RMW is getting on my t*ts !!!!!

What did you say?

Sorry for being slow but... What's RMW? ?

RMW is "Rock My Wedding" - its a blog site from a previous B2B from You and Your Wedding called CAOS.

My first post was after they featured a girl getting married in a black dress and everyone was leaving their opinions on the dress and I posted something like "Am I the only one who doesn't like this dress?"

Then yesterday I posted and asked if they could post more modern contemporary weddings, instead of all the vintage / garden / country themes that they feature ALL the time.

Deleted them both!

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That's a bit much!

Sounds like if you are not loving it your thoughts are not welcome!

Have you emailed to ask why??

Well, recalling the sickly sweet CAOS 'wedding report' which turned out to be just her way of flogging her sugary style of 'writing', I'm not surprised that a failure to go 'oooh hun, its stunning' is deemed inappropriate!

Pathetic really. Although believe me, Hitched ain't as 'open' as it used to be!!! Hence The Deadwood being started up!

Mrs SP - how was Hitched different? I've been here for only 6 months but have found it to be far less sickly sweet than the likes of Confetti etc. I post there occasionally but often have to bite my tongue at the saccharine sentiments, the need for constant reassurance and sheer inability to make a decision.

At least here people are more open. It seems to be more of an outlet for people who genuinely want some advice and seems to have a decent community. I'd love to know how it used to be different.

Well i think they rightfully removed the comment about the dress - how would you like it if you posted your report on here and some said that they didnt like the dress?

Other comment no idea why it was removed though....seems like a reasonable request however i think you will be seeing all kinds of weddings coming up with the 4 new Jennys!

As it happens, I really didn't like the black dress, but for the reason mentioned by Shoegal, I wouldn't have made that comment.

Hey CB.... what I meant was that Hitched used to be a lot more - er - to the point and 'open' with its discussions? It was absolutely non-sugary!!

Posters wouldn't go out of their way to be mean to folk on the whole - well, some did I suppose, and there were some god awful threads with pages and pages of quite jaw dropping stuff (I recall many quite hideous threads about those getting sunbed sessions before their big day - evil evil stuff posted ....) and I know people who've really suffered at the 'words' of threads on here. It used to be a real 'tell it how it is' forum. Some brutally honest opinions were abound. But on the whole, it wasn't done to offend, but if you asked for an opinion you got it.

Which is still the case to some degree - we certainly don't do treacle topped discussions on here, but a lot of the old school Hitchers have left after the bosses basically gave us all a telling off and started stipulating what we could and couldn't post, baneed x, y and z blah blah blah.

It did, for a while become as sickly as the likes of confetti because those with opinions didn't feel they could post, and those that were left were fairly insipid in their postings, but I've been away for a while and I have to say it seems to have drifted back towards less sugar, more sense.. which is all good! I haven't seen a 'aw hun thats gorgeous' on any recent posts so far!

But old school hitched was very very hardcore compared to a lot of stomach churning wedding pap forums that simply don't give opinions or have discussions of any real meaning. That 'edge' has been lost on here ...

We also used to be yellow - and then it become purple, which upset a lot of people as it seemed to be very 'confetti' (which has been a long time 'enemy' of Hitched, and in the old days, there were often wars between the two forums!) ... being yellow rocked, and then they changed it ... : (

Totally agree about the similarity of the weddings featured on there - they do look good, but seem all blend in to each other. For some really 'out-there' weddings, I like OffBeat Bride, an American site. Not everything is to my taste, but it's great for making you question traditional ideas about how weddings should be!

Ah, I see. No wonder it can seem a bit 'flat' to you 'old guard' hitchers! I didn't realise there were bannings either. I thought this place was fairly loosely moderated.

Massive HA at the 'Confetti Wars'! Hilarious. I know there are a few Confetti ladies on here too but they are the decent ones! There are a few on there who I just want to bury alive under a pile of favour boxes or something equally as mundane.

I have never understood the point of asking for an opinion if you are essentially just seeking approval. If that's what you want, ask for it, but otherwise be prepared for opinions different to your own. Do you agree/approve/want to be my best friend? ?

Shoegal, it really wouldn't bother me. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion and every dress, shoes etc. etc. is not to everyone's taste. Except for some people, that's obviously all they want to hear. I have replied to a few 'flashes' on here saying, "not really my cup of tea", but no offence has been taken. I think if everyone just posts, "thats lovely, the best thing since sliced bread" all the time, it would be boring.

So you are telling me that once you have brought your dress, got happily married in it and chosen to share your photos with a wedding blog then you wouldnt be a tiny bit upset if someone said they didnt like it.

Its different giving a opinion on a dress when someone hasnt brought the item in question but its a while different story when the dress has been brought and worn on the big day.

And for that reason i can understand why your comment was deleted - If the RMW team allowed people to put comments that may upset the bride then people wouldnt want to submit their weddings on there.

I dont like most wedding dresses i see but i would never tell someone that if they had already brought it and worn it - i would however tell them if they were asking for a opinion before buying.

Tbh I DO find Hitched to be quite a nice fwuffy hugz kinda forum, but that's compared to the other forum I frequent which is Bounty Debates. Apparently we're notorious for being 'biatches' on there! I've never gone on RMW but it doesn't sound my cup of tea. I find it much more useful to have people be frank and honest with me if I have something I need an opinion on.

No, it wouldn't bother me at all. And I wasn't commenting on the dress, I was commenting on the fact it was a black wedding dress.

Isn't that for baby folk, sammyjay? I've not heard of it before. I haven't found any other forums that are easy to navigate that are as open as this one though. I shall be plonking my big bum down here and staying, methinks!

GAH i hate it when people say hitched is fluffy....its not hitched thats fluffy its certain posters that are.

Me too, I tried others but got a bit confused. Before I was engaged, I used to go on YAYW and thought I'd join there once MrFP popped the big one. But, I feel upon Hitched and here I have stayed.

Yeah it's a parenting and pregnancy site, but there's loooooaaads of discussion forums. I found my Due In month forum to be a bit too fluffy, so ended up in the Debates forum instead. Been posting there for a few years now and it's nowhere near as scary as I've heard people say! I still have to be careful to take off my 'Debates hat' before I post here though otherwise I'm really sarcastic and swear too much! ?

Ha, there's nothing wrong with a bit of debating!

People don't seem to be too easily offended on here, as far as I've seen. I shall have to keep an eye out. I suspect I miss a lot that goes on.

Sadly its more fluffy that it used to be, but its not as bad as it WAS post-flounce to DW by the hard core 'old guard'! ?

and its a lot more active than it used to be as well, post-flounce. It absolutely died on its feet for a while.

But your right Shoegal - its not the forum thats fluffy, its what people write thats (sometimes) fluffy...

Why's that, Trickers, hun? Don't you like it, hun?

(It does my head in. I can just about cope with it in real life. Just.)

LOL!

you'd have fitted in with old school hitched perfectly SammyJay!!

Haha, awesome!

Ha ha ha, poor nanna trickers!

I'm afraid I fall in to the category of calling people all sorts of things in real life. Only my close friends and family though. My poor brother has been known as 'Norbert' for approaching the past 15 years and I shall continue to call him that forever.

Mr CB is currently called something food related, which tends to change regularly. Perhaps he's just my dish of the day?! This morning the poor chap went out to work with the words 'have a lovely day, my little three bean cassoulet' ringing in his ears. I blame work stress. That's what I keep telling him anyway!

What a delightfully meandering thread though.

Me too. I never use 'hun' but I use poppet, petal, sweets, pickle, treacle, flower - all in a very tongue in cheek, ironic way. My kids, on the other hand, typically get called beastly, fiendish, monster, stinky, or more commonly Small, Smaller and Smallest. Poor h2b is the worst. Usually he's 'Pancake' which is a mickey take of his surname 'Pancheri' (pronounced Pank-airy) but lately he's been 'my little sea cucumber', 'squashy', and all manner of things. He thinks I'm a raving loony.

*sits in the special corner with sammyjay*

Loving the special corner! lol!

Well, my bloke is .... er ... Bloke. I've not yet come up with a name (or a variety of names) that really suits him. We did try Mungo for a while but it just didn't ... work.

However, I may take inspiration from this post and instead use categories ... garden veg one day, sea creatures the next, then maybe fruits ... moving onto maybe roman emperiors, and then british queens?

"Have a nice day at work, Victoria!"

Hmm, I think I might need to work on this a bit!

That reminds me of my other pet name for h2b - Barbie ? My username on Bounty is KenLee, so seeing as I'm Ken, it makes sense for my other half to be Barbie. That's how I refer to him on there (he's fine with it!) and it's just stuck. His best friend calls him Millhouse though because of his apparent resemblance to The Simpsons' character! Other friends of his just replace his name with various girls names (a la Dr Cox in Scrubs!). Poor boy should have such a complex!

I was here when Hitched was yellow (still miss it a little) I still lurke on DW but haven't posted in ages now I actually have a wedding to plan