Question for bride to be about affairs

Is it half term somewhere ?

Ok. My post was genuine. I thought it insensitive to post on planning. No need. Judging from this board people are already married.

Again I'm not a hoe, and I never said I wasn't half to blame. Nobody is perfect and attraction happens sometime, and mistakes are made. I choose to focus on the fact I found some morals and ended all communication. As you say the truth should come from him but it won't. So I must live with the lie

I havent heard the word "ho" in ages.?

Prince Charles had an ongoing affair with Camilla for years. It wasn't right but he got married and pretended all was ok when all the time he loved someone else. Ok extreme example but one of many. Never heard of anyone calling her a hoe.

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This is classic Hitched!?

Are you claiming your affair is the same?

Is your affair with Prince William?

Excellent.

I am not certain what a "hoe" is in the context of your post OP, but I know a spade when I see it. And can call it a spade too.

I think actually there was lots of calling Camilla a ho.

(Insert laughing smilie)

Hahaha!

Why do you care now? You didn't before.

Actually I think you'll find a lot of people called Camilla a ho, it just never made it into the newspapers for you to read.

Personaly I cannot fathom why you would be contemplating telling her. You say you are over him, done and dusted. Hmmmm, in that case you'd be able to leave it. She's marrying a liar, let her deal with it. You get on with your life, they'll get on with theirs.

I'm not even going to answer this as it must be a troll but FWIW I think Camilla was called a lot worse than a ho!

Thread of the year?

Surely someone is just campaigning for a hitched award with this thread?

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I don't get this. You say you were asking for genuine opinions - you got genuine opinions and you didn't like them so you started calling people defensive. You then say you asked the same question on an affairs forum and were told to tell her. Sounds from your reaction to comments here this is what you wanted to hear. So why post on here when you've already got the answer you want and you don't like the replies?!

Probably because it is a bit boring under the bridge.

Great random thread. Just what l needed to read on my break part way through a 13.5 hour shift!!!

Confused by the references to gardening equipment...

Always amazes me how women go with men knowing full well they're in a relationship, it's a line any decent women don't cross.

To answer your question yes i'd like to know if OH cheated before I married him but not from the skank he had the affair with.
If he wants to tell her then he will, or she may find out some other way. You should keep your nose out, he's a dirty cheat and you're a dirty home wrecker..time for you to get on with your life and let them get on with theirs.

Bluntest Hitcher award ?

Hear hear! Way to go MM3!

Edited my horrific grammar/spelling (and again... fark)

Harsh but fair. So, it's rankling that they're happy and you know 'better'? Of course you do dear. Now go and have a nice lie down. because that's all he wanted from you. You don't win any priozes for ending it; he was't available and he used you as a distraction. Don't paint it to be something it isn't. You were the other woman and you've been replaced. Oldest story around.

FWIW, I would want to know.

But I question your motives for telling her. I guess it's to shift your guilt on to him. You tell so you don't have to feel bad anymore although to have an affair with a married man I also question if you ever did feel bad. Then he's the guilty party and not you (obviously he is anyway). So you can skip off in to the sunset feeling like you did a good thing. When actually all along all you've done is wreck someone's relationship. What on earth do you think the wife will say? Oh you've been shagging my OH but thank you so much for letting me know, I must make an appointment at the STI clinic before I leave the ***.

Why would you give a *** now? You knew he was with someone else, you've left it a long time to suddenly develop morals.

I wasn't going to respond seriously to this thread, but FWIW I completely agree with Laura and MM3. Yes I would want to know, but you won't be doing yourself any favours by telling her. If you really cared about her relationship you wouldn't have done it in the first place.

But what do I know, I'm just speaking as someone who is PETRIFIED of my husband cheating on me.

Yeah I would want to know but not from the ho he was getting 'comfort' from. If you knew he was in a relationship why go there? Do you have any morals? Also if you're so over it and it was a mistake why are you dwelling on it? Grow up and move on.

P.S make sure the next one ain't getting married/already married...will save you a few forum posts next time.

Did you also post on the other forum and get flamed? There are ways of finding out, you know......

My Ex husband cheated on me and left myself and our two children to live with her. They apparently just had each other for comfort.

Would I have wanted to have known it was going on? Hmmm well I would have preferred him not to have lied to me and made me believe that things were fine and carry on planning our third child etc How would I have felt if she sauntered up and told me? I would not have been pleased as it was entirely unnecessary for her to carve a relationship with somebody that was already in a relationship. She could have had the decency to have waited until it had ended but then so could he. I doubt she would have approached me though as he has painted me as a scary monster to her and I do kick boxing...

This all hits a bit close to home. It was an emotional affair (that might have gone further but thankfully didn't) that lasted less than two months. Although maybe not in every case, I felt I had some blame for what went on, yes our relationship was difficult at the time but we worked through it. It was hurtful when I found out and it was hard enough to get over, but if she had come up to me and told me I would have gone for her! It was a really awful time and although I would rather know, I would strongly suggest not saying anything.

if you have been on an affair forum, got an answer and then come on a wedding forum and ask the same thing?!

I diddnt see her getting flamed but her Instagram/tumblr/dating sites build up quite a good picture.

I didn't think they were all her as they had different ages, heights and star signs, but is she the one from Leciester do you think?

Going to go against the majority and say yes I would want to know and would want anybody to tell me! Even the woman he was cheating with. I would probably knock her head clean off but if she was the only one that could tell me then I would want her to.

I also think that it takes two to tango and people make mistakes. Doesn't make you a whore or a home wrecker. (Don't get me wrong i would HATE the home wrecking whore who stole my man ?)

wether your motives are pure or not wouldn't matter to me I would need to know.

However, not all women feel this way and I have friends that I know would not want to know so maybe you need to look at why you would be telling her? If its all over and you have no feelings for him n you don't know her, what do you get out of it?