'request in invitations' take two......

Errrrrrrrrm, hmmmmmmmm errrrrrrm, would probably be my reaction.

We probably would send a picture, but perhaps think you are weirdos. Especially if e were sending a pcture of children (which we don't have).

Emailing pics would be a lot easier, or uploading to a FB guestbook group/wedding website.

Or alternatively ask your TOG to take pictures of all guests during the course of the day/evening, then you have a guest book that leaves space for the guest's picture to be added at a later date?

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yea i think having an option to email the pic over is a good idea and deffo one we could include... some time you can get tunnel vision when it comes to weddings, thank for that suggestion!

my only reservation with the tog idea is that people write everywhere on a guest book and im a bit of a control freak/ocd (something i need to get over) so if it wasnt symmetrical i would panic a little! (i know im very messed up) i did a lot of deliberation over that option.

When we went to a wedding every other page had a post it/note with a caption saying "For us to add your picture later", so that guests could be 'neat' and write it the appropriate place.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!!! pmsl!!!! I know what you mean though, they do tend to look messy.

One tip I would give, is get the guest book out at a set time, then when everyone has signed, put it away. At my first wedding, it did the rounds ALL day, and the drunken, scrawled messages got worse and worse!!

What about having a polaroid camera with the guest book so they can stake a photo there and then and stick it in next to their message?!

we had a wish tree so our guests wrote on luggage tags ans im going to put them in an album next to a photo of the guest from the day!

I am going to add photos to the guest book. I think if I had not met/seen you in a while I would feel funny sending a photo which was taken at a place you weren't at - but that could be one of my odd things. I am using a lot of photos at my wedding and raiding childhood photo albums to get some of the aunts that I don't necessarily have photos off. I will use wedding photos, probably from my photo booth to put next to the messages in my guest book.

What would happen if say a dozen people do not send back a photo? would this not floor the whole plan and waste the efforts of everyone that did?

Also what would happen if people send different sized photos would that not just do your OCD head in?

Me: Oh look, our wedding invitation from born2fly has arrived...

Mr J: Cool.

Me: We have to send them a photo...

Mr J: WTF? A Photo? Why?!

Me: Don't know, doesn't say

Mr J: Well why, can you ask? I hate all my photos, why do they want our photos? I hate weddings, why do we need to send a photo? Please will you ask? They won't use them as place settings will they? Or for a game? FFS! etc etc...

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To be fair, Boy does have issues about photos, but still, you get what I mean!

I like the polaroid idea. You could also have photo props to make it more fun and a bit of a game - moustaches, hats, random props, etc. Maybe chalk message boards for people to hold up in their photos?

I like the idea and i don't think people would mind ...but i think you need to tell people what the pics are for!! i would be wondering what kind of pic to send back (a silly one, a serious one, a posed one etc etc) i think if you just put something along the lines of:

'we are creating a unique guestbook with pictures of all our lovely friends and family to go alongside any messages left on our wedding day. Please send a recent picture back with the RSVP so that we can save you a space in our guestbook. silly pics also welcome!'

but thats just me! i would rather people know what they are sending it for! x

I LOVE the polaroid idea.

Rather than formalise it in the invited, why not gather as many as you can from FB etc, then ask family / friends of those who are missing and see what you can gather up without it having to be requested on the invitation.

I wouldn't mind the request, even if I didn't know what it was for. But I wouldn't mind being told not to wear black either so I don't represent the majority, I just do whatever I'm told!

You can come to my wedding AB... I like compliant guests! ?

I love the idea of putting post-its in the guest book so people know to leave the space. I think I'll do this and hopefully I'll manage to get photos of everyone during the day, it's only a small wedding so shouldn't be too hard.

We are having pictures of all our guests in our card box, I have spent tonight stalking people on facebook and searching through my parents pictures to find photos, I have then gone down a list and ticked people off as I have found a picture of them, the few we cant find we are going to be asking for pictures but we have pretty much been able to get everyone this way.

I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel with someone picking a photo of me from facebook..... I hardly ever upload photos and so the ones on there are all from other people and really aren't the most flattering. I think photos of all the guests is a lovely idea - we're having an instant camera for it. I guess I'd be happier to be asked so that I could select a nice photo myself. (As you might guess, I hate having my photo taken!)

I have gone for people profile pictures as much as possible, figure that if they put them on as there display picture then they must quite like them.

That makes sense - although my picture is a hat, rather than me..... I'd be one of the guests that would be awkward for you!!

Sorry i havnt responded in a while i went sick while i was at work and got stuck in a LA hospital, then when i got back got taken to a hosp here aswell i have to say american hospitals beat the NHS hands down in patient care any way... Personally i think the prop thing will be overused by the time my wedding comes around (2014) so i dont want it however i think we will tell them what the pics are for as i can see where people are coming from and it would take me forever to find a pic i dont mind sending in

thanks for all your help hitchers