My OH's mum has pretty advanced vascular dementia and is in a home nr Liverpool. We are having a civil ceremony is Somerset in December and she wont be coming - various logistical issues, not least, she gets car sick just going down the road and would never make the journey, plus she needs 24 hour care.
OH originally said he didnt want her to be there, that it would be difficult for everybody to see her, and she wouldnt know what's going on anyway, which is why we went for Somerset, but I think now its getting closer, the reality of him not having his mum there is dawning on him and is upsetting him. As she was told we were getting married, she has remembered this and mentions it a lot, but never remembers me when I visit - she remembers things that have an emotional attachment very easily, but her memory for other things is terrible How will he explain to her that she wasnt there?
Prompted by another thread I just read, I wondered if there was anything we could do near her that she could come to, we could wear our wedding gear, have some family there, so he would feel better, and something she might remember without it being too traumatic a journey, etc? As we're having a civil ceremony, a blessing doesnt seem appropriate but is there a civil equivalent?
Sorry this is so long and TIA.