Relative Problem - HELP!!!

She'll have to be satisfied with that. If you make and exeption for one, then you'll have more relatives/friends asking.

Stick to your guns! It'll save you hassle in the long run!

Tough t!ts. Its YOUR day YOUR cash and shes going to have to accept that the remaining of your family will all be there in the evening and shes no different. Make her see the implications; invite her invite othrs, invite your OHS side and bang goes your small intimate wedding.......

your mums gonna support you on this by the sound of things..... stand strong!

I agree with Ali. Once you say yes to just 1 more person, it can easily spiral to lots more. She'll just have to be satisfied with that. I would explain to her that you are just having immediate family & close friends to the ceremony.

Definitely stick to your guns! ?

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She'll just have to be satisfied with it. With only 11 people it's obvious there'll be no more than immediate family there, it's not like your having 50 and not inviting her.

Stick to your guns.

We have had someone say they're not coming unless someone else is invited so neither of them are coming now.

Perhaps you Mum can explain how small it is and it's not just you Auntie who's only being invited to the evening reception.

Exception not exeption. Sorry - I can't stand poor spelling.

I'd tell her to like it or lump it!

So many people seem to have problems like this and I just can't understand how some relatives can be so rude and demanding when it comes to weddings. Stick to your guns girl. After all, she's not the one paying is she!

Same as everyone else said, but.............

We are limited on people coming to meal but I am letting any evening people attend the church if they wish to, as long as they understand they can't come to the meal and will either have to go home or go somewhere else till the evening.

That's a lovely idea...

....just have to hope that the complaining Auntie doesn't decide to "tag along," plonk herself on a seat and stay for the meal, out of "not being invited to the whole shinanigan" spite!

Yeah, thats what I thought!! She would definitely do that!!

We are having a similar sized wedding to you; 13 to the ceremony, 50 to the meal after then another 20 or so for the evening. Reason being my OH doesn't 'know' my extended family (although has met them all - once or twice). He quite rightly says that the ceremony is an intensely personal experience and why would he won't folk there that he doesn't know.

Don't think my Mum has told my uncles and aunts yet, but she did question why some of our closest friends would be attending as well as immediate family, saying my uncles might wonder why 'strangers' would be there but not them!

Well, they're not strangers to us, in fact they are central to our lives in a way that my uncles and aunts aren't, if anything my extended family are strangers to my OH. I do hope it doesn't kick off, especially as we're having them all to the meal and can't say it's due to costs.

Let us know how you get on - have a feeling I'll be dealing with this soon.

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Defo stick to your original plan. We had the same problem and in the end decided to invite all aunts and uncles which turned our guest list from around 10 to a total of 34!

Your Aunt should understand and I'm sure she will...eventually. She might have thought others were invited and she wasn't

You have the day you want.

x

I agree with everyone else. I guess you've just gotta try to explain to her that you are limited with numbers due to the cost. Simple as that. If she was a close relative then you would have invited her to the whole day.

I keep in touch with one of my cousins who I was BM for when I was about 12 and am inviting her, along with her mum and dad, to the whole day. Her two brothers on the otherhand are only getting evening invites simply because of numbers and the fact that I haven't actually spoken to them since their sister's wedding in 1996! I have had mixed feelings about this ranging from feeling really bad and guilty for not inviting them to thinking that I can't please everyone and if I'm not in contact with them then why should they come to the whole day and take up spaces for our close friends and family.

Stick to your guns - you have to do what you want.

this is a fair point. you (or your mum) need to explain to your aunt that it's a VERY small ceremony, and that only those people will be coming. you don't necessarily need to mention the meal.... stick to your guns, and make sure you get your mum on side with unwavering support too! sounds likes she's doing just the thing, which is great.

What everyone else said really....Stick to your guns and don't make an exception or else it will snowball!

Thanks everyone, we're sticking to our guns and if she doesn't like it, then she doesn;t have to come at all! I haven't seen her for 10 years and my Partner hasn't even met her, so it's not as though we're going to miss her!

Thanks x

What is it about weddings that makes people expect to be invited, stick to your guns