Rant about wedding guests!

Wow that is cheeky! Had your OH okayed the invite, or had she just presumed?

Totally ok to rant! that's what we are here for! ?

I've heard of a few stories like that - people assuming they can 'fill' a 'space'. We have only just sent ours out so too early yet to see anything like that....

If it happened to me and I was caught on a bad day, I'd probably say something like 'just cos he's booked flights doesn't get him a 'ticket' to my wedding!!! Sorry - that would probably be mean!! ️?️

Nope, he came home from work today and his dad told him that they had phoned from America and confirmed that they wouldn't be flying etc and she has just presumed, and said that he is coming too!

Haha i hope you dont get the same problems that I am having!! but yeah i don't really know what to say because i don't want to upset anyone but i just find it sooo cheeky, i dont understand why he even wants to fly over here and attend a wedding of someone he's not even met? he's met OH a handful of times...

I think i read somewhere that it's a common american thing to do i.e. your mum cant come so you get your friend or boyfriend to fill the space! they may not realise that its not the done thing here!

Oh really i did not know that lol!, kinda makes sense tho that they didn't check with anybody first

Really?! :/ the rudeness of it all! x

Kinda had a similiar situation, though my save the dates haven't gone out the date is made its rounds on the grapevine aka my mum. my auntie is coming but her husband cant/wont come (usual thing, he's not big on family events) so she's bringing her daughter with her baby in her place.

Thought i'm more relaxed about this, i dont mind since i was trying to find ways of squeezing my cousins on the list. but i think i'd feel a lot different if it was a plus one i'd never meant of known nor had room for if there was others i really wanted. Is a bit rude to assume and book flight and ticket. Never assume, its makes and 'ass' out of 'me' and 'u'

This is so rude! Does she have to fly over from America on her own if she didn't bring him? If so, I can understand why she'd like to bring someone, but it's inexcusable to just book their flights and accommodation without asking!

I can sympathise, slightly different situation but my great uncle and his wife have invited themselves to my and my brothers weddings, which are three weeks apart and becAuse my brother decided to go with it and officially invite them I will have to as well. Otherwise it will be aqward(!) as arse at my brothers wedding 3 weeks before. However this has had a knock on effect as we had only invited one set of OH's aunts and uncles who we frequently see, so now have hAd to invite his other aunt and uncle, two sets of cousins and their 6 kids. It would have looked bad having my great uncle who I haven't seen for 16 years apart from my grandads funeral, and not OH'S relatives who we see sometimes. What makes it even stupider is that non of our grandparents are going as they all feel its too much for them so our day is not at all geared up for elderly relatives, and they wont know anyone there. Guest list politics, drives you insane!

Cheeky yes, but it might be the only chance to have a holiday with her partner. The air fare won't be cheap and US employers are only required to give their staff 10 days annual leave per year. It's nice they are coming so far. I have one American guest and gave her a plus one invite for someone I have never met before for that reason.

Some people are just so cheeky!! I just wouldnt dare be so rude lol!!

Thanks for the replies ladies, basically they are a pretty well off family and him even more so.. But have found out since the month before the wedding they are flying around Europe together hence him coming to the wedding... I just wish they would of asked/mentioned it before now...