Quite possibly a silly question but...

Most I know has worn them all day. So the evening guest gets to see them too. This is what I want with my bridesmaids but they are my daughters. Nieces for flowers girls. It's up to the bride really I would say. If you don't ask you don't get. Just see if she's ok with it first.

Yes, I will ask her what her plans are. Never thought about the evening guests to be honest x

I have known bridesmaids change but not until later on in the evening. Maybe 9/10pm?

I would ideally like to change as I don't feel that comfortable in the dress but will wear it all day if that's what the bride wants, after all the extra few hours wont hurt x

I wasn't comfortable in a dress my friend (bride) chose for us as bridesmaids. I felt fat and awful in it and she knew that but wouldn't change it. (she had this weird 'none of you can look better than me' attitude so made us all feel like $hite)

I changed into a shorter much more flattering dress after the wedding breakfast so at about 6pm. She didn't mind as she knew the dress was awful on me. Not only did it look awful it didn't fit right so the top was digging into my boobs! Not nice at all.

However, I would be offended if my bridesmaids did the same to me because I specifically took them out to find a gorgeous dress for them both that they fell in love with and cost me a lot of money so it was perfect for them. I would expect them to wear it all day as they chose it and both feel beautiful in the dress.

I think you should ask her, my friend had a bridesmaid who changed into something else on the day without asking and she was really upset. It's nice that you are happy to wear it if it keeps her happy :-)

This!

I don't feel my best in it but then its not about me so I will just suck it up if needs be, after all its only one day out of my whole life! I haven't voiced my feelings to the bride as she will have enough to stress about I don't want to put anymore on her so she has no idea how I feel wearing it. She picked the dress and is happy with it and really that's all that matters. I will just casually ask her if she would mind if I wore a party dress for the disco but let her know that its fine if she would rather I didn't. x

I'd never thought about it to be honest. I've only been a BM once and the dress I wore was lovely.

I bought my BMs lovely dresses so I'd probably be a bit offended but if they weren't comfortable then I certainly wouldn't stop them.

Personally I would be upset if my bridesmaids wanted to change... you only get married once so I want it to last all day not just have people running off to do their own thing as soon as they can like its just an inconvenience to them

also the dresses aren't cheep for someone to just wear for a few hours, its quite sad that you could spend so much on someone then feel its not appreciated

you seem to have a nice attitude about it though ? but depending on your friends personality she may agree because she feels she has to rather than because she wants to (im normally like that - anything for an easy life kind of person but I would be upset)

I know you said you're not comfortable in the dress, but she might want you to stay in it. Asking her is definitely the nest policy.
I'd have been a bit upset if mine had changed as there are guest photos of me with them late in the evening and it's lovely that they're still in their dresses and such. But she might be ok with it, so asking her is the way forward. ?
What's not confortable about your dress?