Really at the end of my tether!!!! Rant alert!

You sound like me i love crips and biscites i cant stand veg i could eat C***p all day longe i have hated the way i look for so long but i have just come across the Dukan diet and it the best diet i have ever been on. In 3 days i have lost 5lbs iam on my 4th day now and finding it really easy i have tryed every diet there is but never been good at sticking to them.

Ive litrally just signed up to this and have no idea what im doing..but I just got engaged on christmas eve and need to lose alot of weight!! you sound the same as I am - my fiance is a fitness freak and has no problems with food...drives me insane!! want to do something together?

Oh, it is not easy job. But that is your wedding and to be yourself?

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Hi there Roxydavey, thanks for replying to my very long-winded post! Congratulations on your engagement!! Might be too soon, but are you thinking of a date yet? Yes, it IS annyoying when our partners have no trouble with food - my partner told me he lost half a stone without trying last night, GRRRR! Yes I'd love to do something together, how about a weekly weight in where we must be honest of how much we've gained/lost - that'll definately motivate I would have thought! x

Wifey, you talk a lot in your post about all the reasons why you can't lose weight, and that if you did you would be setting yourself up for failure as you wouldn't be able to maintain it. I think half the battle would be changing your mindset - losing weight sucks at the best of times, all the more so if you start out thinking it's pointless cause you're always going to be big. You really don't have to be, anyone can change their behaviours and patterns to make permanent differences. When you talk about food being addictive I so know what you mean, but it's possible to break the addiction - supposedly it takes 3 weeks for a pattern of positive behaviour to replace a negative one. I'm not saying it's easy - if it were everyone would be the weight they wanted to be, but it is definitely do-able, so if you really want to then go for it!

One of my biggest pieces of advice would be to sign up for a food logging website like www.foodfocus.co.uk, which is a website where you input your current weight/height/lifestyle and it tells you how many calories you should eat each day based on how quickly you want to lose the weight. You then log everything you eat and all your activity - if you stick to the guidelines you should lose weight. Shimples! The site is a bit tedious at first as you have to weigh and possibly enter the data from scratch for all the foods you eat, but worth it if you currently have no clear view on how much you eat and should be eating. It's very easy to underestimate your calories, and this stops you from doing that. (I don't work for the site by the way, I just think it's fab!) There are lots of sites out there which do the same thing, this one is the best as it's free, big plus, and also UK based, so all the foods are uk ones and from UK supermarkets - way easier to use than US based ones. Oh - and cleaning the house counts as an exercise, and you can log calories burnt from it. :-)

Food wise, you should probably try to add some fruits or veggies in there if you can as they bulk out meals and stop you feeling so deprived - you could try hiding them in foods kid stylee if you really can't eat them solo - finely grated carrot, courgette or chopped peppers can sneak into bolognaise without you really noticing them. If you really can't it's not the end of the world but it does make keeping the cals down harder. And you should possibly think about a multivitamin to make sure you're getting all the essentials.

Exercise takes a while to get used to - if you up your activity you will probably feel more tired for a while, but you do get used to it - it really helps when trying to lose weight as it keeps your metabolism going better than just cutting calories, especially weight training. If you've got enough room in your living room a dvd like Jillian Micheal's 30 day shred is really good for a quick (25 min) cardio and weight workout. You absolutely will ache the first few times you do it as it's really hard, but it does get easier. It's about a tenner on Amazon and you don't need anything except hand weights, but a litre bottle of water in each hand would work at a pusd. And 25 minutes a day isn't too much to find if you really want to make a difference. If you can find a way to slot exercise into your daily life, such as cycling or walking to work it stops it being so much of a chore and makes it feel less like exercise. Really obvious I know, but it makes a huge difference. Over the summer I cycled to and from work each day - 12 miles a day and lost a stone. Over the big freeze I haven't (too dangerous) and have eaten stodge and mince pies and put on half a stone in a month. It really does make a difference...

Reading that back it sounded a bit preachy and wasn't intended to at all - I know exactly where you're coming from with most of what you say (except the house cleaning bit - my new year's resolution is to be tidier!) so I'm not saying this out of anything except good intentions, but sit down and have a long think about whether you really want to do this, and if so, stop making excuses, give yourself a kick up the bum, and do it! Good luck. :-)

Hi Spikeygoodness, thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. I don't think you sounded preachy - if anything I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and need a wake-up call! I will definately try the food focus website - it sounds quite easy to do from what you have said - and I tend to eat more than I am aware of, I'm sure of it, so that would definately help! In regards to exercise, I can definately manage 30 mins a day. I just didnt think 30 mins was enough to see results, but I am very impatient and if I didn't see results I'd quit!! But if I sort the food AND the exercise, I should be well on my way!

Thanks for all your advice xx

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Hi there,

You are absolutely not alone with how you're feeling. I think weight issues are probably one of the most gut-wrenching (pun intended) internal and external issues that the majority of people have whether or not they admit it.

It sounds to me like your problem isn't really a physical one but psychological also. You mentioned that you need food - like it's a drug... maybe it's some kind of dependency issue that you're dealing with that is causing your weight issues. Just a thought. Of course, I don't mean to offend because I am just making a superficial judgement based on one post.

What I can say though is that maybe another option is to go get some therapy from a doctor as well as work out. By addressing these two issues, it really might make you feel better about getting healthier and that will make getting healthier easier, no?

Best Wishes on your wedding!

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Hi Lauren, I just think that there is so much going on in your life right now that when it comes to your weight loss efforts you are often overwhelmed by what to actually do!! well, let me see if i can help in anyway - I’ll often meet clients who are interested in losing fat and decide that they will start daily cardio, weight train four times per week, eat six small meals, cut calories by 20% and reduce their carb intake etc this is more like analysis by paralysis - too much is going on! no wonder people falter at the first hurdle.

These are great goals — but most people are trying to do too much at once. The solution to this is to use the goal approach we use at results weight loss. Here’s how to do it:

1) List five or six behaviors you need to improve or change to reach your goals. What do you need to be doing that you’re not doing? What bad habits do you need to kick? What good habits do you need to instill?

2) List these things from easiest to hardest.

3) “Maintain” all your other goals and focus your attention on the first thing on your list (the easiest one.) Spend two weeks just focusing on achieving that goal so that it becomes a habit.

4) Once that change has been made and ingrained, move up to the next item on your list and focus your efforts there.

5) One by one, knock out these changes and/or goals.

For example: Maybe you sleep late. First goal might be to get up 30 mins earlier every day.
Second goal might be to go to the gym as soon as you wake up – and go four times a week instead of three.
Third goal may be to make sure you always eat breakfast.
Fourth goal? Reduce portion sizes at 3 out of 5 meals…and so on.

So in 10 weeks or so – you’re getting up earlier – never missing a workout, have done an extra ten workouts, and eaten breakfast everyday (which is a key factor in fat loss) while consuming less calories overall. These smaller goals will mount into a bigger overall effect with long-term success whereas trying to do all things at once would likely result in short term failure.

I hope this helps.

Joe

It was mentioned in a previous post but a online community or at least keeping yourself accountable with a friend etc and this can be done very easily on this forum or even on our free community at www.resultsweightlosscommunity.ning.com

Hi Spikeygoodness (and all), I wanted to give you an update as I am so proud of myself - I have lost 4.5LBS THIS WEEK!!! I finally got my bum into gear and looked on www.foodfocus.co.uk as per your suggestion, and its SO easy to use - I won't go on and on about my week but I have been eating what I want but just smaller portions and making sure I don't go over my calorie intake for the day! Also doing exercise just to add it on the spreadsheet, I can even burn calories whilst doing the housework! I am amazed that I lost so much in my first week, but it just shows I need to lose weight as it was so easy!! But just wanted to say to others out there to try it because i've only been on it a week and my belly is disappearing so thank you Spikeygoodness, you've made my day (or week!!) xxx

Yay! Very well done on the weight loss, that's awesome news. I'm really glad the website has been useful - I bang on about it to anyone who will listen, so it's great that you're liking it as much as I do. It sounds like you've had a much better week than me too - I had friends round for dinner last night, and had rather too much to drink. And then ate the remainder of the Christmas chocolate. Bad Laura...

Keep up the good work. :-)

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