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AuntieBJ
Beginner September 2014

Rant alert!!!

AuntieBJ, 21 January, 2014 at 10:16 Posted on Planning 0 13

I'm rather afraid I'm jealous. I want parents who interfere and want to change things for my wedding. I want a MOH who doesn't like her dress and needs to moan about every aspect of her outfit. I want future inlaws who insist on getting under my skin and telling me how to look after their son!

I want these things because I have the opposite problem - no-one gives a damn!!!!!!! I'm fed up of being told I'm a bridezilla if I so much as mention the word 'wedding' - even if I'm not discussing my own. My own mum tells me I'm going over the top because I'm trying to arrange a date for our make-up trial and no-one will get back to me. My sister thinks I'm insensitive because it's her 10 year anniversary this year and apparently I think my wedding is far more important.

No-one wants to talk weddings with me!!!!!!!!! All I said yesterday was I dreamt I was getting married and got run over by a deer on the way to the ceremony and I got pulled to one side and told to calm down - that the wedding isn't until september and there's no need to go all bridezilla yet.

OK, breath....breath....breath.....

Anyone else suffering with the 'it doesn't matter to us' syndrome?

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Latest activity by AuntieBJ, 21 January, 2014 at 14:00
  • AuntieBJ
    Beginner September 2014
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    I suppose what we both want is something in the middle isn't it - family who are supportive and tell us its our day and we should have exactly what we want but are also interested enough to ask what that is and make suggestions without being offended if we don't take them!!!

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  • MischiefMumma
    Beginner August 2014
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    Kind of in the same boat as you hun. My parents dont really care about the wedding, they want to be in complete charge of everything to do with it and when I refuse they dont talk to me. My mum wanted to send out the invitations for our wedding and I said no. Now any mention of wedding stuff and she just stops talking to me all together. Lukily FMIL is brilliant and is helping loads and happy to talk about wedding stuff. I'm marrying her only son, she has another daughter but mothers OH desperately (they tried for 6 years to have kids and were told they couldnt have kids so OH and FSIL are like miracle babies, its really sweet actually. Kinda makes me jealous because I was unplanned, and told so!!) SHe's fantastic. MOH has been a rock too thankfully. I know where you're coming from though Bekki so dont think you're on your own. Some of us are really unlucky and have families who see their lives as so much more important than ours and get very jealous of the fact that we have so much happiness in our lives and cant see past their own bitterness to be happy for us. Just keep your chin up hun and think about all the fun times you have ahead, and besides you've got uds hitchers!! ??

    Debbi xx

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  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
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    No you don't.

    ?

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  • AuntieBJ
    Beginner September 2014
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    Thanks Debbi - it's always good to know that at least I have somewhere I can come to chat to people who, even though they're involved in their own weddings, understand my worries and concerns!

    MrsBrown - I don't really - but it would be nice to think my family did actually care!!!

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  • *MM3*
    Beginner June 2014
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    I have my Mum & BM to talk to but sometimes I feel like i'm annoying them with it all, I just talk the ears off OH when that happens. Can understand how you feel though and want them to be more involved.

    That's what we're all here for anyway so just make up for it on here haha Smiley smile

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  • meandmrjones2014
    Beginner March 2014
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    My family are all into our wedding - the MIL to be...oh jeez thats a different kettle of fish zzzzz!

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  • Feb2014Bride
    Beginner February 2014
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    You can have mine ... for free ?

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  • AuntieBJ
    Beginner September 2014
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    are they particularly annoying??? lol

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    Beginner August 2015
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    I am feeling a little like this today! My FMIL and I have always gotten on really well, but I have realised today after being engaged for 7 months she hasn't once asked me anything about the wedding! OK I know it is only next year so maybe she just thinks there is nothing to talk about, but it would just be nice if she showed any interestSmiley sad

    Also had a friend tell me I am leading people on by not having chosen my BMs yet, which also upset me as I dont want to be rushed into a desision. I have said several times I will decide nearer the time so how is that leading people on? Maybe it is me being sensitive?!?

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  • AuntieBJ
    Beginner September 2014
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    well that would be one friend I'd strike off the list of possibles!!! Is she pleased you're getting married or just desperate to be a bridesmaid???

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  • MrsKHbutterfly
    Rockstar September 2014
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    I have a right mix, FMIL hasn't asked a thing about it!!! Not one!!!!

    neither has FBIL(bm) except to say he will NOT be organising stag. He will only go on the stag if they go to XYZ, not to expect much from the speech, and he will be leaving wedding half way through to go with his oh to pick her kids up (she drives, and he's on about leaving around about speech time) - why he just couldn't say he couldn't be by I will never know!

    my mother is MOB-Zella, although keeps telling me I should cancel the wedding as she doesn't think we can afford it!

    one of my sisters is an angel and is leaving me alone, but keep asking if she can help. The other sister got up and walked out of the room because "that was far too much wedding talk for her!" When someone asked me how much the hotel rooms were to stay over!

    Thank god for friends and OH!!! Lol

    xxx

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  • AuntieBJ
    Beginner September 2014
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    Thank you ladies - at least I know I'm not the only one who feels this way!! I was seriously considering telling the whole lot of them how upset I am by their lack of enthusiasm. I think I'll just ignore them and get on with it, at least they're not telling me I'm doing everything wrong Smiley smile

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