Hiya, new here and can't find any posts on this. Not sure what to do - my partner told his family he was going to propose to me within a week or two, and he invited his sister and her boyfriend to the venue we are thinking of holding the event at for lunch specifically telling them he wanted a second opinion for it as a wedding venue but I didn't know he was about to propose (although I do because we're bad at keeping secrets form each other haha).
I've now found out he was going to so it next week. But this sister and partner just got engaged last Friday night. I now feel we can't as it will be like we are stealing their thunder and I refuse to do that. They have already set a date April next year - we were going to aim for Nov- and now it turns out my partners brother is going to propose to his girlfriend on New Year's and their engagement will also be around 6 months.
I am 38 and don't have heaps of time left to wait for babies- the brother and sister are 24 year old twins and the now fiance 27, the girlfriend 21. I feel terrible and don't know what to do but feel like I can't reign in their parade.
There is a bit of a history of his family leaving us out (they are all strict Christians and we are atheist) of gatherings and family holidays etc and this just feels like a but of a snub as well - but I just don't feel right doing it anyway despite them but rather smiling pleasantly and saying of course it's all ok. When it isn't- my heart is breaking as we desperately want to get married and have babies (if we even can now).
So - any suggestions? :/
