Random pondering

My dad said he'd always like it if H2B ahd asked him. He never did though. H2B's answer was - "If he'd said no it wouldn't have made any difference as I'd have asked you anyway" lol. But then there isn't much traditional about mine and H2B's relationship so I suppose it all fits lol

My daughters OH asked me if it was ok to ask her....

No, mine didn't, although when we told my parents my Dad did joke about not allowing it as Mr B hadn't asked his permission ?

For ages my OH said that he would ask my Dad if he was going to propose to me. Then when the time came he never actually bothered!! I think that it is a really sweet thing to do, but I also know that my Dad would have said something like "Its up to Sid, nothing to do with me!"

My H didn't and I'm not sure I would have liked it to be honest. I would have hated my dad knowing before me! lol x

My OH did. We were meant to be going to visit my parents for weekend before Christmas last year but for some reason we didnt end up going. As my OH knew whe he was goign to propose he then worried about not asking - although i too would not have taken any notice if my dad had said no. In the end he emailed not just my dad but my mum as well!!

My OH discussed with my Dad that he was going to ask me to marry him, but he never actually asked my dad.

My other half asked my Dad. Picked his moment when Dad was at the bottom of the garden feeding the chickens!! We were about to go to the coast for a week and H2B wanted to ask me whilst we were there.

I'm glad he asked but my Dad is rubbish at keeping secrets so needless to say everyone else knew part from me! When he did ask me I rang home to tell everyone, none the wiser that they knew already! Makes me giggle now tho, that they were probably sitting by the phone for about 2 days waiting for me to call with the news!

Yes he went round my parents on Xmas Eve to ask their permission. That evening we went out with my parents, and H's mum and step dad to a pub and I was the only one who didn't know he was going to propose the next day. To this day I still have no idea how my mum kept a straight face!

When OH asked my dad, he decided to wind him up and said NO at first?

Most of my family knew before I did - OH asked my dad who told my mam, OH told his dad and went ring shopping with my brother who then told SIL. He proposed on holiday and I wondered why I kept getting a lot of texts asking if we were having a good time lol

Yes, my OH did.

My elder sister was engaged twice; the first did ask and the second (her now H of 11 years) didn't and I'll always remember my dad being a bit disappointed that he didn't. Anyway, my other sister's H did and OH did and I think it's lovely that they followed the tradition.

OH said he would have respected his decision if he had said no as well!

My OH sat down with his dad and said he was going to ask me to marry him and that he was nervous asking my dad - wondering if he really had to do it.

His dads advice was - if he says no what will you do - he said he would ask me anyway - so in the end he didn't ask, but my goodness I have never seen him look so nervous as when we told my mom and stepdad - luckily dad and step mom were away so they got a slideshow text as I didn't want them to be the last to know.

My H2B asked my dad - only cos I told him i wouldn't marry him if he didnt

Mr CB told my dad he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and would be proposing, but it was important to him to have my father's blessing. My dad cried and gave him a big hug.

This was all kept secret from me until Mr CB proposed 2 months (!!) later once he'd chosen my ring and it'd been made.

I know my dad appreciated the sentiment and it meant a lot to know that Mr CB was brave enough to do it!

My OH asked months in advance, and my brother knew....they kept it from me and surprisingly my mum! She would've been too obvious about it and her not knowing helped to surprise me!

Apparently my OH was going to ask my mum (dad is no longer with us) but thought she wouldnt be able to keep it quiet so left it until the day before, then there was a drama with the ring that got him stressed and he didnt get around to it.

he did slip in a "is that ok with you?" when I told my we had got engaged!!

Well as I never even got the "will you marry me" Q....it was more like, "well, we should uh it's about time we got round to it er shall we get you a ring", the chances of him asking my Dad were non existent!

My hubby asked my dad and my mum can't keep a thing to herself so she told one of my sisters which was fine by me as they didn't tell anyone else or me so it was a complete surprise which is how I always imagined it would be.

I liked the fact that he did ask my dad, it meant a lot to my parentsv and gained him a lot of brownie points esp when we decided to have a non traditional wedding and got married in Thailand just the 2 of us!! (Came home and had a full on blessing too!!).

My OH called my parents and told my mum the night before he asked me, my dads reaction was 'shes too young to be getting married' lol im 26 this year! Mum cannot keep a secret so told everybody in work the next day! at least she acted surprised when we visited but i did wonder how they knew to buy the champers! x

I never asked my OH's father because it would not have made any difference what he had said. Luckily he was all for it when he found out, actually, he didn't seem to care either way to be honest.

I told my OH that my brothers blessing meant more to me than my parents blessing, maybe coz hes the big brother......... my parents are divorced and dad lives on an island.... so hubby asked my brother, I think whilst my brother was working. In a supermarket. Dont know the details really.

My H2B was going to ask permission, but didn't because he changed his mind about proposing, but then did propose anyway, and was then worried that he hadn't asked.

I think my Dad would have appriciated the gesture, but wasn't offended that he hadn't been asked.

Lol my other half did - he phoned them from outside the shop just before we chose the ring. x

My OH didn't ask for permission as he thinks it's an outdated tradition that is a bit demeaning as I shouldn't be seen as property of my parents, but he did ask for their blessings before he proposed.

He knew that I'd want him to ask my parents, so without me knowing a thing, he popped off down to my parents (they live about 100 miles away), asked for their blessings and chatted to them about the proposal and wedding four days before he actually proposed

My OH spoke to my parents before he proposed, I don't know whether he asked for their permission or for their blessing, however my Dads response was 'Are you sure? You know what she's like!!!'

I don't think my Mum and Dad told anyone that OH was going to propose, however OH is rubbish at keeping a secret and had told practically everyone. He ended up having to propose a month earlier than he was planning on as so many people knew, he was worried that someone wa going to slip up!!!

I think my Dad appreciated the gesture from OH as I'm an only child and my Dad wants to do the wedding the traditional way, he and my Mum are paying for the whole wedding etc x

My OH asked my Mum, he was too scared to ask my Dad so he left it up to my Mum to tell him lol!

My Mum did say to him ' i hope you know what your getting yourself in to' because she thinks i am a pain in the bum sometimes lol.

I think he would have proposed even if she had said no.

He even showed her the ring and everything!

x

Nope - he didn't ask. I din't want him to and he didn't want to so he didn't.

My Dad never asked my Grandad's permission.

Well, when I was 25 and he was 22 I was on an elective nursing placement in romania. He came out to visit me for the week (it's the place where we met) as a surprise. During that week he told me that he had planned to ask me to marry him, had even been to his mum to borrow her ring for the proposal until we could sort one. However, the night before flying out, he stayed over at my parents, they ran him to the airport, and at that time he asked my dad for his permission. My dad said no! So that was it, no proposal.

Then when i was 27 my best friend got married in Italy. I'm a nurse so I often work sundays, and he is very good, usually cooks me a roast dinner to come home to from my shift. So I get back one sunday having been looking forward to a roast, to be told, 'oh I didn't fancy it' so all I got was a tuna mayo jacket potato. A little disappointed but thought nothing else of it. Then two months later we're in Italy for my friends wedding, walking around venice when he proposes on the Rialto Bridge. Turns out that sunday a few months previously he decided to go for it again, jumped on the train to my parents, asked them again and this time dad said yes. He stayed to sunday lunch, so he had a roast already, swore everyone to secrecy and the first I knew about it all was a couple of months later.

So moral of the story is... only ask if you're prepared to abide by the old man's wishes.