Renew my vows

Hi,

I guess how you do it depends on your reasons for renewing? If it's because you feel you didn't have things you wanted last time, I'd go all out (budget dependent). If due to some time apart, seperation, or re-commitment, I might be inclined to go small and intimate. Being nosey and you dont have to answer at all but why is it you'd like to renew your vows? As someone in the midst of planning, I have 0 intention to ever have to plan an event like this again and also see my vows as "this is it" and therefore dont feel a need to repeat them. I guess I dont know how I'll feel in a few years x

OK, my opinion...

Vow renewals are all well and good, and are especially nice of the couple have been through tough times. However, I really dislike the American trend of having another wedding, wife in huge white dress, etc etc. I think in your situation, depending on your beliefs, I'd be inclined to have an outdoor humanist ceremony followed by a big barbecue, wife in pretty summer dress with flowers etc, or church blessing before everyone decamps to village pub for food, drink and catching up, with wife in push frock. Note I say wife, since you are celebrating the fact that you are his wife, and that your marriage has lasted, not marrying again.

I'm not such a fan of vow renewals, since the vows made in church are forever promises anyway. I'd go for an anniversary party with some pretty speeches from people who were at the wedding, ane perhaps you and your H saying what you mean to one another and your happiest memories.

Our past 5 years have been far from easy, husband suffers with a mental illness and at times, I don't know how I have remained sane, let alone fell in love with each other alot more deeply. But we have and we want to share it with our friends and family a second time. This time it will be alot more special with words written by ourselves. Our wedding was done in a rush, has his mothers stamp all over it and ended in a very bad way. In our minds we know we should have waited and done things our way but hindsight is a wonderful thing.

I particularly like the idea of an anniversary party ? We hadn't thought of that.

I didn't want the whole 'wedding' day thing, slightly lower key is fine. We are not asking for any money or presents, just that everyone shares our special day and eat plenty!

I think if I ever renew my vows in future, I'd skip off abroad and do it on a beach, nice and intimate. I wanted a beach wedding but because a lot of our friends and family wouldn't be able to afford to come we're doing a UK wedding instead.

If you didn't have the wedding you want, I think it's a nice idea to incorporate some of the things you wanted into your renewal.

Thank you MrsMain2B ?

that was another idea!!!

In that case CAT1 I think you shouldn't ask us (mean it in a nice way), and this time just do totally and utterly what yiu both want. Best of luck!

If it was me renewing vows, which I don't plan on doing when we are married but who knows how we'll feel in years to come..i'd have a small intimate day, either a day just both of you..maybe abroad or something, or just close family and friends with no fuss and just cosy. Or have an anniversary party as someone suggested, but if its the vows you really want to renew then as I say i'd like to keep it small and not do the big wedding day type thing
However I love small cosy weddings anyway and mine is having not many guests at all (20 day & 30 extra evening) so that could just be me
It's about you & hubby so i'm sure you'll both make the right decision for you, do what you both want and feel is right

I think that sounds lovely actually. You've obviously had some tougher times since you got married and renewing your vows now with your own words and feelings is a lovely way of letting your friends and family (and most importantly each other!) know that you're even stronger than you were 10 years before.

I'd probably keep it fairly low key as well - with just those people who were really important to me, but use the opportunity to really make it yours and your husbands day - no-one elses. Make it a day to remember! And just think of all that lovely planning that you get to do over the next few years!

I love this idea!

Trish2014, ? Ahh thank you for understanding me. Its hard for people that haven't yet been married to say they would never re-new their vows as they haven't had the marriage years under their belts so to speak. I never married my husband expecting to re-new my vows but I think its a beautiful thing to do especially after hard times. You don't just tell someone you love them once in their life after-all, why should you then only say your vows once!? He's an incredibly special person to me.

Everyone that have taken time to reply have given me so many ideas and thank you all for doing this. After speaking to hubby last night I think we will have a ceremony with the reception that we should of had the first time round. Due to his mum playing up we didn't get any of our cake (the top tier completely disappeared and this has always really upset my hubby) or food. I think he is already looking forward to planning it with me - just the 2 of us ?

I was a bit hasty with the dates though, as the tenth anniversary is actually on a Friday ? so my speech will have to say 'ten years and a day' LOL

Thank you all again ❤️ let the planning begin ?