RSVP by....?

We sent our invites in November for a May wedding with a January RSVP date.

it's entirely up to you. April sounds fine to me!

We sent ours in July for a December wedding and asked for rsvps by end of october. You just need to leave yourself enough time to chase everyone, cos that WILL happen lol, and to give your venue final numbers xx

I always work backwards; married 18 july. Info had to be in at the hotel for 18 june so evening invites were rsvp for 1st june. leaving 2 weeks to catch up with people. Sent start of May

day invites rsvp for 1st may - so could upgrade evening guests if we wanted. Sent them out mid March i think it was...

day had 8 weeks

eve had 4 weeks

your date of april sounds fine.

OMG I am getting married in July and weren't gonna send my invites out until april after we have had our first meeting with our caterers. I was kinda expecting rsvps back end of may to give final numbers to suppliers in june. Looks like I am well behind.....

OK just seen your post teehee and maybe I don't need to panic as much as I was about too lol our wedding is 18th july so I can just copy you lol

Hehehe there ya go then!!!! glad to have helped

We sent ours out in October 2010, rsvp 1st March 2011, for a September 2011 wedding.

We decided to do it early in case people couldn't make it and had a chance to invite 'group B' if we needed to make up numbers.

Simple principle; if you're already booked for that date then it doesn't matter, and if you aren't then you are now free to come along. Ok, occasionally things happen last minute that mean people have to drop out, but I would hope that they would be few and far between.

I spit in the face of etiquette and tradition. It's our day so we'll do it our way.

In all honesty, there really isn't a "right and wrong" way - you have to do what suits you. If you're anywhere near a bank holiday, easter/christmas/etc or people will be travelling, the more notice they have to look into it and save up if necessary.

I'm 11th June and we're sending our invites out mid-March with an RSVP date of 30th April (I think!) - my final numbers arent needed until 10 days before so that gives me plenty of time to chase people.

HTH

xxx

My wedding in at the end of Feb. Invites went out at the start of Nov with a reply date being six weeks before the wedding. As the replies have been coming in over two months, I've been 'upgrading' as I go.

I think six weeks is plenty time to chase stragglers, put together my table plan and send it over to the venue with my final numbers ?

But as already said, it's really whatever you feel comfortable with!

Getting married 15th July with a 1st June RSVP date and sending them out end of January probably as cant wait anymore ? Im in the camp that six weeks is decent amount of time to finalise table plan etc .

I think it depends when you have to give numbers to the hotel!! Im going to send my invites out by end of Jan for july wedding, put RSVP as 1st May as need to think about budget and numbers with hotel end of may! x

I'm getting married 18th June and have put reply by 1st March on my invitations (due to be sent out end of Jan). I now think this is a bit harsh and I should have put 1st April but it's done now, oh well at least I have loads of time to chase people up!

This is for day invitations, I put reply by 1st May for the evening ones.

Thanks to you all for your replies!! I think I'm going for the 1st April then, on the basis there's always someone to chase!! FutureMrsJ - you're my date twin!

I think it depends too on if you sent out save the dates? I did and would have thought if someone definately couldn't make it then they would have said something by now anyways. But then again I think people have been sure to let us know if they have been able to successfully book time off of work (as it is a weekday wedding) so would have known about any problems before now