Remembering my mum

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your mum but by the sound of it, she will definitely be with you on your special day in some shape or form.

If you will be holding a bouquet of flowers, you could have some fabric or lace (if you have any) from any of your mums clothes and have this wrapped around your bouquet stems. You could also have a photo frame of your mum on the top table, so she still has her place there. Something we like to do to remember our lost ones, is let off a sky lantern.

I will also be having a blue heart stitched into the insides of my dress, which is from one of my Grandad's shirts - perhaps something similar too? xx

Thanks hun. Sky lantern sounds good xx

Sorry to hear that your Mum won't be physically with you, although it sounds like her presence will be very much a part of the day.

Can I say that sky lanterns aren't very environmentally-friendly. They set fire to things and cause havoc in fields. Perhaps you could think about lighting a candle at the renewal, or having one lit before dinner?

How about naming a star after your Mum and displaying a star map somewhere, with it marked out?

Oohh i like the star idea. Thanks for that xx

So sorry about the loss of your mum.

Some of my brides have tied a locket around the bottom of their flowers with a picture of their Mum/Grandparents in.

I am sorry to hear the sad news about your Mum, but I think she will be looking down as thrilled as sixpence that you are bringing her into your day!

I like the suggestions that have already been made about using some fabric from one of her favourite outfits in your dress, or even a piece of her jewellery in your bouquet.

I like the mentions of her in your speeches too. If you are having favours, is there a charity that she would particularly support? Could you include a photograph of her on the table by your guest book, or somewhere else that people can take a moment to notice it and remember her?

I think it is nice to just do a few private things that you and your mum will know about, like the fabric or a piece of jewellery, and I think it is a good idea to keep things positive so that your thoughts stay happy on the day and not sad ones, she will know that you are remembering her (well that is what I believe, anyway) and I don't think you need to think of a lot of public things. Just my opinion.

xxx

Sorry to hear you lost your Mum in Feb hugs.

I lost my mum 5 years ago and will be remembering her by having a picture locket attached to my bouquet, daffodils (her fave flowers) as part of our centrepiece and a thank you (hopefully in my speech if I manage to do it). I know people will think the thank you is unusual as she has passed away but she deserves it. Hope that makes sense and it helps xxx

Hi chick sorry for your news. We are remembering my OHs mum by way of giving poppy seeds favours as they were her favourite flowers. I have put in a little card with each favour explaining the reasons for our choice. How about you give forget-me-not seeds? Not only are they a lasting, living tribute to your mum but they are blue too! Xx

I lost my Dad some years ago and am going to have my Dad's pictures tied to my bouquet. I'm trying different things to see which I prefer-have got a couple of mourning broaches and also a open locket. My friend has also said that she's going to put my Dad's picture into a cabochan (think thats spelt right).

I've thought about a candle being lit, but I don't know if guest will find this off putting?

Hi,

Sorry to hear about your mum.

I think your plans so far sound so lovely.. brought a tear to my eye.

A photo of your mum in a locket tied in to your bouquet would be really nice or sewn in to your dress so she's extra close to you all day.

Best wishes.

If they are the same as Chinese lanterns, then the RSPCA formally disapprove of sky lanterns because of the threat they pose to wildlife. One hitcher on another thread reported that a farmer friend lost his entire hay crop because of a Chinese lantern too. They are pretty but worth making an informed decision I thought.

I sadly lost my dad 19 years ago (will be 20 years when we get married), i was only 12 and i'm trying to find things to included in my day so my dad will be there were he should be, unfortunately i really struggling but i am going to play a song that reminds me of him after our first dance but no matter what i know that he'll be there walking down that isle with me and partying the night away with us, as long as your mum is there in your heart and in your thoughts you'll be remembering her xx

Shelly I just saw this and thought of you, tell me if the link doesn't work! I hope you like it, i thought it was sweet. Took me ages to refind this thread!

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Sorry for being stupid, but how does that work exactly? Do you mean like a locket necklace hanging from the bouquet? My dad died 5 years ago so it would be nice to have a way of somehow feeling like he's involved in the wedding. I'm not quite sure how to go about it though.

**Wipes away tears so I can see what im typing!**

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss! I love the idea of the jewellery from her ashes I think thats a beautiful tribute (Ive been looking into this for many years now) I lost my Mum 6 yrs ago when I was 15, so I understand how hard planning a wedding is without them (I was very close to my Mum). I have also been thinking of ways to remember her on our wedding day not just for me but for my 2 children (currently 2 and 8months) who obviously she never got to meet! Ive ordered a lovely little locket for my bouquet already and we are walking back up the aisle to "Let your love flow" by the Bellamy Brothers (this is being kept a secret from everyone though) she loved this song and she wanted people to remember her for " letting her love flow". My brother got married 2 yrs ago and their registrar recommended having a personalized pillar candle (i think they got theirs off ebay, and it had a special little poem on) and she mentioned this during the ceremony, it was truly beautiful and fitting and the candle remained lit all day. We are also thinking of doing something similar to this.We are also going to have a sweetie buffet and are planning on going down to the local Macmillan (these are the people who gave her pallative care in her last days) and asking them for one of their fundraising kit type things so we can have a little collection box on the sweetie buffet table with a little message/card explaining why its there and if people would like to donate then they can and if not they don't have to. I just thought this was quite a nice idea and I like the idea of giving something back.

I know people may say its your day and not to dwell (thats probably the wrong word, but people should know what i mean) but I for one wouldn't feel right not mentioning her and not remembering her or including her on our special day, as after all its not her choice not to be there. I think what Im trying to say is if it makes people feel uneasy or its not to their taste, Tough! I will be proud to have all the special little touches relating to her on my day, it will make it even more special!

Sorry if ive waffled on! I hope this makes some sense and helps you or someone!

XXX