Rant alert -

If a mini bus is good enough for the royal family, a mini bus is good enough for your MiL. Silly moo.

Hmmm... Well, with regards to the MIL and her stretch limo, I would say 'Well my mum and the bridesmaids have already booked it and are happy, but if you'd like to find alternative transportation then that's entirely your prerogative' And leave it at that. Let her shell out for it and look like an ostentatious idiot if she wants. No one's going to see her arrive anyway.

With regards to the other bits and bobs you and your OH are disagreeing on, I think these types of differing opinions are quite normal. The key is learning how to discuss them and come to a solution both are happy with without falling out over it.

We have had lots of bits like this - you can't possibly have the exact same tastes as your partner but you'll both need to compromise at points. Have you asked him what he would like to name the tables?

This! Also when your H2B drags his bum out of bed tell him that he has to start supporting you more rather than his mother as he's seriously pushing you away.

I'm sorry you're feeling like this but bear in mind that planning a wedding is really stressful and there are times when it all starts to get a bit overwhelming. I personally hate the idea of a stetch limo. Just think - they're normally used for hen and stag nights and school leavers balls. I've never been in one but dread to think of how much spilt alcohol, fag ash and sick has to be cleaned out of them. Not what I would want to be sitting in on my wedding day! I would say to your MIL2B that she is welcome to come with you but if she doesn't like it she can make her own arrangements. As for your OH, just try not to take it personally. Remember that for most boys they just don't get how much thought goes into planning a wedding and that they generally don't appreciate all of the little details that we spend so much time thinking about! Hope that helps!

I hope you feel a bit better after getting it all out there, I'm with you on the limo front, hate them myself and also find them somewhat creepy!!!.

When your o/h get's up don't start right on it as he'll prob just walk away again, wait till he's come round abit then ask him calmly if you can jst have a chat about it all, explain how you feel and maybe say nicely that if the fmil doesn't like the transport being offered them maybe she could organise to get herself there some other way but say you'd like her to go with everyone else so she enjoy the journey and atmosphere that I'm sure will be abounding on the minibus.

Hope you get to sort this out soon, good luck

+1, for all of the above!

I'd tell her that if she wants a stretch limo she is more than welcome to pay for it but she will be going in it on her own. Your mum has already made these arrangements and she should stop being being so picky. To be honest no-one is going to care what she turns up in because the day is not about her!

I would ring her (especially if you aren't good with confrontation) say sorry you weren't that talkative that night, but you were thinking what to do regarding the lift situation, say you've explained to your mum that she wants a limo (this would embrass anyone knowing they've been made out to look an idiot) then say your mum says not to worry and that she can ask other relatives to come in the mini bus so she can order her limo.

She looks like an idiot, she learns you want change your plans to please her and that your been vocal when she acts like this,

You need to stand up though and say how you feel, your h2b should be supportive of this and want you to say how you feel, tell your h2b that your doing this so his mum can have her limo.

Xx

My lovely girl,

u need to take a breath and step back. it's ure wedding. yours and his(well if he continues like this i very much doubt it!)

at the end of the day you need to feel supported by your other half in all things you do. if he is behaving like this already, what is your married life to be like? family can be difficult, but will be made worse if he sides with his mum or others over you... i mean how old is he?

important things like sticking together as a unit far outway the frills of the day in the long term. regardless whether his mum doesnt like the idea of the tourneo, and would rather a stretch limo shouldnt be an issue as its your wedding. its one day, and im sure its a day you will have saved for painfully.

You are an adult and should never let people(anyone whether its him or his mother!) speak to or down to you in a condesending manner. stick to your guns!! its your day. your other half should be grateful for what your mum has done for both of you.

unless people have constructive ideas(not criticisms) they should keep their own counsel unless you have asked for it directly. i know you must be stressed but dont let them take away from your day.

i hope this helps.

Elizabeth xxx

Thanks for everyones kind message's and advice. He got up and he came up to me, asked me if I was ok and I told him the what his mum said to me last night upset me, that my mum has ordered the Tourneo and I quite like that. HE then said that not every idea my mum has is a good one, and I replied saying I know that. He then told me not to be huffy, and everytime someone has an idea I reject it. I don't and I have taken lots of idea's on board, and made lots of concessions that I wasn't wanting but knew that I have to have a little give and take.

PS: he wants to name the tables 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and top table.

He's now in the other room, he brought me a cup of tea in but apart from that I haven't seen him.

My advice to anyone wanting to get married? ... ELOPE and get it over and done with before anyone else can interfeer!!! Bloody weddings!