Problem with guest - wwyd?

Is a it tricky. How long to the wedding?

First of all I think you should tell your friend what you know. I think she would be devastated to think that all her mates and knew that her ex was engaged to someone else, but that she had been kept in the dark. It will hurt her, but it may help her move on.

When is your wedding? If you don't need to decide now whether to invited the new woman yet then I'd wait until you really have to make a decision. They may not even still be together by the wedding, it does seem like a bit of a whirlwind (or dare I say rebound) romance.

Exactly what I was thinking

I agree completely here. I think you owe it to your friend to tell her what you know.

And again, if you have time before you send out the invites, then just wait and see nearer the time what happens with her ex

I have to agree I think you should let her know- but also maybe have a chat with the male friend and just say that under the circumstances, and as he has only been with his fiancee for a few months, it would be best if his new love interest isn't invited?

Just from personal experience...when I first met OH he had split with his ex six months previously and their mutual friends kept it from her about him having met me, which made it ten times worse for her when she eventually saw us out hand in hand together. Also OH's brother got married after we'd been together about four months and OH's ex was good friends with the bride, so I wasn't surprised or offended not to be invited, especially as we'd only been together a short time. They did invite me at the last minute but I politely declined- I didn't want anyone to feel awkward or put a dampner on anyone enjoying themselves. Maybe your friend's new lady would feel the same?

thanks for your replies. i agree about the rebound thing but we think it was going on before they broke up - she suspected at the time but it was never proved.

Yes you are right i should tell her - its horrid though ;-(

It's always tricky with invites to partners, esp if you've not met them.

We didn't invite my young cousins' blokes as they were day guests and we didn't invite anyone we'd never met to the day for obvious reasons(!)

But one of the best men had a newish girlfriend and we invited her to the evening, along with my 2nd cousins' partners who we've never met.

You certainly have to tell her but I'd ring the bloke up and explain your decision either way with regards to his new partner.