Rant....Rsvps :-(

We have one week to go to the deadline and only 5 replies from 60 invites so far!! Grrrr!

Really hoping I get a lot of post this week!

It's driving me potty too. Our are due back on Saturday and we gave about 26 outstanding, and were moving on Friday. Oh says if they're not back on time they ain't coming, end of. I don't think it will be that simple. Lol

Thing is id never stress someone else out like that knowing they have enough to do. I have a backup list as well if people say no so god knows how long they will take. How long do u give them for replies?

When's your deadline date Katie? I notice that your wedding isn't until October, and if you only sent them out a month ago it may well be that they've got tucked away somewhere without people even taking note of the date for RSVPs assuming they still have a fair amount of time to reply. Maybe a quick email around the deadline date with a gentle reminder will help.

Our invitations went out months ago and RSVPs are due back on 31st May. Tbh, the vast majority of people haven't sent us any 'official' response - I did get a bit impatient a week or so ago and start chasing up - I think, in hindsight, I should have asked for replies a bit sooner

Another thing that's annoying me is if people don't reply till late saying they can't come, I can't then invite someone else as the rsvp date will have passed and it will be pretty clear they were a reserve. Ehat can you do in that case?

I've been honest with people that they are a reserve n no one has minded..so far. Ou wedding is only 50 daytime all family so if someone drops out it means we can invite friends n they are happy they are invited.

My weddings October but need to know food choices n places for buses so that's why sent early. Got to send evening invites out in July, just hope the daytime people are sorted by then :-(

We are waiting for 8 people to respond, 5 all from one family and I find it frustrating! In regards to "upgrading" guests we just said some family members are unable to attend so would they like to attend all day rather than just evening.

Ours was the 16th of this month, we're still waiting for half of them to come back and they even had a stamped addressed envelope. We've had 2 people tell us verbally that they're coming but we just want the RSVP back as it's the playlist too. It's a simple request really

Just to add regarding 'upgrades' that we have done the same as others - sent out evening invites initially, but then contacted people by email/fb messaging to say that some family members have been unable to attend, so as we now have space they are welcome to join us for the ceremony too if they wish. I can't see any reason why anyone would mind that.

I was incredibly stressed over this, but OH has PROMISED he will chase up any non-responses…. Our deadline was 25th April…. I have 2 who have not yet replied (one has been in hospital for 3 months, one has just broken up with husband and moved out of the house where all of her things are, so pretty valid excuses for no written response - and both have at least verbally responded)

But, OH has 37 on his side!!! I wanted to make a big display/arty piece out of the RSVPs, but his side don't actually think it is necessary to respond. I have pointed out to him that I am not making a place card until I have that RSVP card in hand, so there will be no seat and no food from them if they don't reply!

I just don't get why it is so difficult to send back a piece of paper?! Especially, in our case, where we put stamps on all of the reply cards!

But I have had this rant before, so, good luck to you getting yours back, it's apparently a tricky and long process!

Same problems here! People are absolutely crap at replying! Your ever coming or not!!!! This is the only thing that's stressed me out. Well so far!

Arrrrgggghhhhhh!!!!!!

Here is what you could do:

Send a message via facebook to all of guests who havent rsvp'd, telling them when they have a week left before the deadline. Just a gentle reminder, nothing too demanding, and it will jog their memory. To be honest I am the forgetful type... I am a tw*t when it comes to those things...a brain like a seive... So I would welcome the bride giving me the reminder, as I would make that a priority to meet the deadline. :-)

A friend of mine went on Facebook a few days before and actually tagged those who hadn't RSVP'd saying 'the deadline is Friday for me to give food options to the venue, if you don't let me have your RSVP back by then I'm sorry but no seat and no food!'.

I laughed at her balls but god did it work!! Lol

Well this morning I've sent reminder texts and Facebook messages to the people still waiting for replies from. Deadline of Friday or I'll assume they arent coming and will invite others. My partner fully agreed with me, as all replies we are waiting for are his family. So let's see what happens come Friday x

The most annoying thing, is that the friends of mine who haven't RSVP'd (6 weeks ago the invites were sent) are the ones who have planned a wedding themselves! so they should know better. It's so annoying. And actually I think it's pretty rude.

You'll get people that wont reply at all. We had to chase about 10 sets of people on the last RSVP date. As for inviting replacements, we didnt send the evening invites until after the day ones, so we could bump people up without them knowing. But just be honest and tell them if you can do that, I'm sure most people will understand the difficulties.

I have to say most of our guests have been pretty good, sent our invites out on 22nd April and are now only waiting on 12 replies with a guest list of 70. The date on the rsvp for people to reply is 16th June - the day I come back from my hen do so they have just over 2 weeks left!

Kate

xx

I found this too. Ours were sent out well over a month before the deadline, we have a few back in the first week, but then pretty much everyone else sent it in the last week. We didn't have a single one from the OH's family though. Even though we'd put our address and my email address on the invite his side of the family sent them all back to his mother. Trouble was she was keeping them and not letting us know who was going. I saw the stash of them she had when we went to visit last. I'm not precious about them and don't really need to keep them, but I thought it was rude that she hadn't even asked me if I wanted them!!

We included addressed envelopes with ours and also the option to RSVP on the website. Most people were really, really good and we received some very quickly but our deadline was 10th may and I'm still waiting for about 4. I start to worry if people even received the invite in the first place!

We have music requests and dietary requirements on ours too so I just want some sort of record of veggies/coeliacs/lactose intolerance etc etc before any disasters happen!

I remember this from our wedding last year it was very frustrating. Luckily we'd had a website set up using gettingmarried.co.uk and we'd asked our guests in the invite to RSVP using the website as well as choose their menu. So it meant we could use the excuse of the hotel needs to know their menu choices rather than just going "Oi! Where's our RSVP!" ?

Well I can't complain after this week of chasing n moaning I got all by 1 back and the 1 is the best man who thinks its funny to be the last, men eh!

But I now have 4 spaces free to invite friends so not sure how long to give them? Prob just explain the suitation n hope they can tell me there and then.

Feeling slightly less stressed....what's next to stress me out lol

Know how you feel!

We're had our tiny number of 20 daytime guests drop to 18 last minute and a few have now decided to drop out the evening.

We had to chase a few people up and they said they're definitely coming and I was thinking to myself "when were you going to tell me" ?

Now we have OH's mum saying she's asked her OH's mum and dad to the reception without asking us first and a couple of people who already have a plus 1 asking to bring friends!

I'm just putting it down to people not realising how important a wedding is til planning your own and no one will care about it as much as we do...trying not to stress over it and go with the flow haha!