Remember loved ones, who can't be with you, on your special day

First off im so sorry about your losses.

I want to remember members of my family so im having a candle for every flame that has gone out. also wearing something that belonged to them on the day, even if people cant see it.

Sorry for your losses lovely

is there anything of your nephews and brothers you could wear or encorporate into your bouquet or something.....even if its just a keyring they had or a piece of jewelery, i like the idea of the candles though, very nice

Im wearing my nanas charm bracelet, my great grandmothers pearls and carrying the crown my uncle carried on his wedding day inb my shoe.

were having the candles in the church, but also having a remembrance table with candles on with lavender

My uncle died a few days before our wedding, he had been diagnosed with cancer only three weeks before so it was very unexpected and hard for us. My OH had lost his niece and grannny the previous year. We asked the vicar to light a candle at the start of the service in memory of my uncle and in his speech my OH mentioned those who couldn't be with us and said our thoughts and love were with my aunt and cousins (who didn't make the wedding).

We also had a family tree which was A0 size and up on display in the reception room. This let us show photos of those we had lost and photos of our family who were there and how we connected to each other. Lots of people commented on how nice it was and there were always a few people looking at it all night. It looked like this; (i've hidden our names)

I am going to attach a couple of picture lockets to my bouquet, something like the link below...

https://www.charmsupplies.co.uk/picture-frame-bouquet-charm

I have another link at home to a website where the locket is cheaper. PM if you want it, I am on my work computer at the min.

Hi, im very sorry for your losses

i read on here i think it was of a lady that sewed pictures of loved ones who could not be at the wedding in the bottom layers of her wedding dress tht way they walked everywhere with her xx

First of all, sorry for your loss. I love the idea of the hymn in church.

I have lost 3 grandparents over the last 3 years. My OH didn't know 3 of his as they died before he was born. We are asking our florist to create 6 extra small flower arrangements about the size of a button hole and we are attaching small ivory tags to them each with their first name on. These flowers will be laid on the cake table of our reception. I don't think we are going to tell our guests about them, maybe just our parents and surviving Nans, it's more something for us.

You can get bouquet charms that are little lockets for you to have a photo of loved ones hanging from your bouquet. Usually quite cheap off websites like Folksy and Etsy.

I have seen people have picture frames with their loved ones in hanging from the end of the pews with coloured ribbon and it looks beautiful and very personal.

Hope you find a way that means a lot to you on your wedding day x

I am really sorry for your loss. We have both lost grandparents over the years who we know would have loved to have been there so we are having next to the cake table our favourite pictures of them so they are with us.

I love the idea of the flower arrangements.

Hi I'm so sorry for your loses.

I am looking at having a charm locket attached to my bouquet with a picture of both sets of grandparents. I never really knew my dads parents as was very young when they died, However at my sisters wedding 3 years ago my dad mentioned in his speech about my mums mother who died months earlier, which my dads siblings took offence too and started an argument even though their parents died like 20 years earlier. (pathetic i know)

and so to prevent this happening again i said i would have a picture of both at mine that way they won't be mentioned in any speeches but still there if anyone does have something to say.

Just sounds all childish to me but i had chosen to do this anyway.

don't you just love weddings

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I lost my beautiful grandma in May this year and I am getting married in December....It is devestating not to have her with me on the day as we are a really small and close family, we did everything together and I am still not sure how I will cope without her on the day! It will be very emotional that is for certain.....For our favours I have made a donation to Dementia UK in loving memory of her and will have a little card with the pins for each guest and I will be wearing her pearls as well....My mum is giving me away and may mention her in her speech if she is not too emotional and if she cannot do it then my H2B will do it in his....so sorry for your loss but I am sure you will remember them fondly on the day whatever you do and your nephew will be right beside you, I am sure of that xx

This is what we're doing, except for Cancer Research as my grandmother and OHs grandfather both died of cancer and both were very important people in our respective close knit families. We are dedicating the donation to them and having "Mr & Mrs Mc have a made a donation to Cancer Research in loving memory of xx and xx who are both in our thoughts on our special day" printed on the cards.

I'm also having an "absent friends" toast, which will mean something different to everyone there which is nice. I was hoping to wear my grandmothers eternity ring as its old and blue, but doesn't fit, perhaps try to find a way to incorporate it in my bouquet though xx

I think the hymn idea is really nice.

We picked one of our hymns because it was my grandad's favourite, was sung at his funeral and at my grandparents' wedding.

Sorry to hear about your brother and nephew ?

Firstly, I am so sorry for your losses. No child should have to battle cancer, it's heartbreaking.

I think the hymn is a beautiful idea. I also like the idea of the candles and the absent friends toast. We have lost several family members between us over the years who we would have loved to be able to share our special day with, there are too many to name and some have been lost years ago, others more recently, so there will be a general mention in the speech about "those special people who couldn't be with us today".