as hot as a nightclub so I'm just going to take powder in my bag for re-applications and hope for the best!