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Elphaba
Beginner December 2011

Rant Alert..

Elphaba, 7 April, 2011 at 10:23 Posted on Planning 0 2

Please tell me this is normal..

I've lost all enthusiasm for the wedding.. I want to be married but right now I could do without the wedding! (I'd happily go for Gretna Green or Vegas!) I feel like I'm doing everything myself. OH doesn't understand why things need to be organised now - he thinks its too far away. My relationship with my Dad is barely there and I really want him involved but everything seems so difficult. His wife and I don't get on (its a long story but I think shes a manipulative cow!) and she decided a few months ago that she wants nothing to do with me (which suits me fine but I now don't know what she's saying to my Dad about everything). My Grandma (Dad's mum) won't come to the wedding because Dad will be there - they fell out over his second divorce and third wedding. His sister probably wont be there for the same reason. The people I really want there (Dad's ex, her parents and her kids who I grew up with) can't because of the whole situation.

The whole thing just feels like one big stress ☹️

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Latest activity by Elphaba, 7 April, 2011 at 10:38
  • Sherrie H
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    Sherrie H ·
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    Take a deep breath.

    Families can really show heir true colours when it comes to weddings, they love the pomp & ceremony of it all but also think that they can have it their way as well.

    Have you got a close friend to share it with? Hitched is fab for help & advice & between us all I am sure we can all get you through it.

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  • SaSaSi
    Beginner July 2012
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    ? Have a hug!

    I think family strife is very very common when it comes to weddings and yours sound particularly complex.

    Is having family at your wedding important to you? Could you & your OH have a quiet wedding with people who will enjoy your happy day instead of bringing agravation to it?

    I think you should talk to your dad about everything - including his wife.

    Its sad (in the upset sense of the word) that for one day, for you, people cant buck up & suck it up.

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  • Elphaba
    Beginner December 2011
    Elphaba ·
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    OH wants a family focussed wedding - his are so 'normal' they're almost perfect lol. (not jealous.. much!. I'm meeting my Dad soon so will try and talk to him.

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