Question for OMs who didn't change their name!

No one I know personally has done this, but I know of women who've kept their maiden name but become a Mrs. That's what I would do if I was going to keep my maiden name.

We're both keeping our own names. We're both Dr, which we'll be continuing to use (obviously!), but I used Ms exclusively before I became Dr Amaranth.

Mrs LimpyLoo would, to me, be your mother. I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with it, but I'd just go with Ms.

I'm always happy to see women keeping their own names, though, so you could call yourself Queen LimpyLoo and I'd be saying "Yes, go for it!".

Fab, Queen Limpyloo, I may go for that It would solve my conundrum!!

Unfortunately, no further help here as also use 'Dr'. I get very flustered when this is not an option and usually plump for Miss Maiden Name. I wouldn't use Mrs Maiden Name.

Do you have to make a 'permanent' decision? In your shoes I'd simply use whatever took my fancy at the time. Use Mrs if you want to, or Miss if at any point you feel it appropriate. I look quite young so do (wickedly) enjoy wrong-footing people who assume I am a Miss (it annoys me as the default should surely be Ms if you don't know?).

(disclaimer: I did change my name, and generally use Mrs, but feel strongly that your name/title is your personal choice!)

Thanks Ladies. I think my main problem is I'm not keen on any of the choices so there is no logical answer! Saisi I think you have hit the nail on the head in that i probably don't have to make a permanent decision forever more. Maybe after i am married it may become clear.

Remember too it doesn't have to be some big statement. Generally people calling you by a title don't know you well (else they'd just call you Limpy, rather than Mrs/Miss Loo!) so in a way, who cares what they call you.

I didn't change my name and usually style myself Ms, as, for me, it is the female equivalent of Mr. Ie martial status not relevant.

However, my H loves it if I am ever Mrs (he wanted me to change my name) so on very rare occasions I will use Mrs Custard.

My H gets far more annoyed when it's not an option when he's booking stuff for both of us than I ever do! In those circumstances (I am normally Dr MarriedName) I just use Ms MarriedName. I don't think my marital status is relevant to anyone else, plus as someone else said, Mrs MarriedName is my mother-in-law! Though there are in fact 5 Dr MarriedNames in the family, so maybe it's not quite so useful...

Anyway, I digress. I used Ms before I qualified as a doctor and got married, so I would continue using that personally. I don't think it has so many negative connotations as it used to, especially among professional women. I think you could probably use whichever title you preferred/feel most comfortable with.

I've always though Ms is just not so easy to say as Miss or Mrs!

I am going from Miss Jones to Mrs Hunter, cannopt wait. I am a sucker for some traditions

At work, and where my son's school is concerned I will be Ms MaidenName.

At home, and on bills etc I will be Mrs MarriedName.

If we are lucky enough to have any younglings (I am knocking on a bit) my son wants me to be Mrs MaidenName-MarriedName. So he and his siblings would share a name.

And some people suggest we should all just double-barrel for ease...

Maybe I should just make a whole new name up. From now on, I insist on being called.... Mrs FoxyBottom.

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Hmm I've been thinking about double barrel as Mrs Maidenname is my step mum (eek ) and Mrs Marriedname is my H2B mother so both seem a tad wierd to me .. And I always thought Ms was your were divorced so dunno where I got that from ... What does everyone thing of double barrell ???

We're keeping our own names, but any kids will be Amaranth-PartnersName. Partly because my stepson is Eli Dad'sSurname Mum'sSurname, having them all have at least one bit of their name in common makes sense. They don't sound the greatest put together, but we're both too stubborn to consider any other options.

I will say, a friend of mine and her husband smushed their names. Say she was Bell and he was Lucas, they became the Belluca family. Ours doesn't work that way, but it's a nice option.