Religion....

See Henry VIII and the split of C of E from Catholicism if you want a reason as to why Catholics might not like Anglicans

Technically the Catholic church doesn't recognise the Church of England as a religion so therefore wouldn't recognise your OH's religion even if he was christened CofE.

I'd give the Catholic church you are considering getting married in a call to ask.

Only one of you needs to be catholic, my mom and dad married in a catholic church and my dad isnt religious or christened and this was okay, You should have a word with the priest because it depends on the priest.

Also as a catholic myself with a catholic family they wouldnt be to impressed if i chose a church which wasnt catholic. Good luck though, xx xx

Hahaha- 500 years ago?! I do love the Catholics! And I do have Irish routes so, I don't know perhaps all of 'the troubles' are still raw?

I guess that is true MrsA, although I really had underestimated my dad's religion, to meet him you would stuggle to believe that he is even vaguely religious. Tbh I have no idea of the depth's of his beliefs so perhaps a nice open chat with the priest is in order

Kayels, did they have a full nuputial mass? Thank you for your help XXX

I think you do need to be very careful and speak to your dad ASAP.

I havent been brought-up anything, and am now an atheist RE teacher, who is having a civil service in a catholic monastery (love contradictions)

Rites of passage are a huge marker in a persons life, but this could have implications in the future. My friend got married in catholic church, she had been baptised but wasnt catholic, they didnt have full mass (most guests wouldnt have appreciated it) but part of the agreement were here children being baptised catholic.

My gran was catholic and when it comes down to it people will stick to what they know....she had last rites even though she hadnt been to mass/confession since her own mother died.

I'd say you need to speak to the priest to see where they stand, my uncle's wife is Catholic and for them to get married he converted to Catholicism and was baptised, this was a few years ago though so they might be a bit more flexible now.

Well I don't know why your dad is so against C of E, other than him being Catholic. As for marrying in a catholic church, its doable. My OH is a baptised catholic, I wa snever Christened or anything so technically have no religion.

We are marrying in a catholic church, our priest is requesting permission from the diocease for us to marry, I had to complete some forms to say I would raise my children in a catholic manner etc, which I am more than happy with, but as long as he is free to marry, it shouldn't be a problem. Unless of course he doesn't want to go against his religion and marry ina catholic church?

The best thing I could suggest would be to have a chat with the Catholic priest. I am CofE and my OH is Catholic, and which church we got married in was a bit of a sticking point for a while. We are getting married in a CofE church, but went to speak to the Catholic priest as it was important for my OH that we did what was necessary to make it valid in the catholic church. I was expecting him to be very doctrinal about loads of stuff that needs doing, but he was a lovely approachable man who sat and talked us through loads of options, and was so much more flexible than my internet research into Catholicism had suggested. I would guess that in some ways, the answers you get will be determined by the personality of the priest, so if you sit down and talk to him you'll be able to get an idea about whether the requirements he needs in place are going to be acceptable to you both.

Good luck!

I'm getting married in a Catholic church but me and OH are both Catholic and attend regularly. My understanding is both of you need to be Catholic to have a nuptual mass but can get married there if only one has been baptised. The prep lessons focus on promising to bring up your children in the Catholic faith

Again think its down to the discretion of the priest...

Good luck with your dad. My dad was really upset when my brother got my nephew christened C of E (all of us having been brought up Catholic and him now getting married in Vegas) however it meant a lot to my brother to get him christened the same faith as his gf so my dad just got on with it!! Hope you work something out!

Thank you all for your help, am going to have a word with Dad at the weekend and sort a time that we can all go see the priest together. H2b has also agreed to go to mass on Sunday to see that it's not really all that scary!

You've all made me and h2b feel so much better about the whole situation. X